And I'll remind you their husbands are coworkers and they go out to dinner a few times a year. I agree that yeah, they probably should have made an effort to go... BUT... "Gee, honey, we already have that reservation at Sequoia National Park that Saturday. Send them our condolences, we'll treat them to dinner next time."And what about my suggestion that they camped in the park were the memorial service was being held? They had time to check into that.
I still say the friends are asshats and the LW should indeed dumpt them.
To call them asshats and should be dumped as occasional dinner guests IS a bit much, considering the relationship.
And another thought that popped into mind during all this: suppose they WERE "dumped" as "friends?" Do you think they would even notice?
Amy's suggestion, which you agreed with, to be told "We're not joining you at the annual Fryers Club fish fry because you went camping instead of showing up at Jr's memorial service back in May," would actually make the lw's seem like the asshats.