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“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#1 Apr 29, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I work in a small office with two former heavy smokers who have now transitioned to vapor/e-cigarettes. My concern is that they "smoke" their e-cigarettes in the office constantly, and I don't know what chemicals I am now breathing secondhand.

Both of them are senior to me in rank and age, and they pooh-pooh the notion that anything but water vapor is being exhaled. Am I making something out of nothing, or should I be worried about this?-- CLEAN AIR

DEAR CLEAN AIR: You don't have anything to worry about, but your co-workers may. In 2009, the FDA announced the findings from a laboratory analysis that indicated that electronic cigarettes expose users to harmful chemical ingredients, including carcinogens. However, those elements were not detected in exhaled vapor.

DEAR ABBY: The woman who collaborated with me on this letter is in her 80s and lives at an assisted-living facility. I am a caregiver and a senior myself, and I have worked in this area for six years.

We read your column on the days I care for her. She loves it and responds verbally to all the letters. Many times the situations spark good conversation, even though her short-term memory is failing. Sometimes we end up howling with laughter. She's a delight and has the courage to still seek out relationships.

This is what she asked me to help her to communicate.-- KATE IN AUSTIN, TEXAS

DEAR ABBY: I have been in assisted living for seven years. There are times when it can be lonely and boring. I'd like to meet some men for companionship, conversation and perhaps romance. The men here act so much older than me. They don't start conversations. They stay in their rooms and watch TV and don't seem interested in conversations.

It's hard because my memory isn't what it used to be, but I do remember how nice it was to have male companionship. Do you have any ideas to make my life a little more interesting?-- LONELY WOMAN

DEAR LONELY: Start by making sure you participate in all the activities your assisted-living facility offers. Shared mealtimes and holiday celebrations also present opportunities to mingle.

The trick is to find something you have in common with these men -- sports, games, music, movies. Because long-term memory outlasts short-term memory, some of them might find it easier to discuss their youth than the present.

Encourage your caregiver, Kate, to take you places where you can meet other seniors. And while you're at it, why not invite some of the men to join you both during your Dear Abby sessions? It's a way to draw people out and get to know them better.

DEAR ABBY: After a six-month separation, my husband and I are reuniting. We were married for 22 years. I know for a fact he has dated and slept with several women. He's adamant that he used protection each time, but the idea of STDs has me preoccupied and worried. I have asked him to use protection with me until I get over my fear.

How long do most of today's STDs incubate, and what is a safe time to wait to remove the "rain gear"?-- LONGING FOR CONTACT

DEAR LONGING: Congratulations on your reunion. Rather than worry about this, ask your husband to schedule a doctor's appointment and be tested for any STD he might have contracted. Not all STDs have the same incubation period, but a blood test could resolve the issue and put your mind at ease.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#2 Apr 29, 2013
1 You work in an office and dont know what Google is for?

2 Horny 80yr old lady seeks any senior that can get it up. Oh, and they dont talk to you because you keep forgetting that they DID talk to you. It's like 100 first dates, but they have given up.

3 This is why you broke up, you lack the basic knowledge.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#3 Apr 29, 2013
LW1 and LW3 are both barking up the wrong trees, big time. Ask a freaking DOCTOR.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#4 Apr 29, 2013
1- Gah, some people are so anti-smoking they even have complaints about e-cigarettes now. Gripes die hard. You have more to worry about from the radiation emanating from your computer and the lunch-room microwave.

2- What race said.

3- So tell him to get tested. And several women in six months? You must be pretty good in the sack for him to want to return, and so must he for all his sexcapades and your willingness to take him back.
not a ghost

San Antonio, TX

#5 Apr 29, 2013
Why does LW3 still want him?

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#6 Apr 29, 2013
LW1: "Am I making something out of nothing,..."

Yes.

LW2: Old men are grumpy old cranks. I suspect that even if you do find a man to hang out with you, after awhile you will not want to because he's such an curmudgeon. But good luck anyway...

LW3: You got bigger problems than STDs if you think Dear Abby is the proper place to ask for medical advice.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#7 Apr 29, 2013
LWs 1 and 3 are idiots.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#8 Apr 29, 2013
squishymama wrote:
LW2: Old men are grumpy old cranks.
That's a bit judgmental and offensive. How about I say old women are dried up has-beens that don't put out anymore and old men want nothing to do with them?

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#9 Apr 29, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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That's a bit judgmental and offensive. How about I say old women are dried up has-beens that don't put out anymore and old men want nothing to do with them?
That also seems a fair assessment.

“FD&S is no way to be.”

Since: Feb 13

United States

#10 Apr 29, 2013
1. Please do shut up.

2. G-ross.

3. 6 months should be long enough, and tell him either he gets tested or he wraps it up.

“FD&S is no way to be.”

Since: Feb 13

United States

#11 Apr 29, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
That's a bit judgmental and offensive. How about I say old women are dried up has-beens that don't put out anymore and old men want nothing to do with them?
Says Capt. Generalization.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#12 Apr 29, 2013
Sam I Am GEAM wrote:
Says Capt. Generalization.
Why don't you blow it out your @zz, you used up, passed around, whoorish liberal?

“FD&S is no way to be.”

Since: Feb 13

United States

#13 Apr 29, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Why don't you blow it out your @zz, you used up, passed around, whoorish liberal?
If I was 1/10th as miserable as you are I think I would kill myself.

Since: Jan 10

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#14 Apr 29, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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That's a bit judgmental and offensive. How about I say old women are dried up has-beens that don't put out anymore and old men want nothing to do with them?
That's adorable, coming from someone who regularly (almost daily) applies negative, nasty words to women.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#15 Apr 29, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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That's adorable, coming from someone who regularly (almost daily) applies negative, nasty words to women.
Aww c'mon Red. He is an equal opportunity skewerer. He goes after .liberals, democrats, people in Cook County ad nauseum

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#16 Apr 29, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
That's adorable, coming from someone who regularly (almost daily) applies negative, nasty words to women.
So I get called out on for broad generalizations, but no one else should. Okay.

Since: Jan 10

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#17 Apr 29, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Aww c'mon Red. He is an equal opportunity skewerer. He goes after .liberals, democrats, people in Cook County ad nauseum
He goes after women, not men.

Since: Jan 10

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#18 Apr 29, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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So I get called out on for broad generalizations, but no one else should. Okay.
As usual, you don't address specific criticisms, just deflect and ignore. Which shows you have no substantive argument to back up your inane posts.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#19 Apr 30, 2013
he-he, you said "broad"
edogxxx wrote:
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So I get called out on for broad generalizations, but no one else should. Okay.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Lawrence, MA

#20 Apr 30, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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As usual, you don't address specific criticisms, just deflect and ignore. Which shows you have no substantive argument to back up your inane posts.
Um, the specific criticism was getting called out for broad generalizations, yet no one else is held to the same standards. Try to follow along.

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