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Aug 31, 2013
 
DEAR AMY: I work in a small office (there are only six of us), and we have a very open, familylike atmosphere. Recently, a co-worker began making YouTube videos of her dog doing silly things. She enjoys showing the videos at work, which (while distracting) seemed like a pretty harmless waste of time.

However, a few days ago she began showing some inappropriate videos of her pet going potty, among other foul doggie behavior. I have tried telling her to please not show those videos, but everyone tells me I’m just being a spoil sport and to just ignore it if I don’t like it. My boss even suggested I “go for a walk” if it bothered me that much.
space constraints.
As I said, the office is small (a large open loft space with just a bathroom and our boss’s office as the only private areas). What can I do when my co-worker refuses to stop playing those horrid videos, especially with everyone supporting her?-- Tube’d Out

DEAR TUBE’D OUT: Your colleague’s behavior is disrespectful, not only to you but to her dog. This may sound silly to some people, but exploiting animals for your own low-brow human purposes is the very essence of inhumane. Furthermore, this colleague’s exploits are escalating and very soon she could cross a line, which should prompt a call to your local Humane Society ( humanesociety.org ).

You have made your own views known (good for you). Without support from the boss (and in an environment too small for an HR department), you cannot control this tasteless co-worker. You should take your boss’s suggestion and exit from this activity.

If others are enjoying a little tasteless time-waster, then perhaps it’s your cue to pick up a newspaper and read an advice column or two.

DEAR AMY: I very recently discovered that I have a son. He is a grown man, and our newly found relationship has been great.

He is getting married in a few months, and my wife and I have been invited to the wedding. It seems that as the father I have a greater responsibility than just being a guest and am wondering how much an appropriate wedding gift should be. Basically, I don’t know how to approach this milestone in our lives.-- New Dad

DEAR DAD: You don’t say if your son was raised with a (different) dad in his daily life. If so, he may choose to celebrate this father relationship by asking this man to stand up with him at his wedding.

You should ask him if there is something you can do for him and his bride for the wedding. They might appreciate it if you offered to pay for an aspect of their celebration, such as hiring a photographer. Otherwise, if you can afford it, you could offer to pick up the tab for part (or all) of their honeymoon trip.

These are big-ticket ideas. Your main job is to be a great guest and follow your son’s lead. He may want you to be a low-key but proud witness to his big day.

DEAR AMY: I’m responding to your answer to “Caring Colleague,” the person wanting to know how to respond to a friend’s announcement of his sibling’s new child with Down syndrome.

I felt your answer was well-meant but wrong. As a parent of a 7-year-old with Down, I received both wonderful and horrid responses to the news of my child’s diagnosis. The correct answer is “Congratulations!” Period.

At the birth of a typically chromosomed child, one does not temper their joy at the thought of the work involved, the possibilities of difficult times (think drug abuse, teen drama, car accidents, school trouble, etc.) ahead. That comes with being a parent.

Just because the challenges faced by parents with kids with Down are different than the planned challenges, there is simply no need to acknowledge the road ahead as tougher than anyone else’s road. It is more work; it is more worry. But the benefits of having a child with Down totally level the playing field here. The birth of this child is a joyful thing. End of story.-- Proud Mom

DEAR PROUD: Perfect. Thank you very much.

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Aug 31, 2013
 
L1: Inhumane? Disrespectful to the dog? amy, it is official. You are the most moronic columnist ever.

Lw: you are tightly wound. Either quit watching them, and quit complaining, or find another job. I hear the Chicago tribune is looking for a new "advice" columnist.

L2: I think it Is presumptuous to assume you are anything other than a guest.

L3: if anyone would blow an answer to that kind of question, it is Amy.
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Aug 31, 2013
 
Wouldn't LW1 be better off just doing her/his job
and ignoring the video show?

LW2 is over thinking this. Inviting this grown son to a nice dinner with the fiancee would be a
reasonable thing to do.

Agree with Red on LW3.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

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Aug 31, 2013
 

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1- I'm surprised the boss doesn't mind his employees wasting company time watching YouTube. Next time she pulls up her YouTube video, don't watch. Stay at your desk and continue working.

2- Yeah, I think you should be asking your son instead of Amy.

3- With the way this planet is going to pot, NO ONE should be congratulated for bringing a baby into it.

“What's it to ya?”

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Aug 31, 2013
 

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1: You're stupid. Ahem...don't watch. Done. Wow that was hard.

2: What Red said. You are a guest, you are not "family" unless he specifically makes a point of telling you that you are included as such. Give them cash.

3: What Red said.
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Aug 31, 2013
 
1: I'm surprised so many people enjoy watching videos of dogs taking a crap.
Headphone and a new job. One with real professionals. These small ones tend to be filled with people whose job IS their life, sadly.

2: Ask him. And when you see his mom, who probably lied to you about him, punch her in the taco.

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Aug 31, 2013
 

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cheluzal wrote:
punch her in the taco.
*snort*
Julie

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Aug 31, 2013
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
L1: Inhumane? Disrespectful to the dog? amy, it is official. You are the most moronic columnist ever.
My *exact* thought as I read Amy's beyond-stupid response. Seriously, with her comment that the "colleague's exploits are escalating and she may soon cross a line," Amy obviously thinks the colleague is going to start having sex w/the dog. Jebus, how does this idiot keep her job? <eye roll>

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cheluzal wrote:
1: I'm surprised so many people enjoy watching videos of dogs taking a crap.
Headphone and a new job. One with real professionals. These small ones tend to be filled with people whose job IS their life, sadly.
Do you remember about 10 years ago when that reporter was decapitated in Afghanistan (I think) and the video got put on youtube or somewhere online anyway? I was working in this place (a small place...) and some friend of the guy who owned it (owner was a doosh, friend was dooshy-er) came in and played it, volume maxed. Not once, not even twice, but several times.

Not only was it disturbing and emotionally overwhelming for the staff (including me) who were trying to do their jobs, clients could hear it when they were on the phone. He didn't give ashit. He thought it was funny. And the boss just let him do it, even after people complained.

I said something about a hostile workplace suit and it stopped, but seriously dude it was sick. The fact that the guy thought it was funny really made me fear for my safety. I think it was like a couple days later I quit...by text message.(•¥•)
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Sep 1, 2013
 
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Do you remember about 10 years ago when that reporter was decapitated in Afghanistan (I think) and the video got put on youtube or somewhere online anyway? I was working in this place (a small place...) and some friend of the guy who owned it (owner was a doosh, friend was dooshy-er) came in and played it, volume maxed. Not once, not even twice, but several times.
Not only was it disturbing and emotionally overwhelming for the staff (including me) who were trying to do their jobs, clients could hear it when they were on the phone. He didn't give ashit. He thought it was funny. And the boss just let him do it, even after people complained.
I said something about a hostile workplace suit and it stopped, but seriously dude it was sick. The fact that the guy thought it was funny really made me fear for my safety. I think it was like a couple days later I quit...by text message.(•¥•)
OMG, that is horrible!
I remember that but I NEVER watched it, and never will.
Watching people brutally murdered is not something I seek out.
I always put myself in the victim's shoes, or the family...if I knew people could *amuse* themselves with my brother's savage murder, I could not stand it.

I would have raised holy hail in that workplace. Some people should be exiled.

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Sep 1, 2013
 
cheluzal wrote:
1: I'm surprised so many people enjoy watching videos of dogs taking a crap.
Headphone and a new job. One with real professionals. These small ones tend to be filled with people whose job IS their life, sadly.
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I KNOW!! I don't WANT to watch dogs peeling and pooping!

“I Am Mine”

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Sep 2, 2013
 
LW1: So it bothers no one other than you, and you boss suggested you just go for a walk. Maybe he should have suggested you take the stick out of your ass.

At this point, I doubt anyone is calling you over to see the videos, so just leave everyone else alone to their fun. Its not like their watching porn.

"DEAR TUBE’D OUT: Your colleague’s behavior is disrespectful, not only to you but to her dog."
Is this a flucking joke? Yes, the dog feels so disrespected.

"This may sound silly to some people, but exploiting animals for your own low-brow human purposes is the very essence of inhumane."
Hey, stupid, she's not poking the dog with a cattle prod to get it to do tricks. Sounds like she's just filming the dog doing what dogs do.

“I Am Mine”

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Sep 2, 2013
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I KNOW!! I don't WANT to watch dogs peeling and pooping!
I don't see anything intrinsically funny about it either, but unless you are a forced unwilling captive audience, its not the big offense this biotch it making it out to be.

At a company I worked for years ago, a guy on the sales floor(telephone sales) had a picture of his dog taking a crap as his wall paper. No one really cared.

Toj

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Sep 3, 2013
 
L1: The LW is wacky and uptight and so is Amy. Quit watching!

L2: Ask you newfound son if there is anything you can do. Be as generous as you can afford in terms of a wedding gift. I'm with Mimi. Cash is king.

L3: At least this rehash isn't patting Amy on the back.

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