I never said it was a matter of right or wrong. I was stating that I initially had the same reaction as Cass. He's out one weekend a month. She's out one weekend a month. So hslf the month kids don't have both parents. Seemed a bit much till I filled in the details as I saw them. Then it does not seem like very much.<quoted text>
There is no right or wrong. It all comes down to the people involved. A lot of women donít want their husband going out boozing it up once a month until late in the morning, especially if they arenít going to come home. It's a matter of frequency. I think itís important to discuss what you are expecting before you marry and have kids.
I knew once I got married, I wasnít going to be going out late into the night once a month. Not like we sat down and set limits and such before we married, but I just knew the person I was marrying and that this would cause some tension if I expected that. My wife isn't a big drinker and never has been. So, the hey, you can go out and party too once a month and not come home, isn't really the quid pro quid that this guy makes it out to be, because that doesn't interest her. This guy sounds similarly situated and given this I would be surprised if this guy didnít understand that too before he married. At the very least he should of.
So, it's really about knowing what you are signing up for. I will fault him for that. While you can say the same about her, I honestly donít know any guys with very young kids who go out partying once a month and who donít come home. I just donít and I donít hang with boy scouts and never have.
LMAO. I canít say my experiences at 1 or 2 AM out on the town with the boys are anywhere close to what my wife experiences when she spends an afternoon shopping with her mom. That shyte that happens in a bar or a club late into the night never happens to my wife when she goes shopping with her mom. These are not even the two same things.
As far as shopping vs going out late, I was not comparing those experiences. I was comparing the amount of time the other parent would be flying solo with the kids. One parent leaves for girls/boys night out, the kids are likely gonna be in bed soon, so its not like leaving that parent to deal with the kids for a long period of time.