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Since: Jan 10

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#22 Feb 18, 2013
Etiquette says you don't owe any guests NOT in relationships a "plus 1" on their invite. I didn't do it when I was getting married. But engaged or married couples *must* be invited as a couple, and once you start getting into dating couples, you need to be consistent. You can't invite one couple who's been dating for 3 months and then leave off the 1-year girlfriend of someone else.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#23 Feb 18, 2013
So all this could be the bride and grooms fault and not the BF!
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Etiquette says you don't owe any guests NOT in relationships a "plus 1" on their invite. I didn't do it when I was getting married. But engaged or married couples *must* be invited as a couple, and once you start getting into dating couples, you need to be consistent. You can't invite one couple who's been dating for 3 months and then leave off the 1-year girlfriend of someone else.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#24 Feb 18, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Etiquette says you don't owe any guests NOT in relationships a "plus 1" on their invite. I didn't do it when I was getting married. But engaged or married couples *must* be invited as a couple, and once you start getting into dating couples, you need to be consistent. You can't invite one couple who's been dating for 3 months and then leave off the 1-year girlfriend of someone else.
Then according to etiquette, only a couple that's married should both be invited.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#25 Feb 18, 2013
pde wrote:
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I don't see the conflict.
In post 9, he's slamming the woman for wanting their decisions to be respected.
In post 10, he's defending the man who is not respecting his girlfriend.
Basically, both posts say that the women in these situations are not deserving of respect, or deserving to react to a lack of respect.
Spoken like a true man-hater.

Controlling men are aholes. Controlling women have "decisions that should be respected."
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#26 Feb 18, 2013
1. So basically Eddie is picking the feeling of a waitress he sees once in awhile over yours. Think about it...think about it....

2. Youuuuuuuuuu sound like a PITA. and I think hyphenating children's names is dumb.

3. And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon....
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#27 Feb 18, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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This seems a bit harsh. Frankly, I wouldn't WANT to be dragged to a wedding where I didn't know anybody, especially the bride and groom.
Well of course not, you have the social skills of a 2-yr.-old with a poopy diaper. Other people would enjoy being with their SO and meeting new people in a festive setting.
wut

Tampa, FL

#28 Feb 18, 2013
what

Since: Jan 10

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#29 Feb 18, 2013
RACE wrote:
So all this could be the bride and grooms fault and not the BF!
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Yes, but the boyfriend should decline and if pressed, then he can say "Sorry, I just don't feel comfortable going to a wedding without my girlfriend." That gives the bride/groom a chance to say "Oh,I didn't realize you two had been dating that long, she's invited too then!" Or not.

However, I don't think this boyfriend has been too upfront with the bar crowd about his girlfriend.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#30 Feb 18, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
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Well of course not, you have the social skills of a 2-yr.-old with a poopy diaper. Other people would enjoy being with their SO and meeting new people in a festive setting.
Oh please, I've seen it too many times with my own eyes.

Women who are dragged to weddings where they don't know anybody usually end up sitting alone at a table sulking while giving her man the evil eye for walking around talking to people instead of being chained to her hip.

Since: Jan 10

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#31 Feb 18, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Oh please, I've seen it too many times with my own eyes.
Women who are dragged to weddings where they don't know anybody usually end up sitting alone at a table sulking while giving her man the evil eye for walking around talking to people instead of being chained to her hip.
I think it depends mor eon whether someone is an introvert or an extrovert, not gender.
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#32 Feb 18, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Oh please, I've seen it too many times with my own eyes.
Women who are dragged to weddings where they don't know anybody usually end up sitting alone at a table sulking while giving her man the evil eye for walking around talking to people instead of being chained to her hip.
I don't know what kind of social misfits you are hanging out with. Sulking and giving their man the evil eye? The invitee should do a better job of including his/her guest. And I have seen with my own eyes outsiders carry on civil conversations with insiders. I have even witnessed smiles and laughter. I have been the outsider guest several times, and it just isn't that hard.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#33 Feb 18, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
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I don't know what kind of social misfits you are hanging out with. Sulking and giving their man the evil eye? The invitee should do a better job of including his/her guest. And I have seen with my own eyes outsiders carry on civil conversations with insiders. I have even witnessed smiles and laughter. I have been the outsider guest several times, and it just isn't that hard.
You are gregarious. Not everyone is. Before you starting coming around tehre was even a searate thread for non-extroverts here.

Some people are shy and don't mingle well. Dog's description is not that unusual a situation.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#34 Feb 18, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>You are gregarious. Not everyone is. Before you starting coming around tehre was even a searate thread for non-extroverts here.
Some people are shy and don't mingle well. Dog's description is not that unusual a situation.
I had a friend who brought his psycho ex to a edding BECAUSE he would not have to babysit her. She was very outgoing and the other person he was thinking of bringing was not and she didn't know anyone at the wedding.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#35 Feb 18, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
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I have been the outsider guest several times, and it just isn't that hard.
For you. For some people, it is a challenge. And there's a world of happy medium between sulking/giving the evil eye and being a social butterfly.

All that aside, I agree with Angela's take on inviting people as couples.
Kuuipo

Salinas, CA

#36 Feb 18, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
1. So basically Eddie is picking the feeling of a waitress he sees once in awhile over yours. Think about it...think about it....
Exactly! This is the real issue.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#37 Feb 19, 2013
from the letter....
I was not invited. Eddie doesn't dance and has slow danced with me only once. When I told him I would not appreciate him slow dancing with anyone there,
Kuuipo wrote:
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Exactly! This is the real issue.
The real issue is her controlling him, not his disrespecting her.
She does not say she wanted to attend, or that she is hurt about not being invited, she just wants to make sure eddie does not pop wood dancing with someone.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#38 Feb 19, 2013
RACE wrote:
from the letter....
I was not invited. Eddie doesn't dance and has slow danced with me only once. When I told him I would not appreciate him slow dancing with anyone there,
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The real issue is her controlling him, not his disrespecting her.
She does not say she wanted to attend, or that she is hurt about not being invited, she just wants to make sure eddie does not pop wood dancing with someone.
Exactly. If he does not dance, why did she feel the need to even throw that out there. He probably does not do smack and coke either. Maybe she should make it clear that she would not appreciate him doing those either.

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