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“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#1 Sep 14, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I'm 8 years old and in second grade. I'm writing because I'm being bullied at school. I'm really smart, and at my school that's a really bad thing. I try hard to be nice, but here that's worse than being smart.

The teachers didn't help me with the bullies, so I stopped telling them. My mom told everyone she could about the bullies, but nobody helps. It keeps getting worse over time. Every day someone picks on me, pushes me or makes fun of me. Please help me.-- FEELING TORN IN TEXAS

DEAR FEELING TORN: Because you haven't told your teachers that the bullying hasn't stopped, they may think that it's no longer going on. Tell them again what you are experiencing, and be sure your mother knows. She should discuss this with your teacher. If things don't get better, she needs to talk to the principal and, if necessary, the school board. Many schools offer programs that discourage bullying and train students who can help.

As a last resort, your mother should consult a lawyer. You have a right to an education that's free from this kind of pressure. Lawsuits have been filed and won because school districts didn't give it the attention they should have. Be sure to show this to your mother and tell her you wrote it.

DEAR ABBY: I am agoraphobic. Although I have managed to make accommodations for special occasions like birthday parties and dinners with my family, I am not comfortable at extremely large gatherings.

My parents understand this, but my sister and brother-in-law think that if I'd just "try harder," everything would work out. Abby, I must take a mild tranquilizer to go to small gatherings, and I have told them this. Would people tell someone who is allergic to something to just "try harder"? How can I explain this better?-- AFRAID IN TAYLORSVILLE, UTAH
DEAR AFRAID: I'm sorry to say this, but individuals have been known to give people with severe food allergies items containing their "trigger foods" because they are convinced "just a little" won't hurt them -- or worse, that the problem is imaginary.

Your sister and brother-in-law do not understand phobias. A medical professional might be able to explain it to them, but until they're ready to consult one and really listen, it would be healthier for you to ignore them and limit your time with them.

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I disagree about when and where it is acceptable to yawn. I believe a public yawn during dinner or conversation is not appropriate. She sees no reason why a natural human trait such as yawning should be stifled.

Again, my assertion is that yawning denotes boredom or lack of interest in what people are conversing about or doing. What are your thoughts?-- NOT A YAWNER IN FLAGSTAFF, ARIZ.

DEAR NOT A YAWNER: My thoughts are similar to an observation made by English writer G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936), who said, "A yawn is a silent shout." I have never seen anyone who is intensely interested in something yawn, and to do it in the presence of others implies that the yawner is tired, bored or otherwise not fully engaged.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#2 Sep 14, 2013
1.Nice PSA, but this wasn't written by an 8 year old
2. Ignore them
3. The reason i to stifle a yawn is politeness. I believe the ere has been research that for whatever reason, yawning is contagious and that once someone starts others do it as well

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#3 Sep 14, 2013
PEllen wrote:
I believe the ere has been research that for whatever reason, yawning is contagious and that once someone starts others do it as well
It goes back to the cave-man days when men hunted in groups. If one member of the group was tired, that could hinder the rest of the group. So if one needed to rest, ALL needed to rest.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#4 Sep 14, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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It goes back to the cave-man days when men hunted in groups. If one member of the group was tired, that could hinder the rest of the group. So if one needed to rest, ALL needed to rest.
Source? I'm not picking on you. If you got this from somewhere that's not just your own head, I would like to read it.
not a ghost

San Antonio, TX

#5 Sep 14, 2013
If LW1 is real, homeschooling is legal in this State. LW1's mother needs to get this girl to do appropriate reading, writing, citizenship and math and be ready to present attendance dates, high lights of subjects and assigned letter grades.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#6 Sep 14, 2013
LW1: didn't read after "8 yrs old".

LW2: "How can I explain this better?"
Why? You've explained it to them. Now continue to conduct yourself however you need to for your personal well being. Do not engage them in any discussions about this. You've explained it already, if they don't get it and get upset with you...boo friggin hoo.
Kuuipo

Salinas, CA

#7 Sep 14, 2013
LW1: Tell your mom and ask if you can switch schools. You should be in an accelerated learning program at a private school. Or perhaps you can be homeschooled. You should not have to put up with bullies and you should not have to change who you are to fit in.

LW2: What Tonka said and also find a counselor who specializes in phobias.

LW3: I agree with both of you. I agree with your wife that yawning is a somewhat involuntary human trait, like sneezing. I agree with you that yawning should be stifled in social situations. The greater problem is that you are trying to control someone else's behavior. That never works.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#8 Sep 14, 2013
L3: Isn't yawning due to needing oxygen? Flagstaff is in the mountains. I don't think an occasional stifled yawn is a big deal.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#9 Sep 14, 2013

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#10 Sep 14, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Source? I'm not picking on you. If you got this from somewhere that's not just your own head, I would like to read it.
Heard it on a radio show about ten years ago.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#11 Sep 14, 2013
2- Allergies are physical and can't be cured. Phobias are mental and can be. LW should learn to get over her phobia, instead of calling everyone a jerk for not catering to her.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#12 Sep 14, 2013
1- I don't think she's being bullied because she's smart. A lot of smart people are very popular. She's probably being bullied for being a Little Miss Know It All brat. Bullying is good for kids. It builds character and keeps their heads shrunk. But oh no! Guess we can't have that nowadays.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#13 Sep 14, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Heard it on a radio show about ten years ago.
Ah. Well I looked it up. Just as I figured it pretty much crumbles under any scrutiny. Primarily because there is no way of knowing if in fact prehistoric humans yawned at all. Plus, if one was tired likely they were all tired and would have mutually agreed to rest/sleep without the need of a "signal" anyway. They were by and large pretty smart and understood stuff like danger(ous). They probably just said "hey let's call it a night and get a fresh start in the morning."

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#14 Sep 14, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Primarily because there is no way of knowing if in fact prehistoric humans yawned at all.
Seriously?

Srsly.

Seriously?

We can't prove whether or not pre-history homeosapians yawned?

Srsly? You're retorting with THAT??

Can we at least prove they didn't NOT yawn?
Julie

Chicago, IL

#15 Sep 14, 2013
DEAR ABBY: "I'm 8 years old and in second grade. I'm writing because I'm being bullied at school. I'm really smart, and at my school that's a really bad thing. I try hard to be nice, but here that's worse than being smart."

Oh, puh-leeez,**Mom** <roflmao, eye roll>. No one with the brains god gave a goat actually believes your 8-yr-old wrote this letter. You're doing your kid absolutely no favors, you moron.

DEAR ABBY: "I am agoraphobic. Although I have managed to make accommodations for special occasions like birthday parties and dinners with my family, I am not comfortable at extremely large gatherings."

BULLSHIT. Genuine agoraphobics can't go out for *any* reason. You're able to pick and choose what you want to do, and blame what you don't want to do on "agoraphobia." You're full of crap.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#16 Sep 14, 2013
1: Being nice and smart are bad things at her school? Things have shifted and all the popular kids are usually the smart ones, too.
Does she go to school in inner city Detroit?
And what 8 y/o knows Dear Abby?

2: Gotta go with dog here. I doubt her fam is trying to be rude, just don't understand and want her there.
I don't see her mentioning therpay or doing anything to try and ovecome it, which can happen, unlike allergies...

3: You can't always stop a yawn, geez, but you don't have to make it loud and big either.
Wife is a bit OTT, IMO.
I have yawned when I've been very excited and engaged...I have also heard it's getting oxygen t your brain.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#17 Sep 14, 2013

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#18 Sep 14, 2013
L1: Tell your teacher and have your mother sign you up for self-defense. I'm not saying the kid will use it, but it probably will let him feel differently and project a different vibe to those brats.

L2: Gotta go with you told them, they ignore it so you ignore their ideas. Be more forceful. They ask you again, tell them to educate themselves.

L3: What Kuippo said.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#19 Sep 14, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
2- Allergies are physical and can't be cured. Phobias are mental and can be. LW should learn to get over her phobia, instead of calling everyone a jerk for not catering to her.
She's not asking anyone to catering to her. She just doesn't want to go.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#20 Sep 14, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Seriously?
Srsly.
Seriously?
We can't prove whether or not pre-history homeosapians yawned?
Srsly? You're retorting with THAT??
Can we at least prove they didn't NOT yawn?
See that? I tried to have a nice, reasonable conversation with you and you turn in to a doosh for no reason whatsoever. It wasn't a "retort." That implies that there is an argument of some sort. There is not argument. I was making a COMMENT based on the fact that it's untestable. Period. Yeah, I know you know that. I was "just saying." Yanno? Or do you always have to be a big fat dooshbag jerk?

If you're like this IRL, always being antagonistic when someone is just talking to you it's no wonder you are still single. Yeah, I know I've been married a lot, but at least there are people who want to spend time with me not run away screaming in frustration while they fantasize about hitting you in the head with a baseball bat repeatedly.

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