Exchange student neglect may lead to reform

During his year as a foreign exchange student in the United States , 18-year-old Carlos Villarreal lived not with a welcoming family, but with two ex-convicts in a seedy house that smelled of dog feces and where the food was labeled ''DO NOT TOUCH.'' He left 14 pounds lighter. Full Story
hotinaz

Prescott, AZ

#1 Jul 17, 2009
It sounds like a very bad situation...but I'm at the other end.
My wife and I had ( yes I said had) hosted exchange students since 1999. One per year. While living with us, the exchange student had their own bedroom, and their own bathroom.
But as each year passed, it seemed like the exchange students got more and more arrogant. I cannot recall one that was sent home for complaining or crying...they were just moved to some other home. Even if it was for something trivial, like they didn't like having a curfew, the organization would move them to another home (where I guess there was no curfew).
My wife and I got tired of being treated like crap in our own home by a foreign high school student, so we're done with the exchange program.
What is sad is that the program costs so much that only rich spoiled brats can sign up to be an exchange student. I'm sure there are other foreign students that would love the opportunity to come to America...see the Grand Canyon and other sites of the southwest. But they just can't afford it.
hotinaz

Prescott, AZ

#2 Jul 17, 2009
One other thing I'd like to vent...the exchange students are told to lie on their application to come to America. They are told that when they fill out their paperwork, they should say they love everything!
We live on a small ranch, have several horses, and we are about a half hour drive from town. We put all this in OUR letter to the exchange organization so that potential exchange students can read about us. We also include photos of our home, the student's bedroom, our horses, etc.
Yet I can't tell you how many times in recent years the exchange student who signs up to come to our place gets to our home and says...is this it? Where's the mall? Where's the disco? Etc. Etc.
The problem is the student is told to lie on their paperwork so that they have a better chance of getting picked by a host family. And unfortunately for the exchange student, we didn't lie on our paperwork.
Sound Reasoning

Allentown, PA

#3 Jul 17, 2009
Not too long ago, some people knocked on my front door, asking if I would take in an exchange student.

With no way, I could think of, of verifying that such was true, I just took the safe route and said "no".

I had no idea that this actually happened, for real. If I had known this was indeed a "homeless" exchange student, I might have actually seriously considered taking him in.
Tom

North Wales, PA

#4 Jul 17, 2009
We used to take them in for anywhere from a month to a school year and treat them like family..unfortunately they show no appriciation for the time and effort so I got smart and stopped taking them!
hotinaz

Rimrock, AZ

#5 Jul 17, 2009
You are right on Tom. We used to keep them for an entire school year. We got girls, since my wife works from home we thought they would have more in common with my wife than with me. We had students from Korea, China, Germany, and a few other European countries. We fed them, gave them a place to stay, bought them Christmas gifts, etc. And if they made it to the end of the year, we would take each student to the Grand Canyon, and Las Vegas. The only student who keeps in contact with us is the student from China. I think she was about student number 4 out of the 9 years we hosted. The last few students we hosted went home within 3 months of being in the U.S.A. They couldn't stand the rules. One girl even showed up with a carton of cigarettes! She couldn't believe that at 16 years old she couldn't smoke. And we told her before she got to us that we did NOT smoke!
The attitude and cooperation of the exchange students has really gotten worse as the years have gone by.
To friendly host

Allentown, PA

#6 Jul 20, 2009
hotinaz wrote:
One other thing I'd like to vent...the exchange students are told to lie on their application to come to America. They are told that when they fill out their paperwork, they should say they love everything!
We live on a small ranch, have several horses, and we are about a half hour drive from town. We put all this in OUR letter to the exchange organization so that potential exchange students can read about us. We also include photos of our home, the student's bedroom, our horses, etc.
Yet I can't tell you how many times in recent years the exchange student who signs up to come to our place gets to our home and says...is this it? Where's the mall? Where's the disco? Etc. Etc.
The problem is the student is told to lie on their paperwork so that they have a better chance of getting picked by a host family. And unfortunately for the exchange student, we didn't lie on our paperwork.
Your plight sounds just like ours to the letter. we too hosted students since 1997 until 2006 we ended it for the same reason you did. the last student we had was a female from France who was very disappointed with us and requested to be moved, but there was no place for her to go, so until Aspect found her a place she made our life as difficult as could be and Aspect did Nothing to help us. She was a spoiled rich kid with maids and service people at home that tended to every need. doing any chores or keep her room neat and clean was way above her and she refused to do anything. I would never give aspect a good rating of any kind. they are terrible at placing kids with like host families they will not render any support for you or the student. you are on your own with aspect.
To friendly host

Allentown, PA

#7 Jul 20, 2009
Oh I forgot to tell you the best part about the French girl, she asked just two weeks after getting here if her 19 year old boyfriend could come and see her.(she was 16) we of course said no it was against the rules and besides we have no room for him to stay. She replied he could sleep with her! I don't have to tell you my answer I'm sure you already know it.
Mizty Wallington

United States

#8 Jul 29, 2009
I do not think that all of you that have hosted really . Thoguht hard about it. WE have never had I bad eschange student. We emailed and phoned them fro months before they came. We told them upfront what our rules were and yes we live in the country shcool is 12 miles away the nearest mall is 1 hour away. Every Sunday was family day church and then an outing. We have hosted 8 students and we still here from all of them. matter of fact we just got back from France where we viisted our very first student we took. So do no think that all Students are bad or all host families are bad. It is what you make it!! Maybe you all neeeded to try a little harder or maybe you are nowq too old for the exchange program.
Mizty Wallington

United States

#9 Jul 29, 2009
By the way every time we hosted with Apsect. They are GREAT and very helpful.
Candy

Spokane, WA

#10 Nov 9, 2009
I am hosting an exchange student, and I think is sooooo arrogant.I am so tired of hearing how stupid things are in America and how dumb students are in this country, stupid this and that. I am tired of her and I still have to put up with her for 7 more months. This is my first and last time to host a student.
Candy

Spokane, WA

#11 Nov 9, 2009
you are so lucky. I don't know what I did wrong.
Mitzy

Salem, OR

#12 Nov 9, 2009
We just treat our students as if they were are own child. This year we have a student from Germany. October was rough, but now everything is great. She is getting straight A's. She helps out at home and is a very happy teenager. Durning October she was feeling culture shock, but we got thru that. Yes she comes from a family with money, but she learned that she had to help out, if she was going to go and do things. I can't wait for another student. We get our students thru Aspect, we got to pick the student we want. Did you get to read their bio letter and a letter about her/him that they wrote and a letter from theirr parents. We did! We also got to email her for 8 months before she arrived. So it was like we knew each other very well. Plus my Apsect corinator is wonderful and and top of any problem that I might have. Try Apect next time!!! Good luck!
Fedup

Newark, NJ

#13 Nov 15, 2009
I DO NOT recommend hosting an Exchange Student at all!!! They are spoiled rotten and I'd they don't like something they start being sneaky and contact the organization and begin the rant of lies to get themselves removed and placed into another home. They don't let up until they get what they want from the organization. These students don't care about the host family at all and spread the rumors that you have to live with long after they are gone! Our current student is mad because he has a curfew of midnight on the weekends and he feels he should be able to stay out late, thinks it's unreasonable that we want to know where he is going and who he will be with! So he contacted the organization to tell them that we are starving him and that the police are at our house daily!!!! We have a stocked pantry, fridge, and freezer not to mention the cops are NOT here at all! Of course he says these lies in school to his clasmates as well, there are parents that think he's in a "horrible situation" when the truth is he's mad because he has a curfew!!!!! If you like playing Russian Roulete by all means maybe you will find that ONE good seed, but if not risk this one person destroying your reputation in your community! Until these organizations start sending these spoils kids back to their countries for there poor behavior the host families will continue to suffer!!!!
Mitzy

Salem, OR

#14 Nov 15, 2009
Then why don't you send him home. My sister is the cordinator for aspect and when they start doing this she sends their butt home!!!!
We have had wonderful kids. So get toough and fight back send his ass home!!! By the way our students also have crfews of midnight on weekends as do our kids and they mnust be home by 9:00. Contact your sechange program and send the kid home...sounds like he needs to see who is the bosss. Sorry you have had such a bad time. Rally not all exchange kids are bad.]
Kayoftexas

Keller, TX

#15 Jun 8, 2013
Exchange students please don't come to Sanger, Texas; every students who has been placed there in the last 4 years has had multiple issues. Sanger High School is not open to exchange students. Each exchange student has suffered, badly.
Many parent have been frighten for their children, before getting them out of there. Exchange students be ware.

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