Your premise is wrong. No children, mothers, or fathers are taken away. Again;<quoted text>
The demand for ss couples to be equated to marriage is that children be removed from consideration to equate ss couples to marriage, and mother and father be removed to equate ss couples to family.
And that is good and right?
"Certainly, the denial will not affect the gender choices of those seeking marriage. This is not merely a matter of poor fit of remedy to perceived problem,..., but a lack of any demonstrated connection between DOMA's treatment of same-sex couples and its asserted goal of strengthening the bonds and benefits to society of heterosexual marriage."
First Circuit Appellate