far too often people with small problems are embarassed to bring up the problem to somebody else.
they shy away from the questions or action because the response is small.
if you have a mouse in the house, they simply tell you to get a trap and get rid of the mouse.
the protest comes when people want to know why the mouse was attracted to the inside of their home in the first place, and also perhaps what can be done to prevent it from happening again.
because of the mental & emotional neglect in the responses when these people ask for help, they wait until the problem gets big enough as if it fills a void of embarassment.
why was there neglect in the first place?
because people call the information 'trade secrets'
an exterminator can get rid of the mice, but a really good exterminator will also do something to prevent them from coming back.
see, the prevention is the + in their A+ service, at least to them in their own views.
there is a lot of information that doesn't get shared because people either make money with the information, or because the person holds the information valuable like a family or industry secret.
it is those secrets that make people feel better about themselves when money doesn't satisfy the value they think they are worth.
because see, the two points of interest there are money & power.
the only thing left is fame.
but sometimes fame & power get mixed around with eachother.
because sometimes the answer is really really easy, and people are modest.. they think such an easy answer doesn't deserve the power category & should be put into the fame category.
and that is when they walk away feeling famous, as they look at you with less fame = you are a total worthless idiot to the person.
not everybody walks, talks, and thinks alike.
sometimes when the sharing of information happens, the person needs help themselves.. but nobody is around to answer the call for help.
maybe the other people gave the helpful person some food, and when the helpful person needed help.. they call the people giving food and they treat the person as if the food wasn't enough.
maybe the person giving help got extra money as a tip, and when the person calls the other people for help.. they treat the helpful person as if they are cursed with troubles.
morality is of more, not less.
but all too often people try to fix or solve problems by doing less rather than more.
people ignore problems, and that starts the entire process of less.
then people get involved while keeping the concept of less is more, because they feel it helps them stay out of the way when they don't know what exactly it is they are doing.. that way the people who know what they are doing get more room to work the solution.
the only reason why the loitering is allowed is to search for natural talent.
because some people are early predictors..
some people follow along on time..
other people snipe at the situation late..
all three of them say nothing about the people standing around confused & arguing until they finally come up with an answer.
but rather, it says something about people who can output an answer no matter if it is early.. on time.. or late.
and what happens is..
the bar fills up with people who are willing to argue confused until something is said that they agree with, regardless of whether it is right or wrong .. only that they agree.
it provides a blanket for people to get in and get out when they don't bother themselves with confusion.. but that is when the blanket gets caught up in progress like adjusting your foot in bed only to realize it is wrapped up in the blanket.
people got yelled at for getting in the way as if hunting for deer, shooting & missing, only to need to wait longer for the next deer to arrive.
i always say bring responsible help & leave the idiots at home.. or inform the idiot how to stay out of the way & wait for the person to tell you their reason for staying out of the way.