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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 May 7, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I'm responding to your request for comments about the letter from "Happily Single" (Feb. 13) and whether a divorce would be the first course of action upon winning the lottery. In a community-property state, a divorce after winning wouldn't legally protect you from having to share the spoils with your soon-to-be (and probably now bitter) ex-spouse.

My husband and I have talked at length about what we'd do if either of us won the Powerball jackpots, and no, divorce was not on the list. We'd start by consulting a lawyer/financial planner to find a way to protect our privacy before claiming the money.

I suspect the comments from "Happily's" co-workers are evidence that unhappily marrieds group together -- or enjoy complaining about their spouses. Either way, it's sad. Studies show that complaining about a spouse significantly decreases one's satisfaction in a relationship. While we all "vent" from time to time, if talking divorce is your first response to a jackpot win, then you're in the wrong relationship.-- IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL

DEAR IN IT: I hit the jackpot with the huge response I received about that letter. And the majority of readers said they would not divorce:

DEAR ABBY: I am a lottery winner, and I feel blessed and proud that I can take care of my wife the way she deserves. Within two minutes of my win I was on the phone with her, telling her to quit her stressful job. We now have a wonderful life, with more than we ever hoped for.-- SATISFIED IN THE SUNSHINE STATE

DEAR ABBY: I'm single, but that letter didn't surprise me. I think a lot of people feel they must be married by a certain age, so they end up "settling." Read some of the crazy lottery winner stories posted online, and you'll see people trade in their spouses because they feel they can do better or "move up," kind of like buying a bigger, better house. I'm not saying it's right, but it happens.-- CINDY IN ARLINGTON, VA.

DEAR ABBY: If I won the lottery, the first thing I'd do is get married. We're waiting so we can afford the nice wedding we both want.-- STEPHANIE IN SAUGUS, CALIF.

DEAR ABBY: The first thing I'd do if I won is pay off all my debts. I'm already divorced.-- DIANA IN TEXAS CITY, TEXAS

DEAR ABBY: I wouldn't consider getting divorced if I won, but I might finally buy that second husband I've been wanting but can't afford.-- TACOMA READER

DEAR ABBY: I've been married for 40 years. If I won I would not divorce. There's no way I'd want to give him half the money. I would stay married so I could have control over the money he spent. It would make up for all the years that he would pinch my pennies and make me squeeze a nickel till the buffalo pooped.-- WISHFUL IN OHIO

DEAR ABBY: If I were to win the lottery, I would trade all of it just to have one more hug and one more night talking with my wife, who died 16 years ago. Our children were young when she died, and I have tried my best to raise them to be good adults. But my heart still aches over losing her to cancer. I believe all widows and widowers would agree with me on this.-- TRENT IN OKLAHOMA

DEAR ABBY: "When" we win, my husband and I plan on going into a self-made "witness protection program" to hide from the long-lost relatives. But we will absolutely do it together.-- HOPING IN GEORGIA

Since: Jan 10

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#2 May 7, 2013
I didn't read people's "i'd get a divorce" reaction to mean they would try to keep their spouse from having any of the money, just that, with money no longer being a worry, they had the freedom to exit their marriage. Not being able to sell a house has kept many couples together when they'd rather part.

the more money I'd win in a big lottery win, the more I'd give away.

Since: Jan 10

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#3 May 7, 2013
" I believe all widows and widowers would agree with me on this."

Wrong. Many have moved on and found love again.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#4 May 7, 2013
1 If I won the lottery, I would buy the lamy columns and hire all the Regs do them instead.
Maybe even an interactive one where you could submit your lame questions online and have us ummmm "Help" you immediately.

“Colorful Beyond Words”

Since: May 11

"Always On The Go "

#5 May 7, 2013
Bravo to TACOMA READER ....who said she would buy that second husband she'd been wanting but couldn't afford. LOLOLOLOL !! What would this world be without humor?:)

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#6 May 7, 2013
Hatti_Hollerand wrote:
Bravo to TACOMA READER ....who said she would buy that second husband she'd been wanting but couldn't afford. LOLOLOLOL !! What would this world be without humor?:)
Funny? Extra husbands are a serious expense, doncha' know?

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#7 May 7, 2013
"...make me squeeze a nickel till the buffalo pooped."

This made me laugh.

And Trent in OK made me cry.

What an emotional roller coaster for a copout of a column!
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#8 May 7, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
"...make me squeeze a nickel till the buffalo pooped."
This made me laugh.
And Trent in OK made me cry.
What an emotional roller coaster for a copout of a column!
Me too!!!

The guy in FL that won the lotto, though, should be careful! Next thing ya know he'll be buried under a cement slab in someone's backyard like that other guy that won!

Since: Jan 10

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#9 May 7, 2013
Afte ryou do the usual -- setting up trusts, securing your money, etc.-- after winning the lottery... what would be some big splurge item for yourself? Just one.

I would buy a house and pay someone to make it like the Cat House in San Diego, where there are ramps and climbing poles and secret pathways just for their cats to use.

And maybe an Audi TT. I love those little cars.

“Colorful Beyond Words”

Since: May 11

"Always On The Go "

#10 May 7, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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Funny? Extra husbands are a serious expense, doncha' know?
She just won the lottery ...she doesn't care. LOL !:)

“Colorful Beyond Words”

Since: May 11

"Always On The Go "

#11 May 7, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Afte ryou do the usual -- setting up trusts, securing your money, etc.-- after winning the lottery... what would be some big splurge item for yourself? Just one.
Long vacation to Cape Town , South Africa. I've always wanted to go there. PLUS .....

I have my extra ( much younger ) husband over there and we need some time together. LOL !!

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#12 May 7, 2013
RACE wrote:
1 If I won the lottery, I would buy the lamy columns and hire all the Regs do them instead.
Maybe even an interactive one where you could submit your lame questions online and have us ummmm "Help" you immediately.
Love love love this idea.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#13 May 7, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Afte ryou do the usual -- setting up trusts, securing your money, etc.-- after winning the lottery... what would be some big splurge item for yourself? Just one.
I would buy a house and pay someone to make it like the Cat House in San Diego, where there are ramps and climbing poles and secret pathways just for their cats to use.
And maybe an Audi TT. I love those little cars.
A house. I already have it it picked out. It's on the water and last year it was selling for 475K. The average house price here (per the county info I looked up last night) is 203K...so there ya go. I's on the water. OR I might buy one of those houses on Lake Washington (like the Sleepless in Seattle house), or Hawaii, but I'm not sure how I feel about being "stuck" on an island. <shrug> I would also take an extended vacation in French Polynesia (Tahiti, Bora Bora...) and a NEW Jag right of the showroom floor.:D

I would also free my niece (the good one in Cali) from the drudgery of her job. I would hire her as my personal assistant. She's really good at that kind of stuff and I would be able to pay her more than the $19.00 an hour she makes now. I need a personal assistant now I just can't afford to pay one.:(

Since: Aug 08

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#14 May 7, 2013
Hatti!!!

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#15 May 7, 2013
Just wanted to add that the reason that I know how much the average house costs here, and why I was looking it up is that I've decided to buy a house. I'm giving myself 2 years to get it together...make sure my credit is good enough, save a DP (like 60K), etc., etc., etc... Tired of giving all my money to pay someone else's mortgage. I want to be able to paint the bathroom purple. Not that I am going to (as if...) but I want the option.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#16 May 7, 2013
I'm pretty sure that if I had a million dollars, I'd be a millionare.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#17 May 7, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
And maybe an Audi TT. I love those little cars.
I'd buy a small RV, and then we'd all take off together as a family in the RV for a couple months.

When we got back, I'd buy the TT too.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#18 May 7, 2013
I'd buy a big house on a couple of acreas. It would have a big wrap around porch, a swimming pool -- one that you can swim indoors and outdoors (no, I don't know how that's done but I could afford to hire someone who does).

Then I'd have a luxurious condo or two in great places like Greece, Hawaii or whatever. Keep them for 3-5 years, sell 'em (to at least get the money back or near it), and then buy somewhere else.

I'd want to work for that feeling of purpose that Tonka doesn't seem to need ;)-- but it would be a charity that I created and run (with the help of very good professional people that I would pay). May pay would be given back to the charity. I'd have a tax adviser on payroll that would handle all those pesky tax issues both professionally and personally.

So it's more than one. Powerball is up to $222 million. I might be able to afford it if I win.

Since: Jan 10

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#20 May 7, 2013
pde wrote:
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I'd buy a small RV, and then we'd all take off together as a family in the RV for a couple months.
When we got back, I'd buy the TT too.
Nick and I both love the idea of traveling the nation in an RV.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#21 May 7, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Afte ryou do the usual -- setting up trusts, securing your money, etc.-- after winning the lottery... what would be some big splurge item for yourself? Just one.
Only one splurge?

I think I might buy the building we currently live in and rehab it to the nines but not increase the rent for the rest of the tenents.

It's really a beautiful place; it's just been sorely neglected.

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