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“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#21 Jan 15, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I'm the opposite. Child care is the best. I've never asked for advice
Same here. I'm with ya too on it not being grandparents obligation. My wife and I don't get much help now and didn't get much help even when we lived by our folks. We never viewed as our parent's job to help us raise our kids. We will take any help we can get, however.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#22 Jan 15, 2014
Sublime1 wrote:
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Same here. I'm with ya too on it not being grandparents obligation. My wife and I don't get much help now and didn't get much help even when we lived by our folks. We never viewed as our parent's job to help us raise our kids. We will take any help we can get, however.
Don't get me wrong. Our parents have been a great help, but we try not to abuse it and ask well in advance. Greatest help is being able to watch them when they have no school so we don't have to take vacation days
Like this friday. No school. MIL's coming over for the weekend.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#23 Jan 15, 2014
Toj wrote:
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I don't see not babysitting as lack of family support. Parents need a break from time to time. I can imagine some grandparents giving the gift of money to hire a babysitter b/c they're not up to babysitting.
The best support that stands out in my mind that my family gave me while raising a child was to be my sounding board and advice when asked more so than any babysitting they did.
That probably sounded harsher than I meant it to...I think my dad would be an amazing grandfather. But my mom is deceased and my in-laws are f'n crazy. We'd not have the level of support--physical, mental, emotional, monetary, or otherwise--that a lot of our friends seem to have from their parents.

Although, my mom did enough talking when she was alive that I've got an arsenal of her knowledge.:-D I think she's a part of my conscience now.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#24 Jan 15, 2014
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>I was thinking about how your MIL and FIL would be as babysitters. Then who gets to write to Lamy?
Well, a baby can never learn casual racism and apathy towards life too early, amirite?
Blunt Advice

Saddle River, NJ

#25 Jan 15, 2014
RACE wrote:
You people are off base. The parents fly INTO FL, and the daughter is asked to pick them up there. She lives in FL, so the NYC tolls and traffic is moot, as well as the parking lot costs at the airport.
3hrs is a lot of time, but twice a year is not a huge imposition IMO.
and I bet the cab is probably closer to $60 than $30. I live about 15-20 minutes from FLL and a cab is $20 before a tip.
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A cab ride is only 20 dollars in Fla? Holy crap, it is at least $10 each way to cross a bridge here. No wonder all the retirees move to Fla. Its bargainland there.

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#26 Jan 15, 2014
L1: Regardless of cost, imposition, obligation, or anything else: they're your PARENTS. You can't just TALK to them about this without writing to the worst hack of an advice columnist?

FTR, I do think that a 3-hour ordeal to pick someone up at the airport is ridiculous on a regular basis. Long-term parking, people.

L2: "At the next gathering, when it comes time to do the dishes, you could say to him, "Can you help me in the kitchen, please?" Standing side by side at the sink (not confronting through direct gaze) would offer an opportunity to say, "What you are doing sounds interesting. I'm so happy for you. But everybody needs a chance to tell their story, so don't forget to listen to other people. Did you know Jenny got a new job? You should ask her about that and listen to what she says.""

Should have done that YEARS ago, when he was a kid.

L3: "And having grandparents baby-sit is definitely best for the child."

Just because someone is biologically a grandparent doesn't necessarily mean they're fit to take care of kids. Even fvckups have kids and grandkids.

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#27 Jan 15, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I want to take a vacation in Hawaii next year. Can you recommend a good chauffeur to get me there?
I knew I could count on you.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#28 Jan 15, 2014
Bridge toll? WTF? I believe there are a couple of them down here, I think on the west coast, but not normally.
Blunt Advice wrote:
<quoted text>.
A cab ride is only 20 dollars in Fla? Holy crap, it is at least $10 each way to cross a bridge here. No wonder all the retirees move to Fla. Its bargainland there.
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#29 Jan 15, 2014
RACE wrote:
Bridge toll? WTF? I believe there are a couple of them down here, I think on the west coast, but not normally.
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SF Bay Area bridge tolls vary between $4 and $6 for 2-axle vehicles, depending on bridge and time of day. Tolls are collected in one direction only.
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#30 Jan 15, 2014
LW1: Why don't you pay their cab fare and then tell them that you will come by to visit when they get settled? Get the business card of a driver who regularly goes to the airport, pay him in advance, give his # to your folks, and tell them to call him as soon as they arrive.

LW2: Team Toj.

LW3: There are grandparents who love to babysit daily and grandparents who love their grandchildren in smaller doses.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#31 Jan 15, 2014
Ha! I meant the west coast of FL, Tampa/St Pete area. Stina would know.
Kuuipo wrote:
<quoted text>
SF Bay Area bridge tolls vary between $4 and $6 for 2-axle vehicles, depending on bridge and time of day. Tolls are collected in one direction only.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#32 Jan 15, 2014
Captain Crunch?
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I want to take a vacation in Hawaii next year. Can you recommend a good chauffeur to get me there?
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#33 Jan 15, 2014
1: Amy was kinda rude. This can be a taxing chore for some people and not indicative of their everyday attitude towards the person.
And if they are like my mom, I will kill her if I'm trapped in a car too long.
Send the parents $ for cab.

2: Oh hay no! I teach kids like this and the suggestion by the sink would NEVER work. Kids like that do NOT get cues. The best approach is simple honesty.
I have a hardcore Aspie and you have to be very direct, "It's not acceptable to pick your nose and eat it, so stop." "Yes, ma'am" and then repeat the next day....it can be exhausting but adults must set boundaries.
I can't believe a room of adults let a teenager control the room like that.
At those moments, no one cares about his reading challenges. Shoot-they all have them now!

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