“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#1 May 11, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am a 12-year-old girl who is happy, healthy and doing great in school. But lately I have felt sad, lonely and just plain frustrated. I used to talk to my parents about it, but I don't feel comfortable doing it anymore, and my friends don't like listening to me.

I have tried hard to push back these feelings, but it is putting a strain on me. Sometimes I break down crying and can't stop. Most people think it's just my age, but it's not. It's more than that. I want to talk to a psychologist, but I'm scared to ask for one. What do you think?-- SO MIXED UP

DEAR SO MIXED UP: Admitting you need professional help with a problem isn't something to be scared of. It is a sign of maturity. Your mood swings may be caused by the hormonal changes going on in your body as you are becoming a woman. However, because they are of concern to you, it is important that you let your parents and your pediatrician or a counselor at school know how you are feeling. It's the surest way to get the reassurance and, if necessary, the counseling you think you need.

DEAR ABBY: My 6-year-old daughter wants a dog more than anything in the world. She mentions it at least once a day.

She's a great kid, well-behaved and doing well in school, so I hate to disappoint her. But I have absolutely no interest in taking on the added responsibility of a pet like that.

My wife and I work long hours and our home is unoccupied for most of the day. It would have to be adjusted to be pet-friendly. I have nothing against pets, but I could never be considered an animal lover. We currently have two goldfish, but I can see that the time those guys bought me is quickly running out.

I want my daughter to be happy and rewarded for what a great kid she is. I don't want a dog. What do I do?-- BAD DADDY OUT WEST

DEAR DADDY: I would have suggested that you consider allowing your daughter to adopt a hamster or guinea pig, but they require a certain amount of care. A child has to be responsible enough to feed, water and clean the cage daily, and at 6, your daughter is not mature enough. Tell her that when she is older you will consider letting her have a pet. Cats require much less care than dogs do. Perhaps a compromise could be worked out at a later date.

DEAR ABBY: I am 75, and when I pass on I would like the undertaker to remove my six gold caps from my teeth. Then my wife can sell them to pay for my funeral. I think this will work out well. What is your take on this?-- ED IN FLORIDA

DEAR ED: As I started researching "dental gold," I realized that while there are companies that buy it, the price your wife would get will depend upon the weight of the gold -- most of which is 16-karat -- and the current market value of the metal.

Because of the nosedive that gold has experienced lately, I'm advising you to start saving up for your funeral now and to live long and prosper. My experts have informed me that most funeral homes are unwilling to remove fillings, caps, etc.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#2 May 11, 2013
1. Written by a parent, not a 12 year old
2. Get a cat
3. Yuk and apparently the undertakers agree with me.

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#3 May 11, 2013
LW1 - If written by a parent: just take your kid to a psychologist specializing in counseling kids. Ask your pediatrician for referral. Some schools also have counselors, so you may talk to your kid's teacher about it. If written by a kid: just talk to your parents again, or your teacher and ask the teacher to talk to your parents on your behalf.

LW2 - My 8yo daugther wants a dog more than anything in the world. She draws dogs, pretends to be a puppy, and talks about dogs non-stop. I have promised her a dog on the following conditions:

1. Our elderly cat has live out her long and healthy catly life first. She is afraid of dogs, and I am not bringing a puppy into the house that will stress her out.

2. Before we are ready to adopt a dog, my daughter has to prove to me that she can take care of it, i.e. walk it twice a day, feed it, brush it, play with it, etc. She can do so by either first helping somebody else (like an elderly neighbor) take care of their dog for 6 months or putting in 6 months of volunteering/helping at an animal shelter. Of course, she will have to be a bit older for that, but unless our cat gets hit by a car, she has 3-4 years of her life to go.

3. We are not buying a dog, but adopting one from a shelter. It cannot be very large; it has to be short- or medium-haired, and it has to be nice-tempered.

I guess what I am trying to say is this: decide on the conditions under which you WILL be willing to have a dog, even if it is not right now. Spell out those conditions to your child. Stick to them.

LW3 - Oh, Gawd. Yuck. Find out what basic cremation costs. Save money for that.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#4 May 11, 2013
1- "Dear Abby, I think I need counseling. Should I get some?"
Abby: "Yes."
Good God. This is what passes for advice columns nowadays?

2- Guinea Pig. Tell her it's a puppy.

3- The average funeral costs 10,000 dollars. How much gold is in your teeth? 50, maybe 60 dollars worth? Good luck. Get insurance.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#5 May 11, 2013
1 where does it say the lw was a girl?

2 get her a dog and quit being so selfish.

3 Ha! how about that diamong earring you got too, ya pirate.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#6 May 11, 2013
oh never mind, I guess my mind just shut down at 12.
boundary painter

Waco, TX

#7 May 12, 2013
RACE wrote:
2 get her a dog and quit being so selfish.
3 Ha! how about that diamong earring you got too, ya pirate.
Like these answers.

LW2 could also take the daughter to help out at the Humane Society
on the weekends if he's free from work and see how well she takes
to caring for dogs--and the right dog for their family.

Saint Petersburg, FL

#8 May 13, 2013
LW1: I believe this could have been written by a 12 year old. I felt that way at 12. And I don't see why a parent would write it.

LW2: I am very much a dog person, but I do have to agree that cats are much easier (don't ened to be let outside/walked, mainly). If you're not at home a lot, a cat might be better. Or do what I did and just get 2 puppies! Of course, that wasn't so good for my brand new furniture....

I should also add that kids should have pets that require care because it teaches responsibility and empathy.

Oh, and I think a guinea pig or hamster would be a lot more work with the cages.


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