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Oct 16, 2013
 
DEAR ABBY: My 17-year-old daughter confided that she has become sexually involved with her boyfriend and asked if I would buy condoms for her. I agreed that she should protect herself and bought her a box of 12.

A week later, she informed me that she needed another 12-pack. When I asked why she had run out so quickly, she confessed that she has been supplying them to her girlfriends. Apparently they can't confide in their moms the way she can with me.

My dilemma is that condoms are expensive and, on one hand, I don't want to be the one supplying a group of kids. On the other hand, if I can help to prevent an unwanted pregnancy, maybe it's worth it. What do you think I should do?-- SAFE SEX ADVOCATE IN ILLINOIS

DEAR SAFE SEX ADVOCATE: If your daughter's friends are old enough to be sexually active, they and their boyfriends should also be responsible enough to provide their own birth control. Generally, teens do not need the permission of their parents to receive information about it. Because you want to help them avoid unwanted pregnancies (as well as STDs), direct them to the nearest Planned Parenthood Center for low-cost or no-cost birth control and instruction on how to use it. There are 18 of these health centers in Illinois. To find the one closest to you, visit plannedparenthood.org .

DEAR ABBY: I am the mother of three wonderful girls. The problem is my husband thinks the way to make them love him is by allowing them everything I don't. I'll give you some examples:
I don't let the girls eat anywhere except at the table, so my husband brings treats into the family room. I try to limit high-sugar/fat items like chips and candy, which he buys for them on a regular basis. I also try to adhere to a regular bedtime schedule, while he thinks nothing of stretching lights-out to an hour or more later.

Then he complains that the girls won't listen to him, so I must be in charge of the discipline. While this makes him Fun Daddy in our house, it makes me ... MEAN MOMMY IN OHIO

DEAR MOMMY: It appears you're not just raising three wonderful girls, but also coping with an immature, overgrown boy. Parenthood is supposed to be a united, consistent partnership, a team effort. Your husband is sabotaging you and ignoring that one of the responsibilities of parenthood is establishing rules and limits that children should live with.

Your husband needs parenting classes, and if that's not possible, some sessions with a child behavior expert who can explain the consequences of what he's doing to his daughters in the name of being "Fun Daddy." From my perspective, there isn't anything funny about it. You have my sympathy.

DEAR ABBY: I work at a senior retirement community, and the residents have a Halloween party each year. In the past, there were prizes for the three best costumes. However, last year they stopped giving prizes because one of the residents is a professional artist and costume maker, and the association felt it would be unfair to the others to have him compete.

This year it was decided not to hold the contest at all. The residents are disappointed. How can they continue to have the costume contest and include the professional?-- DRESSED UP IN LOUISIANA

DEAR DRESSED UP: Ask the artist/costume designer to be the judge.

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1 Tell your 17yr old daughter to keep her legs closed until her BF has balls enough to but the raincoats himself.

2 Tell dad that if he keeps this up his daughters will turn into fat tramps who guys will use and dump like a taco wrapper.

3 Gee, why do I get the feeling this was a hardy boy type question.
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Oct 16, 2013
 
hmmmm
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LW1 - People of any age can buy condoms. They are available over the counter at any drug store or supermarket. Why can't your daughter buy her own? Why can't her girlfriends? Why can't the BF? ITA with Race: tell your daughter to keep her legs crossed (and her mouth closed) until the BF has the balls to buy his own protection. In the meantime DO take your daughter to the Dr. and get her on the pill.

LW2 - Wow. You are one uptight mom. I am wondering how old your girls are. And what exactly do you mean by "limiting high sugar/fat items."

LW3 - Yep.
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Oct 16, 2013
 
1. Agree with the cross your legs let them go to PP and get them themselves comments.
2. What Abby said.
3. What are the prizes? Are they that valuable that it takes the fun out of the contest? If so have a costume party without a contest. I am guessing that 80 and 90 year olds don't really give a crap about some cheesy prize, they just want to have fun.

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1- Tell then if they can't take responsibility for sex, they shouldn't be having it. And geez, all her friends are sexually active? Parenting fail on everyone's part. Maybe I should move to this wh0retown.

3- Because someone's feelings got hurt, no one is allowed to have any fun anymore. How typical.

Northwestern university has banned peanuts from its stadium.

I feel much safer now.

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LW1: Between the two in each couple, they can go look for money behind the couch cushions and buy their own condoms. Donít kids work anymore?

LW2: This is why compatibility and seeing eye to eye is important when you pick a mate. I like a more structured house and so does my wife. Although we each are a bit more lenient about certain things in our own ways, we generally see eye to eye. You two sound like you have completely opposite views. Your views are not any more right than his, however.

LW3: I would enjoy seeing whatever the professional comes up with each year. Who cares if he always wins the one of the prizes? Why shouldnít he if he has one of the best costumes? How is winning something you are good at unfair? Itís also not like there is only one prize. There are two more of them.

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edogxxx wrote:
Northwestern university has banned peanuts from its stadium.
I feel much safer now.
For ONE effing game, dog.

And the student with the severe peanut allergy does feel safer now.
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Oct 16, 2013
 
LW1: the problem is that you only bought the pack of twelve. Things get cheaper when you buy them in bulk. And expensive? I don't really want to search on condoms on Amazon or one of the drugstore sites, but I don't recall them being near any price I'd consider expensive the last time I purchased them. Well, the latex ones. The non-latex ones (latex allergies suck) were a bit spendy.

LW2: Talk to your husband. If you can't come to a compromise on these things, you have bigger problems.

LW3:*snore*

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squishymama wrote:
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For ONE effing game, dog.
And the student with the severe peanut allergy does feel safer now.
I'm not aware it's for only one game. But maybe that student should stay home instead?

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Oct 16, 2013
 
L1: What Cass said. It's a wonder you managed to raise a daughter smart enough to use condoms in the first place.

L2: Tell your husband that now is the time to have a united front. When you become grandparents is the time to let kids get away with stuff.

L3: What Sub said, but if everyone's precious egos can't handle it, go with what Abby said.

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LW3: I would enjoy seeing whatever the professional comes up with each year. Who cares if he always wins the one of the prizes? Why shouldnít he if he has one of the best costumes? How is winning something you are good at unfair? Itís also not like there is only one prize. There are two more of them.
It's never fun when the same person wins year after year.

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LW1: Are condoms really that expensive?

I feel that you should continue to supply your child with them, as well as making sure she's on some kind of birth control. Clearly they're gonna do it and the boy is too much of a pussay to purchase his own.

LW2: Maybe you could stop being so strict, that way he won't feel like he has to make up for you being a b!tch.

LW3: If the old folks want to dress up for Halloween, they should just do it, eff the contest.

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edogxxx wrote:
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I'm not aware it's for only one game. But maybe that student should stay home instead?
http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-10-15...

Maybe you should stop caring about what's going on at a football game that you are not going to.
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Oct 16, 2013
 
LW1: Why is it so difficult for parents to talk to their children about birth control? The alternative is to be a grandparent at 36. If I were in your position, I would buy a case of condoms every month if that was the only way these kids would get protection. The world does not need more teen parents. But yes, encourage them to go to Planned Parenthood and also take your daughter there and get her on the pill.

LW2: Parents need to back each other up or the kids will pit one against the other. Definitely sign you and your husband up for parenting classes before you end up on Super Nanny.

LW3: Ha! Good answer from Amy. Or you could just give him the prize for Most Original every year and then have Funniest, Scariest, Cutest, etc.

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3. What are the prizes? Are they that valuable that it takes the fun out of the contest? If so have a costume party without a contest. I am guessing that 80 and 90 year olds don't really give a crap about some cheesy prize, they just want to have fun.
Old people are even more catty and competitive than junior high kids. They keep score and regardless of any memory loss issues, they always always remember a former slight or transgression.

Just ask Aunt Gerty about who wasn't invited to Thanksgiving in 1968

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squishymama wrote:
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http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-10-15...
Maybe you should stop caring about what's going on at a football game that you are not going to.
I had every intention of going AND eating peanuts! Now I can't!
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PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Old people are even more catty and competitive than junior high kids. They keep score and regardless of any memory loss issues, they always always remember a former slight or transgression.
Just ask Aunt Gerty about who wasn't invited to Thanksgiving in 1968
That's sad. But yeah I see your point. I'm still curious what these prizes could be and if they are possibly worth fighting over.

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For ONE effing game, dog.
And the student with the severe peanut allergy does feel safer now.
Maybe the person with the sever peanut allergy should have stayed home for one effing game. It's completely obnoxious that 50,000 or however many folks should be banned from eating peanuts at a game so 1 person with a peanut allergy can attend the game.

I by the way have a peanut allergy ... it's not severe and I don't avoid them, even though my doctor said I should and that it could change over time into a life threatening allergy. Even if that were the case, that would be on me ... I'd never expect everyone else in society to adjust their behaviors because of something that is personal to me.

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edogxxx wrote:
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It's never fun when the same person wins year after year.
Who said it's about fun?

"You WIN! And you don't win for anybody else. You win for you, you know why? Because a man takes what he wants. He takes it all. And you're a man, aren't you? Aren't you?"

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