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Urgh

Nashville, TN

#21 Nov 20, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
Wow, coupla winners today.
L1: Do you *want* every health care professional to kill themselves by getting attached to every patient and patient's family? They appreciate your thanks; you aren't friends.
ONE card or phone call would have sufficed for the widower but not one of these clods could manage that! I don't know if they appreciated any thanks beyond consuming the homecooked meals and accepting the handsewn dishtowels but they no doubt were happy to accept payment for the postmortem bills. You're right, they aren't his friends!
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#22 Nov 20, 2012
Urgh wrote:
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They sure had no problems taking her homemade stuff and dishtowels while she was living so they were attached to her when it suited their purposes but when she could no longer was around to do anything for them, none of them could cough up a card or a call! Oh, but I'm sure they still sent the widower their bills.
Dumb. "When it suited their purposes?" What "purposes" did accepting her gift suit? Did they sell them for profit? Did they trade them for chemo equipment? What should they have done? Told her to take her gifts and stuff it? You make it sound like they were milking the old lady for cupcakes and textiles. And should they not have billed her? The widower getting bunched up over the lack of a card after 5 years of care shows a total lack of perspective.
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#23 Nov 20, 2012
Urgh wrote:
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ONE card or phone call would have sufficed for the widower but not one of these clods could manage that! I don't know if they appreciated any thanks beyond consuming the homecooked meals and accepting the handsewn dishtowels but they no doubt were happy to accept payment for the postmortem bills. You're right, they aren't his friends!
Good grief you sound needy. Maybe you and the widower can go start a People are Thoughtless support group.

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#24 Nov 21, 2012
'Cmone, you can do better than that! I thought you knew how to feed trolls.
Sam I Am wrote:
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Good grief you sound needy. Maybe you and the widower can go start a People are Thoughtless support group.

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#25 Nov 21, 2012
Urgh wrote:
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Except take a dying patient's homecooked meals and handsewn dishtowels! You're right, though, it WAS a mistake for them to consider these 'professionals' to be their friends. True friends would have attempted to send a card or made a phone call. I think these 'professionals' are the ones who need therapy for being so selfish when it suited them but indifferent when they couldn't gain anything from it.
What the hell is wrong with you? ARe you brain damaged?

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#26 Nov 21, 2012
There is a point here. Even though someone in a caring profession becomes intimately knowledgable about a person, they remain patients or clients whatever, not friends. There needs to be an emotional distance because teh caregiver needs it to do the treaments or give honest advice. The patient/client is by definition emotionally needy at the difficult time but it is not a friendship which is established.

That does not obviate courtesies such as sending a hallmark card, but although I don't agree with teh way Urgh put it, she has a valid point

Toj

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#27 Nov 21, 2012
L1: It would not have taken much to send a card but I do agree that the LW is mistaken -- these were professionals. You want them emotionally detached to make the hard decisions. Can't help think, though, if I were a doctor, I would have my assistant send a card out. But the doctors are human, probably work way too many hours and I would not hold this against them for not doing it. The LW is grieving, and part of the grieving process is anger. So, he's letting some of his anger out on the docs. I can understand that. Doesn't make it right but I understand it.

L2: Talk to the parents about your feelings, not the kid. If you can't convince him, tell your grandson in life there will be many things he has to negotiate, accept and/or not like. This is one of those things. How he deals with it will be the reflection upon him. And since when can't he try out for both? If I was the grandchild I'd screw up the wrestling tryout and ace the basketball tryout. Probably not the best way but that's what I would do. Dad had his own chance -- that's over.

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#28 Nov 21, 2012
I don't think Urgh's point is valid at all.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#29 Nov 21, 2012
Urgh wrote:
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They sure had no problems taking her homemade stuff and dishtowels while she was living so they were attached to her when it suited their purposes but when she could no longer was around to do anything for them, none of them could cough up a card or a call! Oh, but I'm sure they still sent the widower their bills.
You sound remarkably ignorant about the real world. Grow up.

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