“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Jun 16, 2014
DEAR ABBY: Lately I have been having problems with my live-in boyfriend, "Ethan." We fight about everything, and he refuses to admit when he's wrong. Ethan has been sleeping on the couch for a week waiting for me to take the first step and reconcile.

He isn't working and I am, and that is probably what has him so mad. I pay all the bills, and he thinks I feel superior because I'm bringing in money and he's not.

We argue day and night, swear and scream at each other, and he does not appreciate everything I'm doing so we can survive. I have two daughters, he has one, and I'm supporting all of us.

Do you think it's a good idea for us to have a baby? Ethan is desperate for a child with me -- even though we can't get along or communicate.-- MARY JANE IN MASSACHUSETTS

DEAR MARY JANE: Not only do I think it's not a good idea, but I think it's a terrible idea. Babies are expensive, and you're already carrying a heavy load. I suspect that Ethan thinks a baby will fix what's wrong in your relationship, but he's wrong. Don't do it! It would be a huge mistake.

DEAR ABBY: In the summer of 1995, I was a 12-year-old girl living in a motel in a suburb of Cleveland with my mother, older brother and younger sister. We were poor and very hungry.

My mother led my younger sister and me to a doughnut shop for our only meal of the day. After waiting for everyone to leave, my mother approached the young woman behind the counter and asked to buy some doughnuts with our foreign coins. It was the only money we had.

Instead of turning us away, she told my mother: "We're allowed to give away a certain number of free doughnuts every day. Just tell me what you want." (I don't know if this was true.) It was because of her kindness that my family ate that day.

If that kind woman is reading this, I want to say: "Thank you. You made the hunger go away for just a little bit, so a mother and her children could go a day without pain. You remain forever in a little girl's heart." -- URSALA IN MESSINA, ITALY

DEAR URSALA: I, too, hope your benefactor sees your letter. Her generosity that day provided nourishment not only for your bodies, but also for your faith in the humanity of others -- and I am sure you have emulated her example in the years that have followed. After all, isn't that what acts of kindness are all about?

DEAR ABBY: Once a year I invite my mother, who lives in Arizona, to visit me in California. This year, Mom has decided to bring one of my sisters along because "she really needs a vacation."

My sisters live in the same city as Mom and can visit her anytime they please. I see Mom once a year at most, and I do not want to share my limited time with her. How do I let my sisters know they're not welcome without causing a family rift?-- WANTS QUALITY TIME WITH MOM

DEAR WANTS: You shouldn't have to tell your sisters. The person you need to tell is your mother, who should not have invited anyone without clearing it with you first. Because you're having trouble with what to say to her, read her the second paragraph of your letter to me. She may have been well-meaning, but she was misguided.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#2 Jun 16, 2014
1 Sweet mother of Jebus, please let this be a fake letter.

2 What kind of doughnuts did you get?

3 Girl stuff...

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#3 Jun 16, 2014
Lw1: Are there really people this stupid?
Lw2: don't care
Lw3: Lw must have a pretty bad relationship with sisters. Sounds like she does not see mom very often and places extra value on her time there. But if sisters live near mom, she probably does not see them much either. Sad that she does not look forward to seeing them as much as mom.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#4 Jun 16, 2014
1- I hope this letter is fake

3- good point, tonks. She doesn't sound particularly close to the sisters

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#5 Jun 16, 2014
LW1: Holy cow... Get your tubes tied. NOW! You are not smart enough to breed!


“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#6 Jun 16, 2014
L1: I, too, hope this letter is fake. Sounds like it is.

L2: Too bad it wasn't a Subway or Quiznos.

L3: It's your sister! Spend some family time for goodness sake. Do you dislike your sister that much?

Elizabethtown, KY

#7 Jun 16, 2014
LW1: You struggle to take care of yourself, your unemployed boyfriend and the two kids you already have. Your unemployed boyfriend cannot take care of himself, you, and the child he already has. Please tell me that somewhere, deep down inside, you KNOW that having another child will add to, not subtract from your troubles.

LW2: And I hope LW1 reads your letter, too.

LW3: Wow. What Tonka said. You should have been happy to see your sister, too.

Chicago, IL

#8 Jun 16, 2014
LW1: Oh yes---*please* breed with Ethan as soon as possible! The world will truly be a better place w/a person who combines Ethan's laziness and your mind-boggling stupidity. WooHoo!

Hancock, NY

#9 Jun 16, 2014
1: I agree with everyone here so far. I hope this woman is not as dumb as she sounds and it's just all the fighting that's wearing her down. She should read today's "Annie's Mailbox" to see what her future might be if she goes ahead and has another child. That lw had to give up a child because she and her bf could not provide for her. I cannot imagine the pain and guilt that must rack those people for their decision no matter how much it might have benefited their child. Given the option, people should not purposely get pregnant when finances are tight. I don't advocate abortion - I actually hate the concept; so prevention is what's needed at times like this.
not a ghost

San Antonio, TX

#10 Jun 17, 2014
Why would LW1 want a baby with him? If she wrote saying that she is thinking of having her tubes tied, I might believe her.

LW2 is cute.

Can't LW3's mother drive herself to visit LW3?

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