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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Jun 21, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I was taken away from my parents at 13 and placed into foster care, where I stayed until I aged out at 21. My biological mother is a drug addict who abandoned me to my father when I was 11. She never tried to contact me while I was in care.

I am now 24 and she won't leave me alone. She sends Facebook messages that alternate between begging me to let her get to know me, and condemning me for being vindictive and not having forgiveness in my heart. Abby, this woman exposed me to drugs and all manner of seedy people and situations. I was molested and beaten by some of the men she picked up to pay the bills.

Am I a horrible person for ignoring her? I'm close to losing my temper and letting her know exactly how angry I am, but I know it would do no good. I just want to move on with my life and advance in my profession without having to worry about this. What do you think?-- STALKED IN NEW YORK

DEAR STALKED: Silence sends a strong message. I think that when the harassment started, you should have immediately blocked this woman on Facebook. It's not too late to do that now. If she continues to annoy you, consider getting a restraining order.

Because you are on a path to success, allow nothing to divert you.

DEAR ABBY: On March 14 you printed a question from "Jim in New Jersey" who asked if brand-new clothing should be washed before wearing. Having worked in a shirt factory for years, let me tell you how many hands handle the shirt before it goes into that neat little bag.

1. Someone spreads the fabric and lays the pattern.

2. The cutter cuts it.

3. Someone else ties the different parts together.

4. Another person takes the parts to the sewing people.

5. One sewer attaches the pocket to the front.

6. Another sews the yoke to the back.

7. Another sews that back to the front.

8. Another sews in the sleeves.

9. Another sews the side seams.

10. Still another hems the bottom.

11. Another adds the collar.

12. Another sews on the cuffs (if long-sleeved).

13. Someone else sews on the buttons.

14. Another reinforces the buttonholes.

15. An inspector examines the garment for loose threads.

16. An auditor gives it a final check.

17. And finally, someone folds the shirt and puts it into that nice, clean-looking bag.

Don't even ask how many times it may have fallen on the floor -- or if we washed our hands. Abby, I never wear anything until I wash it!-- JOANN IN MISSISSIPPI

DEAR JOANN: And neither will I. Thank you!

DEAR ABBY: I'm 59 years old and still take my baseball mitt with me when I go to games in hopes of catching a ball. At what age should a guy stop doing it?(We usually sit in the lower level near the front.)-- MINNESOTA TWINS FAN

DEAR TWINS FAN: Stop taking it when you have grown so aged and feeble that when the ball comes your way, you can no longer fend off the younger fans who are also diving for it. And not one moment sooner.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#2 Jun 21, 2013
L1: I'd not only block her, I'd threaten her with a restraining order (yes, they include things like FB messages and texting) and follow through.

She's probably still using, given her behavior.

L2: Fabrics also are treated with chemicals to keep them wrinkle free during transit and while in the store. Wash 'em.

L3: GO TWINS!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#3 Jun 21, 2013
1 block/unfriend/dump this person. As soon as she knows you are making money, you will hear all her sob stories. Srsly, save yourself.

2 Eeeeewwwwwwwwwww, thanks for the visual.

3 I would have said when you go blind, but whatever

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#4 Jun 21, 2013
Yawn.
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#5 Jun 21, 2013
squishymama wrote:
Yawn.
Yup.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

French Polynesia

#6 Jun 21, 2013
L3. You're never too old to get beaned in the head by a line drive.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#7 Jun 21, 2013
L1: You ungrateful child -- that woman gave birth to you!

L2: Why waste a load of water and laundry soap on clean clothes?

L3: How about 20 years ago?

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#8 Jun 21, 2013
The letters were boring. Thought I'd spice up the column by saying the opposite of how I feel about it. Let's see who misses this post b/c they get so ticked off about my first post on this thread.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#9 Jun 21, 2013
loose cannon wrote:
L3. You're never too old to get beaned in the head by a line drive.
So he should wear the mitt on his head ?

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#10 Jun 21, 2013
I hardly ever wash clothes right after buying them, unless they're from the consignment store. What does not kill me...

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#11 Jun 21, 2013
Toj wrote:
L1: You ungrateful child -- that woman gave birth to you!
L2: Why waste a load of water and laundry soap on clean clothes?
L3: How about 20 years ago?
Haha!

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#12 Jun 21, 2013
L1: "Am I a horrible person for ignoring her?" In a word, no. And please block her from your Facebook.

L2: That process sounds so inefficient! Think about how much cheaper our clothes would be if only one or two Chinese children did all that sewing instead of 15.

L3: Okay, loose cannon, you got a legitimate chuckle out of me. And not a sarcastic one.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#13 Jun 21, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
I hardly ever wash clothes right after buying them, unless they're from the consignment store. What does not kill me...
I wash bathing suits and underwear, that's it. And sheets and towels, but those aren't clothes....

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#14 Jun 21, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
I wash bathing suits and underwear, that's it. And sheets and towels, but those aren't clothes....
Ah, yeah. But jeans and the like? Nah. I wore this awesome, yet cheapy cotton skirt for the first time the other night. Washed it, and now the bottom is starting to roll. Ah...at least I got one good wear out of it.:-/

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#15 Jun 21, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
I wash bathing suits and underwear, that's it. And sheets and towels, but those aren't clothes....
When I put things away for a season, I of course always make sure they are clean before putting them up.

Then when it's time to take them back out - I ash them to "refresh" them.

What a waste. But I know I won't change.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#16 Jun 21, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
I hardly ever wash clothes right after buying them, unless they're from the consignment store. What does not kill me...
Me neither. And isn't most of that stuff done by machines now anyway?

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#17 Jun 21, 2013
LW1: Tell her how you feel and ask her to leave you alone.

LW2: I like to wash stuff first, but sometimes I just wear. I don't have any hard and fast rules. Hasn't killed me yet.

LW3: I donít do that, but if you wanna do that, who cares?

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#18 Jun 21, 2013
I have a cousin who is adopted. She sought and found her birth mother. Birthmother was like this: mostly wanted money and to get together to do drugs (aaak!).
Cousin just started ignoring requests for contact as far as I ever heard.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#19 Jun 21, 2013
For some birth moms, the only good, just thing they'll do in their lives is give their baby to another family.

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#20 Jun 21, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
L1: "Am I a horrible person for ignoring her?" In a word, no. And please block her from your Facebook.
L2: That process sounds so inefficient! Think about how much cheaper our clothes would be if only one or two Chinese children did all that sewing instead of 15.
L3: Okay, loose cannon, you got a legitimate chuckle out of me. And not a sarcastic one.
actually, i'd say LW is not the brightest for not blocking the birth mom way before now...

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