I can understand that's what you're use to. I have friends that vent about things. Sometimes people think they want you to SOLVE it when all they are doing is organizing their own thoughts and venting.<quoted text>
Once a week is pretty often, IMHO. IDK, I feel like friendships, as an adult, should be pretty easy. My friends and I vent about problems, but it's never one-sided or often. And there's usually an attempt on the venter's part to, yanno, do something about the problem.
And maybe I'm a jerk or it's just my personality. J has a friend who comes to him for advice and rarely follows it. This would drive me bonkers, but J seems to like the challenge, I guess.
I have a friend whose husband is living in the house but leading a separate life b/c he's selfish and only cares about himself. She'd get a divorce but she has 2 special needs kids and she has enough going on. She's realistic, but she vents about things.