“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Feb 27, 2014
DEAR ABBY: Should I or shouldn't I tell my boss that more than a few people have come to me asking if he is fooling around with a young woman here in the office?

He is married; she is not. They spend a lot of time together "just visiting," laughing and obviously flirting. They have also been seen coming and going together, having lunch together every day, etc.

My reaction is that whether they are or aren't, it isn't my business. A little voice keeps telling me that, as his personal secretary, he may want to be made aware that people are talking about him behind his back, and I do feel protective and a sense of loyalty to him. Understand that I do not want to discuss it with him, have verification, denial or anything else -- only to give him the information.-- VACILLATING IN OHIO

DEAR VACILLATING: If there is anything going on in your employer's business that distracts from the work his employees are doing, he should be made aware.

DEAR ABBY: A few years ago, I relocated to a new state and bought my first home. I have enjoyed the privacy I have had while living on my own. However, because of the economy, I may need to rent out my extra room to make ends meet.

I have gotten used to a clothing-optional lifestyle and spend most of my time outdoors sunning, swimming and doing yard work in the buff. I also enjoy being indoors lounging, doing chores and sleeping the same way.

Would it be OK for me to advertise for someone who also enjoys this? Can I continue my lifestyle "au naturel" or must I go back to covering?-- NEVADA NUDE DUDE

DEAR NUDE DUDE: While practically anything goes in the want ads and on the Internet, your best bet would be to Google "nudists (or naturists) in Nevada." When you do, you will find contact information for nudist resorts and clubs, and your chances of finding a renter who won't be shocked or offended will be better.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I love each other and have three beautiful children, but we struggle in our marriage because of the stress of daily life. Lack of money has taken a toll. Sometimes we both work two jobs. Other times we find ourselves faced with difficult choices -- like whether to buy groceries, or pay the electric bill or the mortgage.(We often can't do all three.)

I know we're not the only family in this situation. You often advise people to seek guidance from a professional counselor. Can you share any resources for those of us who do not have the money or the insurance coverage to pay for counseling?-- HOLDING ON IN ARKANSAS

DEAR HOLDING ON: You are far from the only family who is trying to cope with little money and difficulty finding steady work. Many thousands of families are in the same situation -- and it is stressful for marriages and relationships.

Because you are unable to afford a private therapist, contact your county department of mental health and ask what services are available for people with limited resources. The psychology department at your nearest college or university may also be able to help during this difficult time.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#2 Feb 27, 2014
1- rumors like this exist in offices around the country. Stay out of it

2- if you're doing yardwork in the buff (is that even wise?) I sure hope you have a privacy fence

3- sell one of your children. How many do you really need anyway?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#3 Feb 27, 2014
1 Dont tell him, be ready to take his job.

2 You are gross. Nobody wants to watch your junk flap while you push a mower.

3 There are no services, and obam did not make access to mental health mandatory, so she's screwed.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#4 Feb 27, 2014
L1: No. Don't tell him unless you have a relationship where he knows you are looking out for his best interests and even then I don't know how it would help. Get your resume in order b/c he just might end up getting fired. Unless he's the owner, most people also have a boss and he'll have to answer to his.

L2: To each his own but if you advertise that you know what nut jobs are going to come out of the woodwork?

L3: Career and finance counselling. You need more money and you need knowledge on how to use what you have better. They usually have sliding scales and let you make payments. Best money you'll spend since it seems you and your husband are on the same page.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#5 Feb 27, 2014
LW1: Your waffling is irritating. Either you think it's none of your business or you think you need to tell him, for informational purposes of course.

If talking to him is uncomfortable then write him a note and leave it in his desk. Or mind your own business.

LW2: What Abby said. And ew, btw.

LW3: What Abby said and good luck.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#6 Feb 27, 2014
How about you take the girl aside and have a woman to woman chat about the way things appear.

Bug bites, scratches, rocks thrown up from the mower. Naked? Nope.
However, putting sunscreen on could be a treat.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#7 Feb 27, 2014
PEllen wrote:
How about you take the girl aside and have a woman to woman chat about the way things appear.
She probably knows how it might appear already, maybe that's even why she's doing it. It's common for young women to be office flirts, it's the only way they can get ahead because they sure don't have the brains
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#8 Feb 27, 2014
LW1: Reminds me of a couple of co-workers a few years back, although neither was the boss. They had "lunch" together every day and people talked about them behind their back. He was married, she had an abusive boyfriend that she finally left. She got pregnant, had a girl and named the baby after my married co-worker (the female version of both his first and middle names.) Yeah, it's nobody's business, but people are going to talk. Stay out of it.

LW2: Teams Race, Toj, and squishy. To each his own, but good luck finding a roommate. Eww.

LW3: You could join a church and get low-cost counseling from the minister/priest/pastor/rabbi. For groceries, start a garden (the kids can help with it) or go to the food back. Don't be proud and let your kids go hungry. Go to the unemployment office or a temp agency and see if there is training available to improve your job skills. You need to find one job that pays well. Two low-paying jobs will just wear you out.
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#9 Feb 27, 2014
Food bank.
Blunt Advice

Oakland, NJ

#10 Feb 27, 2014
LW1 - Unless your boss is completely clueless, he already knows that he is the talk of the office. Stay out of it.

LW2 -(The mindset of a nudist) If you get a roomate and his junk s more impressive than yours will you have a problem with that?

LW3 - You also need budget counseling. Good luck.
boundary painter

Waco, TX

#11 Feb 27, 2014
The Duggars can afford over six times that many and LW3 cannot afford
three? Since LW3 is giving Arkansas a silly name,, let's play
"Glance into the Future":

LW3 learned how to:
(a) Hunt and cook wild hogs.
(b) Grow green house fruits and vegetables in the event of polar winds,
wiping them out.
(c) Beg people for whatever they will give
(d) Rent herself out as a surrogate after her husband collects a grant
for getting a vasectomy
or
(e) other

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#12 Feb 27, 2014
LW1: Nunya. Stay out of it. Your job isn't to relay office gossip to him.

LW2: YEah!! That's a great idea!!! smdh

LW3: Sorry, lady ... you're too self sufficient to get any help. If only you had been a complete loser, the county would be throwing all sorts of services your way.

Perhaps knowing that you get the pleasure of paying for all the freeloaders of society, while you, yourself, struggle, will bring you and your husband closer together.

Since: Oct 09

United States

#13 Feb 27, 2014
boundary painter wrote:
The Duggars can afford over six times that many and LW3 cannot afford
three? Since LW3 is giving Arkansas a silly name,, let's play
"Glance into the Future":
LW3 learned how to:
(a) Hunt and cook wild hogs.
(b) Grow green house fruits and vegetables in the event of polar winds,
wiping them out.
(c) Beg people for whatever they will give
(d) Rent herself out as a surrogate after her husband collects a grant
for getting a vasectomy
or
(e) other
The Duggars are not a good example. His family had money, and he has real estate investments from that. and they receive thousands of dollars for every episode of their stupid Beverly Hillbillies in Arkansas show, which has been going on for a million years already.

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