Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#21 Oct 24, 2012
L1: How did you get to the point where you're engaged in the first place? Don't marry him, not because of his mom but because he hasn't stood up to her on your behalf.

L2: You're super annoying. Move out and be as green as you want to be by yourself.

L3: Yes, we figured this out during the original discussion.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#22 Oct 24, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
but because he hasn't stood up to her on your behalf.
And you know this how?

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#23 Oct 24, 2012
RACE wrote:
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3 Actually, I think it's a cult. I believe they are called "The Swiss Who Crap In Public". Dont know if they are terrorists or not though.
It is not in Switzerland, but in India where public defecation is a serious public health problem because it contaminates teh watwer supply.

THre were stories on teh websites in the last few weeks about this. There had been funding to build large scale water reclamation systems, but the money was siphoned off( sorry for the pun) or not used for the projects so it was a story of corruption as well as public health.

Raise a glass to Squishy to say thank you for no BS in our water

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#24 Oct 24, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>And you know this how?
1. LW didn't say anything about him doing anything.
2. If he had, mom would either change her behavior or not be in their lives nearly as much.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#25 Oct 24, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
1. LW didn't say anything about him doing anything.
2. If he had, mom would either change her behavior or not be in their lives nearly as much.
And how do you know how much in their lives she is now? We know mom hates her and has never invited her to her home. Nothing else. He coould be calling mom once a month or visiting her a couple times a week.
How long have they been dating? She never gets invited to family functions. How many have there been? 2 or 20?

There are so many unanswered questions. The main one being, why does she hate you? It didn't happen in a vaccum.

Is she just a hateful person and cut you off becasuse of some minor thing, or did you break up his formerly happy marriage and she sees you as the hussy homewrecker.

When my wife and I were first dating, within the first year, she went on a vacation with her parents. If I only give some of the details, I could say how they excluded me from family events.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#26 Oct 24, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
1. LW didn't say anything about him doing anything.
Forgot to point out, she didn't mention him not doing anything either. Just as easily as she could have pointed out the effort he makes on her behalf, she could have pointed out that he doesn't think its a big deal and does not want to make waves with mom.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#27 Oct 24, 2012
LW1: I'm guessing the future MIL hates the LW for something that she can't control, like she's black or puerto rican or something like that.

Don't marry into this family.

LW2: OMG, this LW is going to turn into the girl who decided to carry around the trash she created that couldn't be recycled or composted. I get what she's trying to do, but it is completely unrealistic to believe that the average american can do something like that.

I like to think that what's not recycled today will eventually become the source of some poor person's income. We will eventaully mine our landfills for metals and the like.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#28 Oct 24, 2012
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
It is not in Switzerland, but in India where public defecation is a serious public health problem because it contaminates teh watwer supply.
THre were stories on teh websites in the last few weeks about this. There had been funding to build large scale water reclamation systems, but the money was siphoned off( sorry for the pun) or not used for the projects so it was a story of corruption as well as public health.
Raise a glass to Squishy to say thank you for no BS in our water
Well, let's go with not much BS in our water.

We will start disinfecting all effluent relatively soon. And then everyone can go swimming in the river downtown!

The Gates Foundation is doing some good work in this area as well.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#29 Oct 24, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Forgot to point out, she didn't mention him not doing anything either. Just as easily as she could have pointed out the effort he makes on her behalf, she could have pointed out that he doesn't think its a big deal and does not want to make waves with mom.
But it IS a big deal.

I agree, this didn't happen in a vacuum. But if he had dealt with it or if mom was estranged, why would she write? The problem would have been solved.
:)
Community Disorganizer

Florham Park, NJ

#30 Oct 24, 2012
LW 1: Consider yourself lucky.

LW 2: Why are you asking Amy, she's so lazy the only thing she recycles is this stupid column.

LW 3: Swiss white trash

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#32 Oct 24, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
But it IS a big deal.
I agree, this didn't happen in a vacuum. But if he had dealt with it or if mom was estranged, why would she write?
So ho does this play out in your head? If he "dealt" with it, that would mean she either changed her tune or she's completely estranged indefinitely?

You can't see a scenario where she's not as innocent as she makes her self out to be and mom has a good reason to hate her and nothing the son says will change her mind?

She give no background whatsoever. So I'll make up my own stories. She broke up his previous marriage. She said she was pregnant and he gave up his full ride to play QB for the Gators and instead went to work at the factory only to find out she lied, but he forgave her and they worked it out, now his future is f'd. He was deployed overseas and she was cheating on him. Mom knows and hates her even if her son worked it out with her.

You think a son would cut mom out of his life if the reason she hated the girlfriend was something like that that was based in loyalty to him? I could see him pleading with her to give her a chance, but I can't see him cutting mom off.

I just don't have anywhere enough information to just automatically treat her like a victim and him as if he were a spineless mama's boy.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#33 Oct 24, 2012
Oh for pete's sake... I really don't give enough of a crap about this letter to have an argument about it. Takes two to tango, let's just leave it at that.

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#34 Oct 24, 2012
Community Disorganizer wrote:
LW 2: Why are you asking Amy, she's so lazy the only thing she recycles is this stupid column.
HA!

Over at the WaPo today, someone said, "Wow, Amy's answers are pretty solid and good today, what's up with that?"

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#35 Oct 24, 2012
As usual, tonka presents completely valid theories to explain away the unknown and ruins our fun of ripping into someone! ;)

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#36 Oct 24, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
As usual, tonka presents completely valid theories to explain away the unknown and ruins our fun of ripping into someone! ;)
I know! And I'm really in the mood to rip into someone all of a sudden!
;)

Since: Jan 10

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#37 Oct 24, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
Oh for pete's sake... I really don't give enough of a crap about this letter to have an argument about it. Takes two to tango, let's just leave it at that.
Bingo!

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#38 Oct 24, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
I know! And I'm really in the mood to rip into someone all of a sudden!
;)
We can check the news. Someone is always doing something stupid.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#39 Oct 24, 2012
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
We can check the news. Someone is always doing something stupid.
And there's always LW2.
Community Disorganizer

Florham Park, NJ

#40 Oct 24, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
HA!
Over at the WaPo today, someone said, "Wow, Amy's answers are pretty solid and good today, what's up with that?"
That's a WaPo reader for you!

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#41 Oct 24, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
Oh for pete's sake... I really don't give enough of a crap about this letter to have an argument about it. Takes two to tango, let's just leave it at that.
I WIN!!!

Guess now's a good a time as any for you to get used to it before tha last game in November rolls around.

:)

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