Maybe you should look up the definition of self-absorbed. You dont seem to know what it means. This is all about him and what he wants:<quoted text>
You are so bass akwards. I say he IS being an adult and so NOT self absorbed by realizing he doesn't want the responsibility of fatherhood.
After we got married, we got two dogs that fulfill ***my*** needs.***I*** no longer want children.***I*** am content with our life.
***I feel*** that if I agree to have children ***I*** will be miserable and regretful for the rest of my life. On the other hand,***I am heartbroken*** that she is so upset over the matter.
To him, who cares if he married her under false pretenses? Who cares what she wants? He has golfing every weekend with the guys and following through on his word might cut into that and ruin his life!!!! Oh noes.
The guy is so full of shyte too. How does getting 2 dogs magically make you this anti-children? Maybe the dip shyte should of thought about whether he really wanted children before he married that woman.
While it is possible, I don't recall off hand any letter where the woman changed their mind after marriage. I think it's a pretty crappy thing to do. Its a complete misrepresentation and grounds for annulment.<quoted text>
We've seen letters where it was the woman who changed her mind. I don't recall you suggesting she quit being a dooosh and get knocked up anyway. Seriously, you need to listen to yourself.
Having said that, even with women, the key to the issue is whether a person can love their child. If you will love the child and provide it with a happy home and promised your partner as a condition to marriage that you have children with them, I think you owe it to your partner to do so.
If you are not a big enough person to follow through on your word and would not be able to love the child and provide it with a happy home, then you should not, and your partner has every right to be absolutely furious with you and to leave you.
How many folks have had kids that they would not have chosen to have? I think most pregnancies are that way. Do you think Brian Urlacher wanted to have a child with that money grubbing h. 0? Do you think he takes it out on the kid? I doubt it. Most folks dont do that.