Since: Oct 09

Wagner, SD

#21 Sep 12, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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But do people normally go to the bday parties of their kindergarten classmates? I must have been a loser then, I only went to a few every year, and those were the people I was actually friends with. But no one ever came to mine
:(
I think it's different for boys than it is for girls. I noticed that especially when my son was growing up.

Since: Jan 10

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#22 Sep 12, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
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Yes, all kids are different.
We let them stay up as late as they want usually on the weekends now and most nights during the summer (we started that this summer, they are soon to be 9, 10, and 11 ... so a little bit older than yours), but come Sunday night and during the week, it's back to bed by 7-7:30. They are really good with handling it all.
We don't care if they stay up during the week until 8 or 8:30 watching tv quietly in their rooms, at their ages too.
Nick's kids' bedtimes are 8:30/9 on school nights, 10/10:30 on non school nights. But when they go to bed, it's lights out. No reading or watching tv or playing allowed.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#23 Sep 12, 2013
LW1: A lot of times there just isn't enough time to open gifts if the party is at a public place. At my daughter's party last year, it was her FRIEND'S that wanted to do the gift opening. They were excited to see her open them! And she always writes thank yous/

LW2: You decide what you want to do for your kid. You already said something, so ket it lie. Inveite them to your house or meet somewhere. And when you DO go to their house, there is nothing wrong with saying you don't want your kid to play those games.

When my daughter was little, I put the Catholic channel on for her at bedtime. The chanting nuns put her to sleep. She now has a TV with a DVD player in her room, but no cable. Maybe when she's 12 (in a little over a year).

Since: Jan 10

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#24 Sep 12, 2013
I have to admit, the commercials for the newest release of Grand Theft Auto look awesome. But I wouldn't want my young kid to play it.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#25 Sep 12, 2013
That is truly bizzare, I never heard of that happening. Was this your step mothers daughter or your step fathers daughter.
On a guess, I would say your step mother.
Judge Janie wrote:
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OMG, I HATED that growing up! My stepsister was a month older than me and we had to have "joint" parties on HER effing birthday every year, never mind that she lived in a different town, she didn't even live with us. So none of my friends could make it and I didn't know most of hers. And it was really more her party, anyway, since she got most of the gifts and attention and mine was just an afterthought. I HATE HATE HATE it when parents pull that shyte on their kids.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#26 Sep 12, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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But do people normally go to the bday parties of their kindergarten classmates? I must have been a loser then, I only went to a few every year, and those were the people I was actually friends with. But no one ever came to mine
:(
Nunu's already been to one and it's only the 2nd week of school.

I don't recall going to many birthday parties as a kid either, but I think it's different nowadays. It's easier to invite the entire kindergarten class than risk someone's feelings getting hurt because they were not invited.

This changes as the kids get older and have definite BFFs and kids they don't like, but in kindergarten, kids haven't had time to form those opinions yet. Easier (and probably kinder) to just invite the whole class.

This has got me thinking, what am I going to do for Nunu? I can't *afford* to invite the whole class...

Since: Jan 10

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#27 Sep 12, 2013
In my school (which was very small, 15-20 kids per grade), you had to invite either all the kids of your gender, or you had to invite the entire class (since invitations got handed out at school). So, squishy, could you invite just the girls?

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#28 Sep 12, 2013
squishymama wrote:
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Nunu's already been to one and it's only the 2nd week of school.
I don't recall going to many birthday parties as a kid either, but I think it's different nowadays. It's easier to invite the entire kindergarten class than risk someone's feelings getting hurt because they were not invited.
This changes as the kids get older and have definite BFFs and kids they don't like, but in kindergarten, kids haven't had time to form those opinions yet. Easier (and probably kinder) to just invite the whole class.
This has got me thinking, what am I going to do for Nunu? I can't *afford* to invite the whole class...
Maybe just do a girl's party and don't hand out invites in class? Or you can do a sleepover and say she can pick, sy, 2 or 3 friends (and again, don't hand out invites in class). I don't feel like having 8 girls over for a sleepover this year (mostly because it's a lot of work and A LOT of noise and VERY little sleep!), so I am trying to talk my daughter into picking a friend or two to go to the Nickelodean Hotel or something.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#29 Sep 12, 2013
itser wrote:
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In kindergarten? Yeah, I went to at least that many. Probably more, since there were close to 30 kids in my class, plus all the cousins that had a party. I think 10 is completely realistic.
Yup. Especially since the rule is that if you want to pass out the invites at school, you are required to invite (a) the whole class, or (b) all the boys or girls.

It sounds like most of those ten were the parties at the play places, and the reality is those tend to offer something like a package for 25 for $x. I've taken the kid to I don't even know how many parties at Pump it Up, and I see their basic party package is $295 for 25 kids. Plunk the money down, pass out the invites, and you're done.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#30 Sep 12, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
In my school (which was very small, 15-20 kids per grade), you had to invite either all the kids of your gender, or you had to invite the entire class (since invitations got handed out at school). So, squishy, could you invite just the girls?
Great minds...:D

At my daughter's school, everyone's mailing address is on the school site (in rare cases that it isn't, you can jsut acll the parent), so you can just mail them.

Since: Aug 08

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#31 Sep 12, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Nick's kids' bedtimes are 8:30/9 on school nights, 10/10:30 on non school nights. But when they go to bed, it's lights out. No reading or watching tv or playing allowed.
My wife and I are pushed to our limits with a son with autism, her working and taking a college course, and me working and having to take on more household duties since she is working. 7, 7:30 with them spending alone time watching some tv or reading before bed, is something we need a lot of nights. Sometimes we'll let them go past a little bit, but it just depends.

On the weekends, we usually don't even make them sleep in their rooms. It's kind of a free for all. They can sleep wherever they want and go to bed when they want. During the week we like structure, but if they have a good week in school, the unstructured weekend is their reward.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#32 Sep 12, 2013
Stina2 wrote:
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Great minds...:D
At my daughter's school, everyone's mailing address is on the school site (in rare cases that it isn't, you can jsut acll the parent), so you can just mail them.
We have a class/school directory, so I could invite specific people. Hadn't thought about just the girls, but I have a feeling that wouldn't fly with Nunu. She likes everybody!

It would also depend on what she wants to do. If we decide to do something at home, I could take on the whole class ('cause I'm sure not everyone will come) but if she wants another ice skating party, maybe the whole class could fit on the small rink...

And we also have friends outside of school that would need to be invited too. I can think of at least 7 or 8, and when you have a limit of 20-25 kids, that's a big percentage of attendees.

<sigh> Thank goodness it's not until February.

Since: Jan 10

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#33 Sep 12, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
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My wife and I are pushed to our limits with a son with autism, her working and taking a college course, and me working and having to take on more household duties since she is working. 7, 7:30 with them spending alone time watching some tv or reading before bed, is something we need a lot of nights. Sometimes we'll let them go past a little bit, but it just depends.
On the weekends, we usually don't even make them sleep in their rooms. It's kind of a free for all. They can sleep wherever they want and go to bed when they want. During the week we like structure, but if they have a good week in school, the unstructured weekend is their reward.
Your kids are going to *sleep* around the same time as Nick kids, so I can't imagine getting worked up over how they spend that last 30-60 minutes of the night. Whatever works to get your kids be good about bed time, go for it!:)

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#34 Sep 12, 2013
squishymama wrote:
I think it's different nowadays. It's easier to invite the entire kindergarten class than risk someone's feelings getting hurt because they were not invited.
Ah, you're right. The whole pussification of today's youth thing.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#35 Sep 12, 2013
1: I can't choose sides, as I see benefits to both ways. I will say I never had zillions of parties, but I grew up in tougher times where kids weren't forced to invite every freak in their class lest one weirdo's feelings were hurt.

2: 10 is too young to already be stuck inside in front of a game consol for hours. So uncool and unhealthy. I hate lazy parents; I hate lazy parents who admit they're lazy. They should be punched then castrated.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#36 Sep 12, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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But do people normally go to the bday parties of their kindergarten classmates? I must have been a loser then, I only went to a few every year, and those were the people I was actually friends with. But no one ever came to mine
:(
You're just teeing it up for everyone, aren't you.

Since: Oct 09

Wagner, SD

#37 Sep 12, 2013
RACE wrote:
That is truly bizzare, I never heard of that happening. Was this your step mothers daughter or your step fathers daughter.
On a guess, I would say your step mother.
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No, it was actually my stepfather's daughter, my stepmother only had sons. I've worked with kids and in schools in the past and I was surprised to find out how common the "joint" bd party is for siblings with close birthdays. I think it's really unfair for the children, however more convenient it is for the parents.

Since: Jan 10

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#38 Sep 12, 2013
Judge Janie wrote:
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No, it was actually my stepfather's daughter, my stepmother only had sons. I've worked with kids and in schools in the past and I was surprised to find out how common the "joint" bd party is for siblings with close birthdays. I think it's really unfair for the children, however more convenient it is for the parents.
Janie, your icon thingie says you're in SD, but aren't you in CO? Are you safe from the flooding?

Since: Oct 09

Wagner, SD

#39 Sep 13, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Janie, your icon thingie says you're in SD, but aren't you in CO? Are you safe from the flooding?
No, I'm in South Dakota, never lived in CO much as I like the state. I'm originally from OH, so that might be what you're thinking.

That flooding is horrible, I sure hope more people don't die or get hurt. Did you see the rescue yesterday of the guy trapped in a car that was overturned in rushing water? Those first responders are so heroic.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#40 Sep 13, 2013
Similar Bdays within a household I could see, but to two differnt peeps in different houses, in different towns?? That just seems over the top to me.
Judge Janie wrote:
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No, it was actually my stepfather's daughter, my stepmother only had sons. I've worked with kids and in schools in the past and I was surprised to find out how common the "joint" bd party is for siblings with close birthdays. I think it's really unfair for the children, however more convenient it is for the parents.

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