“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Dec 5, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I'm the proud mother of four beautiful children -- a daughter, a son and 8-year-old twin boys. I am having a hard time getting people to understand that my boys, whom I rarely refer to as "twins," are two separate people! Every year at Christmas some family members buy gifts for our daughter and our eldest son, and then one gift our younger boys are expected to share. Abby, they once received one T-shirt, which was meant for both of them. This also happens on their birthday.

Yes, they share a room and they are twins, but they deserve the same respect as their siblings. We have never dressed them alike. They are individuals who should be treated as such like their sister and brother.

Christmas is around the corner, and I don't know how to tell my family members to please buy gifts for both the boys. I realize we have a large family. I don't expect anyone to go broke. The gift can be a small one. Can you please help me find the right words without sounding greedy?-- MOM OF FOUR IN OTTAWA

DEAR MOM: Your relatives don't appear to be particularly sensitive, or they would already realize that children are individuals whether they happen to be wombmates or not. Their "frugality" puts a damper on what are supposed to be happy occasions. It would not be "greedy" to tell them that if they can't afford a gift for each child -- regardless of how small it might be -- it would cause fewer hurt feelings if they sent none at all for any of your children.

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend's daughter, "Heather," came to me the other day and told me a girl at school is having sex with a 36-year-old. Abby, the girl is only 13. When I told Heather I wanted to tell a counselor, she begged me not to because she's new in the school and doesn't want to be labeled a snitch.

I am torn about what to do. I don't want her mad at me, but I can't just stand back and let this continue to happen. Heather and I are nine years apart, so I don't really come across as a parental figure. I don't know if I should tell her dad or not. Please help.-- DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO

DEAR DON'T KNOW: The girl in question is being raped. The 36-year-old is a predator. What you should do is find out the girl's name and then let her parents know what is going on so they can possibly inform the police. If you can't locate the parents, talk to a counselor at the school, because a counselor is ethically and legally required to report a crime like this.

DEAR ABBY: I recently realized that my parents lied about their wedding date. Because of my mother's age and health, I haven't told her I know the truth. My father passed away several years ago, so his obituary states the date they always used. When my mother passes, do I state the true date in her obituary or perpetuate the lie?-- DAUGHTER WITH A SECRET

DEAR DAUGHTER: I think you should do whatever you think your mother would want when the time comes. The ages of the offspring are not usually mentioned in a person's obituary, and unless your friends read the wedding date with calculators in hand, I doubt they will notice the relationship between your age and the nuptials. But if anyone should be so tasteless as to say anything, just smile and say, "Yes, I was a love child."

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#2 Dec 5, 2013
3- At least you don't have it as bad as those bass terd children who don't know their daddy, are raised by their grandma, and mommy dances on a pole for a living. THOSE poor children....

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#3 Dec 5, 2013
1 Ha, you call them individuals, but identified them to abby as "Twin boys". Why not 3 sons, two of whom are twins?

2 Your boyfriend is a cradle robber too, thats why she came to you.

3 Who cares, anyone not family, old enough to remember your mother is probably wearing depends anyway.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#4 Dec 5, 2013
RACE wrote:
1 Ha, you call them individuals, but identified them to abby as "Twin boys". Why not 3 sons, two of whom are twins?
2 Your boyfriend is a cradle robber too, thats why she came to you.
3 Who cares, anyone not family, old enough to remember your mother is probably wearing depends anyway.
1. I missed that. Good point.

2.True, but it does not lessen the need to do something for the 13 year old friend.

3. Abby should know better. People of that age DO sit there wit calculators. She should use the date her parents gave out.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#5 Dec 5, 2013
RACE wrote:
1 Ha, you call them individuals, but identified them to abby as "Twin boys". Why not 3 sons, two of whom are twins?
2 Your boyfriend is a cradle robber too, thats why she came to you.
3 Who cares, anyone not family, old enough to remember your mother is probably wearing depends anyway.
Lw1: She did that because them being twins is a the center of her problem.
Lw2: i, too, was wondering how old the bf is.
Lw3: no one gives a rat's ass and no one is fact checking the obituary.

Since: Dec 09

Smalltown, Colorado

#6 Dec 5, 2013
LW1 - One t-shirt for the two boys! Who would think that is appropriate? Your relatives are clueless.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#7 Dec 5, 2013
LW1: Fake.

LW2: Call the school and just don’t tell the girl that you did.

LW3: Do what your parents would like. I don’t see what the big deal is. Even if they married after you were born, it’s not a big deal in this day.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#8 Dec 5, 2013
I agree with Sub on LW. But I do think it's kid of telling that theLW is only 9 years older than th daugher. And I wonder if the daughter was really taking about herself.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#9 Dec 5, 2013
Shari23 wrote:
LW1 - One t-shirt for the two boys! Who would think that is appropriate? Your relatives are clueless.
Maybe that particular relative was confused and thought the boys were Siamese twins?

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#10 Dec 5, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Maybe that particular relative was confused and thought the boys were Siamese twins?
Aww c'mon . You really like the My Little Pony shirt, didn't you.

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#11 Dec 5, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
Maybe that particular relative was confused and thought the boys were Siamese twins?
HA!

My original thoughts on this letter were the same thing Race said and also that I don't believe that someone bought TWO people ONE t-shirt as a gift. Unless they thought they were being funny or something....

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#12 Dec 5, 2013
Stina2 wrote:
I agree with Sub on LW. But I do think it's kid of telling that theLW is only 9 years older than th daugher. And I wonder if the daughter was really taking about herself.
Oooh, interesting. I also wonder where Heather's mom fits into this mix (assuming she's alive, which she may not be).

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#13 Dec 5, 2013
Oh, and L3: do whatever you want because no one cares except for you.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#14 Dec 5, 2013
But is shows that to a degree, she herself perpetuates the problem.
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>
Lw1: She did that because them being twins is a the center of her problem.
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#15 Dec 5, 2013
My posts are disappearing today.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#16 Dec 5, 2013
Who said that??
Kuuipo wrote:
My posts are disappearing today.
Timmy

Orlando, FL

#17 Dec 5, 2013
Projecting again?
edogxxx wrote:
3- At least you don't have it as bad as those bass terd children who don't know their daddy, are raised by their grandma, and mommy dances on a pole for a living. THOSE poor children....

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