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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Nov 13, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I want to share my experience with being a distracted driver. One gorgeous, sunny day a few months ago, I happened to glance down at my iPad and the next thing I knew, I had hit the car in front of me. The airbags engaged and hit me and my golden retriever, who was in the front seat with me. He was so freaked out he jumped out the window into oncoming traffic. I chased him, but lost him as he darted through traffic on the busy streets.

Fortunately, a couple found him and brought him to a vet who scanned his chip. I got him back, and it is a gift from heaven -- but he was severely injured. With time, he will make a full recovery, but my stupid mistake hurt my most cherished companion. I can't forgive myself. From now on, those devices go in the trunk.-- REFORMED DISTRACTED DRIVER

DEAR REFORMED: That's a start. And in the future, your cherished companion should ride in the back seat -- with the windows closed and wearing a restraint so that in the event of another traffic problem he won't be reinjured. Because you are in communication with your veterinarian, ask him or her what type is recommended.

DEAR ABBY: I am a mature, adult woman in my 40s who has never had a good relationship with my mother. Candidly, she is a mean person who has left a lot of hurt feelings in her wake. It makes being close to her impossible. Our entire family feels the way I do about her, including her only surviving sister.

I will be remarrying soon. Although I feel that inviting my mother to my wedding is the right thing to do, it could mean potentially inviting disaster -- literally. I'm having trouble coming to terms with this decision and would love your input.-- NEEDS GUIDANCE IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR NEEDS GUIDANCE: Your mother appears to be a bitter, possibly disturbed woman. If she isn't invited, the hurt and angry feelings could reverberate for years. Because the rest of your family knows the way she is, consider inviting her on the condition that she will be on her best behavior -- and with the understanding that if she "lapses," some family members will escort her out.

DEAR ABBY: My husband has met my co-workers and their spouses at various company-related events. He recently mentioned that he has seen "Wally," who is married to one of my co-workers, "Anna," with another woman on more than one occasion. Apparently, Wally didn't recognize my husband.

Should I "casually" mention to Anna that my husband saw her husband and where, and let her figure it out for herself? My husband said it's up to me to decide whether to tell her or not. If it were me, I'd want to know.-- OLDER BUT NOT WISER IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR O.B.N.W.: I suppose you could casually mention it to Anna, but don't be surprised if she casually responds that the woman is his sister, his cousin or a daughter by a former marriage. It may be perfectly innocent.

DEAR ABBY: My friend left a plant for me to take care of while she was out of town. The plant died. Do I replace the plant?-- NO GREEN THUMB IN LUBBOCK, TEXAS

DEAR NO GREEN THUMB: If the plant was thriving when your friend asked you to care for it, and it died because of lack of sun or water while in your care, then the answer is yes -- you should at least offer to replace it. For your sake, I hope it wasn't a rare orchid.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#2 Nov 13, 2012
L1: And what if you had KILLED someone else? Someone's CHILD? So you learned a lesson but only because you risked your dog's life? You selfish idiot. I guess you finally learned, but sheesh!

Oh, and those restraints will not work on most dogs. You have to start them out as puppies with those things and get them used to them.

L2: If the risk of someone misbehaving is so great, I don't think it's fair to rely on family members to deal with her. I'd be annoyed if someone expected me to be the bouncer for her 65 year old mom. Don't invite her.

L3: I would stay the heck out of this.

L4: OMG, how cheap are you? How did the plant die? You forgot about it, didn't you? Yes, buy her a new plant, you dork.

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#3 Nov 13, 2012
1 Consider you and all those around you lucky that noone was hurt or killed. I think distracted driving will get stiffer penalties as time goes by.

2 Make a family member be her bouncer? Stupid idea. Keep the crazy bat away from your wedding.

3 MYOB

4 I'm with Redhead. You're a irresponsible cheapskate.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#4 Nov 13, 2012
1- Women drivers. There aught to be a law. That thing becomes a projectile in an accident. They make us buckle up in the back seat but do nothing about drivers with their dogs in their laps.

2- In your forties and still have mommy issues?

3- Stay out of it.

4- Buy her a plastic plant.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#5 Nov 13, 2012
LW1: Great. You're a moron and you're telling us how being a moron can have undesired consequences. Wrong forum. Try writing to Dumb Asses Anonymous.

LW2: Do you get together with her for holidays and other special occassions? If so, they you probably need to invite her. If things are so strained between you that you don't even do that, then you've already got a pattern of not sharing the special moments with her, so no need to break that cycle now.

"consider inviting her on the condition that she will be on her best behavior -- and with the understanding that if she "lapses," some family members will escort her out."

I don't like this idea for 2 reasons.
1) some poor schmuck who should be enjoying himeself is going to have to physically remove a grown woman who does not want to be removed. Depending on how old she is, probably more prone to injury if you try to drag her out.
2) If the whole idea of not inviting her is cause you don't want the event ruined, then kicking her out after she becomes a problem is not going to accomplish that. Once she creates a problem and has to be removed, she's already ruined the event.

LW3: Is Anna a friend? Or just someone who works in the same office? Do you ever have any conversations with Ana that are not work related? Only you can decide what kind of relationship you have with this woman. Unless there is some personal connection, I'd say to keep out of it.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#6 Nov 13, 2012
LW1:
It just occured to me, she said she looked down at her ipad. I initially assumed that it was on the passenger seat. But her dog is a golden retriever. Isn't that kind of a big dog? Would there be room on the passenger seat for the ipad? I'm now thinking this dumbass was holding it as she drove and looking down often.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#7 Nov 13, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
LW1:
It just occured to me, she said she looked down at her ipad. I initially assumed that it was on the passenger seat. But her dog is a golden retriever. Isn't that kind of a big dog? Would there be room on the passenger seat for the ipad? I'm now thinking this dumbass was holding it as she drove and looking down often.
Great point. I agree. She couldn't have the ipad on the seat next to her b/c the dog could damage it if the ipad is open and viewable.

And she says to lock these items int he trunk? I keep mine in a bag or on the seat next to me, and it never occurs to me to open my ipad while I'm driving.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#8 Nov 13, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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And she says to lock these items int he trunk? I keep mine in a bag or on the seat next to me, and it never occurs to me to open my ipad while I'm driving.
But the temptation! It's so great! You need to lock it away from yourself as if you were an addict.

<rolling eyes>

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#9 Nov 13, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
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But the temptation! It's so great! You need to lock it away from yourself as if you were an addict.
<rolling eyes>
She's just a moron. I have my phone with me while I am driving. I simply have enough self control to not browse the web while the car is moving. Stop lights are open season.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#10 Nov 13, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Great point. I agree. She couldn't have the ipad on the seat next to her b/c the dog could damage it if the ipad is open and viewable.
And she says to lock these items int he trunk? I keep mine in a bag or on the seat next to me, and it never occurs to me to open my ipad while I'm driving.
I've seen people use their tablets as GPS navigation devices. One of my husband's friends was doing that, and the cursed thing was sliding all over the place.

My new smartphone has Waze installed for navigation, but I want a GPS dashboard holder for it if I'm going to be using that.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#11 Nov 13, 2012
L1: I gotta go with everyone else. This woman was a menace and probably still is if she thought this was news that everyone had to hear. Guess what? Most people know this already and don't do this.

L2: Just don't invite the woman. If you feel the need to, give the responsibility to watch her over to the security guard (hire one if need be).

L3: You have no idea who that was. MYOB.

L4: You knew the answer. Were you going to give over the dead plant when your friend came back? Nice friend (sarcasm).

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#12 Nov 13, 2012
LW1: You're lucky that was all that happened. Probably messing with Pandora...

LW2: You are old enough to not have to put up with bullsh!t. Just don't invite her.

LW3: Unless they were making out, assume it's innocent and MYOB.

LW4: Yes, but don't try and pass it off as the *same* plant. Your friend needs to know you are a killer.:)

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#13 Nov 13, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> She's just a moron. I have my phone with me while I am driving. I simply have enough self control to not browse the web while the car is moving. Stop lights are open season.
So you're the moron that sits there after the light turns green because you're not paying attention?

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#14 Nov 13, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
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So you're the moron that sits there after the light turns green because you're not paying attention?
I watched a woman sit through her green entrance ramp light at the metered on ramps because she was texting on her phone. Didn't go until her NEXT green light. The guy behind her was furious with her.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#15 Nov 13, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> She's just a moron. I have my phone with me while I am driving. I simply have enough self control to not browse the web while the car is moving. Stop lights are open season.
Of course. This is almost everyone. The only thing I put in the trunk that I normally wouldn't is booze if it's already open. Because it's the law. Duh.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#16 Nov 13, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
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So you're the moron that sits there after the light turns green because you're not paying attention?
Oh, hell no. Just cause I'm focused on my phone does not mean I have no peripheral vision to see the car in front of me started moving or that I don't look up at the light frequently.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#17 Nov 13, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I watched a woman sit through her green entrance ramp light at the metered on ramps because she was texting on her phone. Didn't go until her NEXT green light. The guy behind her was furious with her.
Was his horn broken?
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#18 Nov 13, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Was his horn broken?
Most people who are looking down at their phones never register that you're honking at them.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#19 Nov 13, 2012
pde wrote:
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Most people who are looking down at their phones never register that you're honking at them.
I don't know if I believe MOST. But for those that are, that's some serious obliviousness. I would beep once. If the person did not immediately do something to indicate they knew it was for them(look up, take foot off brake, etc), I would proceeed to lean on the horn till they stared moving.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#20 Nov 13, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Was his horn broken?
Probably. I don't hesitate to use mine. GO! The light is GREEN and has been for three seconds! Idiots.

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