Amy 2-19

[Kuuipo]

LW1: I had a good friend from childhood who I eventually had to let go, so I can speak from experience. This particular "friend" had some serious issues and was clearly jealous of me, although I wasn't aware of it until she sent me a very nasty email. After one attempt to make amends with her, I thought over our long history and realized that she was not truly a friend, just someone that I had known for a long time. She had done many disrespectful things to me over the years. So LW, go out and make new and better friends and let this one go. The hurt you feel now is temporary and it stems from rejection. It will pass.
LW2: For some people, weddings are an excuse for people to decide what and who is rude. It's ridiculous. It is customary to give a gift if you GO to the wedding. If you like the couple but cannot attend, you can send a gift along with your regrets if you choose to. A registry is a guide that helps people give the couple what they want or need and helps guests avoid giving duplicate gifts. Now you can send them directly to the couple so they don't have to haul all the stuff home. You don't have to use the registry if you don't want to.

LW3: Original LW will have to learn to manage uncomfortable situations. There will be a few if she leads an interesting life. If/when she runs into ex-BF, she needs to smile, nod, say "hi" and keep walking. If/when he calls, say "hi, good to hear from you" and cut the conversation short.

[Sam I Am]

edogxxx wrote:

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If you aren't up front about what you intend to do with said gift, you're being intentionally deceptive, and THAT is what's wrong. If you had told me you were intending to give that expensive cashmire sweater I gave you to charity, I would have gotten something cheap off the clearance rack instead. Otherwise you're playing me for a sucker.

A) You're a sucker, regardless. B) So, when you give someone a gift, do you make them sign an agreement specifying how the gift will be used, how long it will be kept, whether or not anyone else will be allowed to use it, restricting how it can be disposed of/sold/transferred to another user? What, then you decide if the manner in which they are going to use the gift is acceptable and/or justifies a particular expenditure?

For a person of your limited mental capacity, you sure do utilize it in a very wasteful fashion.

[RedheadwGlasses]

Best wedding gifts I've given that I'm sure were not returned:

1. capuccino machine (well,they couldn't return it b/c I got it from a friend who worked from the distributor at 1/3 of the retail price. It was really nice, though.(And they'd registered for that exact one.)

2. High quality clay poker chips and case.(Groom: "That's the only gift we got that was just for me!")

3. Nice inlaid wood cribbage board and Penthouse lesbian playing cards.

[edogxxx]

Mister Tonka wrote:

<quoted text>Wait, what? When you buy someone a gift, you first determine their intent? And here I've been just giving gifts to people all along without first asking qualifying questions.
Obviously *I* must be doing my gifting incorrectly.

You and Sam are completely missing the point. No, I'm not talking about ANY gift for ANY occasion. We'll continue this discussion when you two are able to get back on track.

[Toj]

Best wedding gift I've given to people is cold, hard cash.

[edogxxx]

Toj wrote:

Best wedding gift I've given to people is cold, hard cash.

You'll get my cold, hard cash when you pry it from my cold, hard hand!

[NWmoon]

Sam I Am wrote:

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Do you know what a gift is, asszit? You don't give a gift with strings attached or with stipulations or with an expectation as to how it will be used. You give a give and the recipient can do whatever they darn well please and you shouldn't give to rips. I am guessing you don't "give" very often. I am guessing that most of your "gifts" have some type of underlying expectation attached.

Yep. The example about the books wasn't even for the WEDDING, but for her SHOWER. I'm in favour of these sort of things, but even more so for wedding showers.

[edogxxx]

NWmoon wrote:

I'm in favour of these sort of things

For Godssake, it's "flavor" and "neighbor" and "behavior." Go back to Canada if you can't figure it out. And shave your dam legs! We do THAT in America too!

[NWmoon]

edogxxx wrote:

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For Godssake, it's "flavor" and "neighbor" and "behavior." Go back to Canada if you can't figure it out. And shave your dam legs! We do THAT in America too!

FOADIAF, you miserable waste of space.

[NWmoon]

Oh, and don't try to tell me what to do child, unless you have the balls to say it in person to my face.

[RACE]

ode to edog
how do they hate thee, let me count the ways....