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pde

Davis Junction, IL

#21 Dec 27, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Hah! I was thinking the same thing afte I wrote my response. I don't know any hetero's who use the word partner. No matter the age, its bf or gf.
My grandma called her boyfriend "partner" that she had while I was growing up (they dated for almost 20 years, but never married because she would have lost one of the pensions she was receiving as a widow).

It was always, "this is my partner Al" not "this is my boyfriend Al". Al died over a decade ago, so she was using this terminology 20-30 years ago.

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#22 Dec 27, 2012
I can see some older couples using the word "partner," because I've heard quite a few older people say that they don't like using the terms boy/girlfriend at their ages.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#23 Dec 27, 2012
FWIW, "partner" is the term used most frequently in the UK, by both genders. It's used much more often than "spouse," "husband," "wife," "boyfriend," "girlfriend."
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#24 Dec 27, 2012
RACE wrote:
2 So your also a male and your partners parents have photos of their son with a woman and none with you. Hmmmm wonder why????
I blew right past the "partner" thing on first read - before coffee. On second read, I notice that LW says "reminders of him with someone else" rather than "reminders of him with another woman". I think you nailed it.

I don't know if I would get too worked up about this. This is part of his life history. Be grateful that the parents treat you well and when you go to their house, sit where the picture isn't staring you in the face, if possible.
pde

Davis Junction, IL

#25 Dec 27, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I can see some older couples using the word "partner," because I've heard quite a few older people say that they don't like using the terms boy/girlfriend at their ages.
And boyfriend/girlfriend may have more of a temporary connotation, when there are many older folk who are in more-or-less permanent relationships but shouldn't get married for usually financial reasons.

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#26 Dec 27, 2012
Julie wrote:
FWIW, "partner" is the term used most frequently in the UK, by both genders. It's used much more often than "spouse," "husband," "wife," "boyfriend," "girlfriend."
Interesting!
pde

Davis Junction, IL

#27 Dec 27, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Interesting!
See, I know that Tonka and others around here insist that they only know gay couples who use the word "partner" and that's really not been my experience. I wonder if it's terminology differences between different areas of the US as well. In my experience, it seems like any couple who has been together for a long time (let's say 2+ years) and hasn't or can't get married for whatever reasons, use partner instead of boyfriend/girlfriend. It's a group that includes gay couples, but it's not limited to gay couples.

It's also more common if the couple has moved in together/is living together outside marriage. Only using boyfriend/girlfriend in that circumstance seems odd to me.

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#28 Dec 27, 2012
pde wrote:
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See, I know that Tonka and others around here insist that they only know gay couples who use the word "partner" and that's really not been my experience.
To be clear, I don't know anyone, gay or straight that uses the word partner. I just see it used on tv and in the media, minly in a gay context. I don't currently have any gays in my social circle, but even when I did, I don't recall the use of the word partner.

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#29 Dec 28, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>To be clear, I don't know anyone, gay or straight that uses the word partner. I just see it used on tv and in the media, minly in a gay context. I don't currently have any gays in my social circle, but even when I did, I don't recall the use of the word partner.
Same here. The only time I really see/hear "partner" being used to describe a romantic partner is in advice columns.
RACE

Fort Lauderdale, FL

#30 Dec 28, 2012
Actually, I have heard gay couples use both "Partner"
and "boyfriend/girlfriend ", but have never heard a straight couple use the word "Partner".

I can see the europeans using the word though, as to them its normal for straight men to have physical contact with each other, I imaging that "Partner" just about sums it up no matter the relationship.

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