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#104 Aug 14, 2013
Hatti_Hollerand wrote:
<quoted text>
Where the action is .. The center of activity in the home .
So you're asking if my wife is the center of activity? Seems like the family room would be better suited to fill the role of Hub-bub.

“Colorful Beyond Words”

Since: May 11

"True Love Never Ends "

#105 Aug 14, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>So you're asking if my wife is the center of activity? Seems like the family room would be better suited to fill the role of Hub-bub.
Different slang for different parts of the country I guess.

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#106 Aug 14, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>and the mutt?
A tree sloth.

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#107 Aug 15, 2013
Hatti_Hollerand wrote:
<quoted text>she didn't ask for a pity party
It's some of the women on here who are asking for that.

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#108 Aug 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
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You jumped on sub about compassion and empathy etc. I'm sure if this was any of our wives, we would not be so blunt as to say "Just get over it" or "man up" or whatever. But she's not our wife. She's a nameless faceless letter writer. We don't need to sugar coat anything. We can be blunt here and bluntly speaking, she is whining about how her life sucks.
Zactly ...
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Unless someone knows of a miracle cure, there is not much anyone can do about her dying mother. SHE needs to come to grips with her impending demise. No one else can do it for her. Her daughter is unemployed? that's terrible. What does she expect anyone else(except her daughter) to do? The daughter needs to get a job. That is not her cross to bear. Her dog is dying? What is anyone supposed to do? Administer the meds on her behalf? OK. There's a bout 5 minutes per day of burden lifted from her shoulders. The grief she feels over the dog's impending demise? No one can fix that for her. Only she can come to grips with that.
Or she can wallow in misery over problems that are beyond her control.
Zactly

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#109 Aug 15, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Empathy. Humanity. Compassion.
Oh, the humanity! Her life is so awful. Whaaaaa, whaaa, whaaa.

I've got all she's got and more. I work full time, have 3 young kids in our house ... along with that comes much more than having an adult child who is a loser and who you have no responsibility for. We've got homework/school activities/sports/and all that goes along with 3 young boys to deal with on top of all she has.

My spouse also works full time too ... she's not "retired," such that she can do most of the stuff at home, while I just put in 4 hours a day and work my incredibly burdensome "part time job." That means, I'm working all day, coming home, cooking dinner, getting them ready for bed and getting them up at 6:30, fed, and on the bus many mornings, before I go to work FULL TIME ... not part time. On top of all that my wife is taking college courses and has exams!!!

Exactly how much compassion and empathy should I have for a whiny woman, who is not my spouse, friend, or family member, who is complaining about how awful her life is, when I have all she has and then some on my plate and I manage just fine?

The problem is this lady and her outlook, not me, not the other men on here, and not the supposed heavy crosses she has to bear.

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#110 Aug 15, 2013
Judge Janie wrote:
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No, that is NOT the "way women are wired". That is the way we are CULTURALLY wired. See the huge difference?
How do you know? Just cause you say something and think you know it all, doesn't mean it is true.

I actually don't think it is cultural, at all. There are differences between the sexes.
Judge Janie wrote:
<quoted text>And that's the kind of shyte some men will use in order to justify not having to deal with the heavy-duty stuff, including caregiving and family emotional issues. Just dump it all on the woman because, ya know, that's just "the way she's wired."
Careful your man hating is showing. I never said anything about dumping things on women. Sounds like you've been dumb enough to tolerate a man do that to you and are lashing out about it. That's your fault, not mine.

I said they are more emotional ... that's how they are wired. No one makes them internalize and take on other folks burdens, except themselves.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

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#111 Aug 15, 2013
But will you go to her dogs memorial service?
Sublime1 wrote:
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Exactly how much compassion and empathy should I have for a whiny woman, who is not my spouse, friend, or family member, who is complaining about how awful her life is, when I have all she has and then some on my plate and I manage just fine?
The problem is this lady and her outlook, not me, not the other men on here, and not the supposed heavy crosses she has to bear.

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#112 Aug 15, 2013
RACE wrote:
But will you go to her dogs memorial service?
<quoted text>
Yeah, just to get drunk and then dance on its grave!!!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#113 Aug 15, 2013
LOL!
Sublime1 wrote:
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Yeah, just to get drunk and then dance on its grave!!!

“Colorful Beyond Words”

Since: May 11

"True Love Never Ends "

#114 Aug 15, 2013
Dang Sublime , did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed?

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#115 Aug 15, 2013
Judge Janie wrote:
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Because it shows your rigidly judgmental, chauvinistic views of women, especially since you cut them no slack for being able to grow and change and mature, but have no problem with the fact that men can and do change from when they're younger. I would say such views are "antiquated", but, as is being borne out both in current culture and in this very thread, such is not, sadly enough, quite the case.
Whoa, who exactly is judgmental? Go read this post of yours I am responding to and realize the irony of you calling me judgmental is quiet profound. It's actually hilarious.

No, it shows that I don't agree with you, you think you know it all, and you think your views are the right ones for everyone. Now who is rigid?

You are free to think an abortion is no big deal. Anyone else is free to feel the same. I have my own views. Just because you hold different views doesn't mean your views are right for everyone.

It's also not chauvinistic. I would view a man who has children with a bunch of women or who abandoned his children, negatively ... even if they happened when he was younger and has aged now. You are free to think such a man has changed and is wonderful.

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#116 Aug 15, 2013
Hatti_Hollerand wrote:
Dang Sublime , did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed?
No, I've had to deal with know it all Janie today. Her views are the right ones ... not just for her, but for everyone ... just ask her ... she'll tell you ... and if you don't agree with her she likes to resort to name calling.

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#117 Aug 15, 2013
And here my friends is the proof:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-128...

Regarding men: "This perhaps explains why they often take a more laid-back view of potential crises - infuriating the women in their lives in the process."

This thread is a microcosm of that statement. Us men, with our uber cool water down a ducks back laid back attitude, just infuriated a bunch of you women!!!:p

Booya. Has jack shyte to do with how women are raised. They like their fellow female rat sisters, lol, are born that way!

<runs>

“...,to wit”

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#118 Aug 15, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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. Much more acceptable (at least now days) for a woman to be a long haul trucker than for a man to be a ballet dancer....
Yeah. Look what happens to ballet dancers. They grow up to be Mayor of Chicago. I assume you know that.

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#119 Aug 15, 2013
Saw this on FEMALE friend's facebook page.

Breaking News:
The Pity Train has just derailed
at the intersection of
Suck It Up & Move On,
and crashed into
We All Have Problems,
before coming to a complete stop at
Get the Heck Over It.

Any complaints about how we
operate can be forwarded to
1-800-waa-waaa.

This is Dr. Sniffle
reporting live from
Quitchur Fussin.

If you like this, repost it.
If you don't, suck it up, Cupcake.
Life doesn't revolve around you.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#120 Aug 15, 2013
Is this the one of the BF who posts how me has met his soulmate?
Mister Tonka wrote:
Saw this on FEMALE friend's facebook page.
Breaking News:
The Pity Train has just derailed
at the intersection of
Suck It Up & Move On,
and crashed into
We All Have Problems,
before coming to a complete stop at
Get the Heck Over It.
Any complaints about how we
operate can be forwarded to
1-800-waa-waaa.
This is Dr. Sniffle
reporting live from
Quitchur Fussin.
If you like this, repost it.
If you don't, suck it up, Cupcake.
Life doesn't revolve around you.

“...,to wit”

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#121 Aug 15, 2013
RACE wrote:
Is this the one of the BF who posts how me has met his soulmate?
<quoted text>
Wait. Your on FB?!!!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

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Neda, stay with me!

#122 Aug 16, 2013
No, why would you think that?
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Wait. Your on FB?!!!

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#123 Aug 16, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
Saw this on FEMALE friend's facebook page.
Breaking News:
The Pity Train has just derailed
at the intersection of
Suck It Up & Move On,
and crashed into
We All Have Problems,
before coming to a complete stop at
Get the Heck Over It.
Any complaints about how we
operate can be forwarded to
1-800-waa-waaa.
This is Dr. Sniffle
reporting live from
Quitchur Fussin.
If you like this, repost it.
If you don't, suck it up, Cupcake.
Life doesn't revolve around you.
I'm totally gonna steal 1-800-waa-waaa and use it.

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