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“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#1 Jun 26, 2013
DEAR ABBY: President John F. Kennedy proclaimed the ringing of the bells nationwide on Independence Day, July 4, 1963, with the words, "Let's ring freedom bells!" I was a White House special projects aide at the time, and I recall vividly how exciting it was when bells rang throughout the nation.

I'm writing now to ask your help in getting the American people to ring bells again on this Fourth of July, and each Fourth every year from now on.

As a grateful American, I hope to resurrect this proud tradition. Let us tune in with each other and our history by ringing bells at 2 p.m. this July 4 in honor of the 237th anniversary of our independence. Encourage churches and civic buildings with bells to ring them. It doesn't cost any money to do it.

The first groups to support this national effort include baseball teams, the National Cartoonists Society, and the Iron Workers, Firefighters and Sheet Metal Workers unions along with other AFL-CIO affiliates.

As we celebrate our freedom, let us also honor the lives of those who sacrificed theirs for our precious liberty. Your millions of readers can help "let freedom ring." -- CARMELLA LaSPADA, FOUNDER, NO GREATER LOVE

DEAR CARMELLA: I'm pleased to join you in this national effort. Readers, engraved on the Liberty Bell are the words, "Proclaim LIBERTY throughout all the Land unto all the inhabitants thereof." So let's do it. Shake any bell you happen to have. Our freedom is something to celebrate!

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a married man for more than a year. He's my boss. "Gerry" has two kids with his wife and two more outside the marriage.

I have never been the type to date someone else's man, nor do I approve of it. I know that what I'm doing is wrong, but at times it just feels so right. We do everything together and enjoy each other's company.

Is it possible for him to be in love with us both? Why do men cheat?-- THE OTHER WOMAN IN ALABAMA

DEAR OTHER WOMAN: What you're doing with your boss may "feel" right, but as you clearly stated, it is wrong. It isn't fair to his wife, or to you or his children. While the two of you are doing "everything" together, he is cheating all four of his children of time that should be spent being a parent to them.

As to whether this man is in love with you and his wife, frankly I doubt it. He appears to be more in love with himself. Men cheat for a variety of reasons, and more often than not, it's more about the cheater than the spouse. Consider that fact carefully before wasting any more precious years with him, because you will never get them back.

DEAR ABBY: My husband needed a car to replace the old one, so he insisted on a manual transmission, which I don't know how to drive. Do you think that's fair?

He said, "Oh, you can learn." I am 58 and nervous, and I have heard it said that many a clutch got burned out by "learning." I don't want to do that. What do you say?-- SHIRLEY IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR SHIRLEY: While I understand your concern about a stick shift, your husband has told you you can learn to use one. I recommend that you learn by driving his car.

While many a gear may have been stripped by a novice driver, some have not. Think of it this way: You may be a natural. And if you're not -- well, he asked for it.

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#2 Jun 26, 2013
1: Great....break out the excedrin.

2: Dating married people, especially your boss, is not the morally right thing to do. He's a slimeball too.

3: Ease up granny, you can learn new things.

Since: Jan 10

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#3 Jun 26, 2013
L1: I wiki'd this woman. SHe's responsible for a lot of "Moments of silence." But she doesn't seem to have done anything actually concrete and memorable.

L2: "We do everything together." Really? Does he go grocery shopping with you? Or by "everything" do you mean anal?

L3: I usually drove sticks, until this recent car, and never really knew anyone whose clutch burned out. I think that's true of much older vehicles.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#4 Jun 26, 2013
L3: I'm with the LW. I can drive stick but always preferred not to. I had one when I lived in the city and it was a PITA. She's a little older, maybe she's not a very confident driver and this could distract her driving. Do cars still cost less with a manual? Maybe he's being cheap. Let him get his little red sports car and get her an automatic.
BTW, first time I drove stick it was on a first date, long, long ago, who had a Corvette. I told him I could and he let me. Stalled out in the middle of a busy intersection. ha. That was last date too.

Since: Jan 10

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#5 Jun 26, 2013
dahgts wrote:
L3: I'm with the LW. I can drive stick but always preferred not to. I had one when I lived in the city and it was a PITA. She's a little older, maybe she's not a very confident driver and this could distract her driving. Do cars still cost less with a manual? Maybe he's being cheap. Let him get his little red sports car and get her an automatic.
BTW, first time I drove stick it was on a first date, long, long ago, who had a Corvette. I told him I could and he let me. Stalled out in the middle of a busy intersection. ha. That was last date too.
I think her husband should have taken her into consideration more.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#6 Jun 26, 2013
L1: "Shake any bell you happen to have." Yeah. Let me get on that. Maybe my phone has a bell app.

L2: You are gross and so is he.

L3: What Red said. So nice of him to consider her...

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#7 Jun 26, 2013
1 Matilda, yes there is a bell app, sounds cool too.
Other than that I got nothing. I will need to put a reminder into my phone so I remember to ring the bell app.

2 Why do men cheat? Asks the cheapsluttytramp sucking a marriedmanscock. You got a set of nads girl. They cheat because chicks like you will F* them.

3 Going against Red. She clearly says "My husband needed a new car". Not "We needed a new car". So if its the husbands car, what is the issue with him getting the one he wants? Sounds like she only drives occasionally, and if that is true, then the 99% of the time he drives outweighs her 1%.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#8 Jun 26, 2013
RACE wrote:
3 Going against Red. She clearly says "My husband needed a new car". Not "We needed a new car". So if its the husbands car, what is the issue with him getting the one he wants? Sounds like she only drives occasionally, and if that is true, then the 99% of the time he drives outweighs her 1%.
Ah. True dat. I never drive J's car, even though it's technically mine.

Since: Jan 10

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#9 Jun 26, 2013
RACE wrote:
1 Matilda, yes there is a bell app, sounds cool too.
Other than that I got nothing. I will need to put a reminder into my phone so I remember to ring the bell app.
2 Why do men cheat? Asks the cheapsluttytramp sucking a marriedmanscock. You got a set of nads girl. They cheat because chicks like you will F* them.
3 Going against Red. She clearly says "My husband needed a new car". Not "We needed a new car". So if its the husbands car, what is the issue with him getting the one he wants? Sounds like she only drives occasionally, and if that is true, then the 99% of the time he drives outweighs her 1%.
If she needs to drive it only rarely, then she isn't going to get very good at using a stick.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#10 Jun 26, 2013
L1: Okay -- I like the idea of having bells sound on our phones. It's kind of like when you go to a concert now. It used to be lighters and now it's phones for the encore.

L2: Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? There's enough jerks on both sounds to keep both males and females busy.

L3: They are married. It's both of their money. He should have considered her. He should find lesson for her from a third party for stick shift. I think he's a jerk for doing it. He knew. He didn't care. He'll cry "my car" (my projection). Doesn't make him any less jerky in my book. Expands it, actually.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Melrose Park, IL

#11 Jun 26, 2013
1- Because we've lost our freedoms AND our independence.

2- He's a married man and also your boss. What could POSSIBLY go wrong? Whorecon 4.

3- Everyone should know how to drive a stick. You never know, if you're kidnapped or held hostage, as I frequently am, it could be your only mode of escape.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#12 Jun 26, 2013
That is no reason to punish the husband.
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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If she needs to drive it only rarely, then she isn't going to get very good at using a stick.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#13 Jun 26, 2013
He did consider her, but she does not drive often enough to actually warrant an automatic.

You may as well insist that they get an automatic because even though she NEVER drives, she might just someday get a bug up her ass and decide she wants to.

OH, and it is HIS car, his wife even says so.
Toj wrote:
L3: They are married. It's both of their money. He should have considered her. He should find lesson for her from a third party for stick shift. I think he's a jerk for doing it. He knew. He didn't care. He'll cry "my car" (my projection). Doesn't make him any less jerky in my book. Expands it, actually.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#14 Jun 26, 2013
RACE wrote:
He did consider her, but she does not drive often enough to actually warrant an automatic.
You may as well insist that they get an automatic because even though she NEVER drives, she might just someday get a bug up her ass and decide she wants to.
OH, and it is HIS car, his wife even says so.
<quoted text>
Where does it say he considered her? When he basically said "too bad"?

I know there's guys (and girls) out there who would treat their spouse like this. I wouldn't want anything to do with people who are like this.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#15 Jun 26, 2013
I posted this in the wrong column
RACE wrote: 1 You are a train wreck. date married men, then you have an excuse for being ignored. 2 Team Matilda. 3 If you are friends with these peeps, then be honest and teach them to friggin cook.

Pelly wrote: Train wreck indeed. She is dating a married man with kids who is also her boss and she doesn't sound particularly discreet about it ( dating is public vs "seeing" which is presumably more private). Prediction: He will not leave his wife and kids for her. Someone will lose their job, probably her. She doesn't sound like she is being harassed, so no lawsuit for her either. Check back when she is 35, hears her biological clock ticking and her man has child support to pay for 4 other kids at least, and she doesn't have a date who can publicly accompany her to things or is available for holidays and birthdays, etc.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#16 Jun 26, 2013
LW1: I like the idea but I'm doubting that it doesn't cost anything. Our church has carillon bells, but someone would have to open the church (on a holiday) and get the lights on (not free) and then another someone who knows how to play them would have to get there, and unless that person is a parishioner or willing to donate their time if they're not, then that will cost money too.

Whatever, I'm in a pissy mood.

LW2: Team RACE.

LW3: Quit whining and learn how to drive the effing car already. If you burn the clutch out (highly doubtful), then it's on him to replace it.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#17 Jun 26, 2013
Where she says "He insists..." She said what she wanted, he considered it and said no, she asked again and now he is insisting.
Just because he did not roll over and do what she wants does not mean he did not consider what she wants.

How is it him being a hardass because he is not doing what she wants? I think she is being the hardass because she is not considering what HE wants.
Toj wrote:
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Where does it say he considered her?

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#18 Jun 26, 2013
L3: I think everyone should learn how to drive stick, just in case. If she had learned back in the day, this wouldn't be an issue.

Since: Jan 10

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#19 Jun 26, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
L3: I think everyone should learn how to drive stick, just in case. If she had learned back in the day, this wouldn't be an issue.
True. When I was 15, 16, my dad would wake me up early, like 5, 6 a.m. on Sunday mornings, take me downtown and have me practice using the clutch/gas to sit on a hill and not roll backwards into the car behind me (which wasn't there at 6 a.m. on a Sunday), so when a stoplight turned green, I would know how to kepe my car from rolling back when I let up on the brakes.

Since: Aug 08

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#20 Jun 26, 2013
LW2: Lol @ďand two more outside of marriageĒ

Men cheat for a variety of reasons. Itís possible he loves you both ... it's possible he doesn't love his wife anymore, but it would be too painful to separate, for whatever reason ... it's possible he's just using you for sex.

The thing is, you are always going to play second fiddle to his wife and never have him all to yourself. If you are okay with that, you have some self esteem issues.

LW3: Itís his car, and heís offered to teach you. Quit being a wuss.

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