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Dec 1, 2012
 
DEAR AMY: I am a high school junior and I have a friend,“Emory,” who still acts like she is a raging hormonal and ignorant 12-year-old. She takes my things and draws inappropriate pictures on them, and all she talks about is boys, sex and boys again.

To make matters more complicated, Emory is racist. I am biracial. My skin color is quite fair compared to that of my sister. Emory often makes fun of me because of my skin color. She says things like “You should know, you’re half black,”‘’You must like fried chicken” or “You’re lucky I like you, because I hate black people,” etc.
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At first, her remarks were mild, but now, every day, she makes some kind of racist remark directed toward me and other races. I often tell her to stop and say how mean she sounds, but she laughs and keeps at it.

My feelings are always hurt, and I am tired of the comments. How do I back away from this relationship without bluntly telling her that I don’t want to be friends anymore? I know I should’ve just backed away a while ago, but it’s hard.-- Flustered Friend

DEAR FLUSTERED: If you are nervous that “Emory” would retaliate or make your life unpleasant, then you could start by simply avoiding her. She will likely confront you, and you will have to tell her that you’re busy with other things and that you two are moving in different directions.

I’d like to make a pitch for the truth, however. This is when you convey a very simple, easy-to-understand statement that leaves no room for interpretation. You say,“I don’t like your racist statements. I’ve never liked these things you say and I should have told you earlier. But now I feel like you’re just someone I don’t want to be around.”

Prepare yourself for the possibility that she will accuse you of not having a sense of humor or of taking things too personally. Your response can be,“I have a sense of humor when things are actually funny” and “I take these things personally because they are.”

DEAR AMY: My boyfriend and I dated for about two years, live an hour apart and have met most of each others’ friends and family, including my teens. We are both in our 50s and divorced.

Quite frankly it has been a roller-coaster ride — good times and not good times. Recently he told me that he was taking a trip with a female friend (whom I had never met) to travel to an out-of-state “enlightenment seminar.” I told him I could not be a girlfriend to a man who needs to have other women to hang out with and travel with. I was confused and upset, as I had been a caring, faithful and loving companion.

I am trying to move on, but my problem is that I have some expensive possessions in his home that were not gifts to him. Since his return I have had little contact with him. What is the best way to go about getting my things back in a dignified manner?-- Misled by a Miscreant

DEAR MISLED: You need to contact your ex and simply tell him you’re sorry that things didn’t work out, but that you’d like to pick up those items you left in his home. Ask him when would be a good time to do this, make an appointment and travel there to pick up your things.

There is no need to rehash what happened between you. Just face this awkwardness head on, keep your eye on the ball, determine to keep things cordial, jump in your car and get it done.

DEAR AMY:“Frustrated Fiancee” didn’t like the way her guy proposed to her. That woman should tell her fiance in detail exactly everything that she wrote you in her letter. He deserves to know what kind of nightmare he is marrying.

I’ve been there, done that and wish I had known!-- Former Fiance

DEAR FORMER: I agree that she seemed like a real pill.
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Dec 1, 2012
 

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Let's hope LW1 is fake.(If not, doesn't LW1 have some other friends?)

Agree on LW2.

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Dec 1, 2012
 
1- Always happy to hear about a future Republican voter!

2- Knock on his door.
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Dec 1, 2012
 

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LW 1: Tell her to knock that sh-it off or you're going to flatten the tires on her house.

LW 2: Do you own a shot gun?

LW 3: Is she from New Jersey

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Dec 1, 2012
 

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L1: Amy, the LW didn't say anything about being afraid of retaliation. I do agree that the truth would be best and I like the suggestions for prepared comebacks to things she might say.

L2: You're 50+ years old and you don't know how to ask for your stuff back? Maybe YOU should have gone to the enlightenment seminar.

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Dec 1, 2012
 
L1: Don't back away. Shove her the hell out of the way and move forward, out the door and never talk to her again. She's not a nice person.

L2: What abby said.

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Neda, stay with me!

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Dec 2, 2012
 

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1 What does all the talk about sex and boys have to do with her being a racist. Bet she wants to know if the myth about black men is true.

2 Bet you never told him they were not gifts.

3 Every woman deserves their fantasy proposal, and its the guys job to try and figure it out.

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Dec 2, 2012
 
RACE wrote:
1 What does all the talk about sex and boys have to do with her being a racist. Bet she wants to know if the myth about black men is true.
Oh, it's twue! It's twue! It's twue!
I hate to disappoint you, ma'am, but you're suckin' on my arm!

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Dec 2, 2012
 
VAdame wrote:
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Oh, it's twue! It's twue! It's twue!
I hate to disappoint you, ma'am, but you're suckin' on my arm!
I believe the line is Hey baby let go of my elbow.
Great movie. The line is occasionally removed from some versions

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Dec 2, 2012
 
Ha!
VAdame wrote:
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Oh, it's twue! It's twue! It's twue!
I hate to disappoint you, ma'am, but you're suckin' on my arm!

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Dec 4, 2012
 
Hmmm the "it's twue" sounds like Madeline Kahn. Is this movie Blazing Saddles?
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Dec 4, 2012
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Hmmm the "it's twue" sounds like Madeline Kahn. Is this movie Blazing Saddles?
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