“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Jan 30, 2014
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 27-year-old woman who still lives at home. I do it so I can help my mom with my five nieces and nephews. Their mother passed away suddenly in 2009 at the age of 30. My mom and stepdad kept them rather than scatter them to fathers who don't appear very interested in them.

Since my sister's death I have earned two degrees, entered the health care field and have lost almost 140 pounds. Despite what I have accomplished, I feel I have nothing to show for myself. When I point my accomplishments out to myself, they don't seem like a heck of a lot. What can I do so I can stop feeling like a loser?-- LOST IN THE NORTHEAST

DEAR LOST: A loser? From where I sit, you appear to be not only a caring daughter, but also an intellectually accomplished young woman who is being very hard on herself. If you feel you haven't accomplished a lot, I have to question the yardstick you're using.

It's time you discussed your feelings with a licensed mental health professional who can help you understand what is causing your low self-esteem. If you do, it may help you be kinder to yourself, because what's currently going on in your head is unfair to you and destructive.

DEAR ABBY: I work in a buffet restaurant. I wish you would alert your readers to how waste increases the costs at restaurants like this one. And then people complain because the cost of the food goes up!

I have seen customers stick their fingers or used utensils into pans of food to taste it before serving themselves. And instead of the tongs we provide, they use their hands to help themselves to chicken, bread, etc.

The fact is that once anyone touches the food with his or her hands or eating utensil, the restaurant is required by the health code to dispose of the entire pan of food. This causes tremendous waste. Customers also overfill their plates only to throw half the food away. It makes me sad because so many people in this world are hungry.

I have seen children run around, making a mess of the dessert bar, and especially the ice cream and drink stations. Their parents seem to think it's "cute."

I wish you would remind your readers to use common sense when dining out and to please control their children. The parents should serve food to their little ones who don't know better.-- FRUSTRATED BUFFET WORKER, PUEBLO, COLO.

DEAR FRUSTRATED: Children can't practice behavior they haven't been taught, and parents who don't take the time to explain proper behavior to their little ones are shirking their responsibility.

As to adults who have so little understanding of hygiene -- or consideration for others -- that they put their hands or used utensils into food that is meant for others, well -- perhaps after being reminded that it raises the prices they have to pay, they'll think twice about it. But don't bet on it.

DEAR ABBY: I was wondering what is the appropriate level of give and take in a friendship? I notice that in some relationships I am always giving and never receiving, where in others I am always receiving. How do you know when a balance is reached?-- JAKE IN ALBANY, GA.

DEAR JAKE: There is give and take in all healthy relationships. A "balance is reached" when you can give without feeling used, and take without feeling guilty that you're being given too much.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#2 Jan 30, 2014
1 Someone needs to leave the nest, even if its only a short distance away.

2 I suggest you become the Sergent at arms and carry a clue bat.

3 Jake, the real question is...Why are you gay?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#3 Jan 30, 2014
1- I'm surprised all seven of you fatasses even fit in that trailer. She had five kids by different men before she was 30!?

2- Screw you! You don't reuse the uneaten bread sticks and biscuits anyway. Go serve food in Haiti if you're so disgusted with Americans' waste.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#4 Jan 30, 2014
L1: You might be feeling overwhelmed and not living the life you saw yourself living. Good advice to seek therapy.

L2: People are stupid.

L3: If you're measuring the give and take, that's the sign the relationship isn't balanced.
Blunt Advice

Jersey City, NJ

#5 Jan 30, 2014
1. You feel guilt because you are a cut above your dysfunctional f
amily. Kudos for focusing on school and career instead of men like big sis did.
2. That's why they charge 20 bucks per person at these places. Then the customers want the most for their money. A vicious cycle.
3. Is this letter a project for philosophy class?

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#6 Jan 30, 2014
LW1: It seems to me you're doing just fine.

LW2: I think that even if you posted this letter on every table in your workplace, people would still do the ignorant stuff you mention.

I will take issue with the children using the drink/dessert bar. Children have to learn how to do these things for themselves and both of these are excellent places to start. Clearly some of them need better instruction and supervision, but that is not *their* fault.

LW3: I can just see your spreadsheet now...

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#7 Jan 30, 2014
HA!
squishymama wrote:
LW3: I can just see your spreadsheet now...
boundary painter

San Antonio, TX

#8 Jan 30, 2014
Suggest LW2 go to the local fod bank and talk to them about partnering
with the energy company in getting equipment for an energy plant that converts food unfit for people/boiling compost working to harness electricity from the unfit food. Then strongly encourage restaurants to participate in the "energy from unusable food program".

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#9 Jan 30, 2014
squishymama wrote:
LW1: It seems to me you're doing just fine.
LW2: I think that even if you posted this letter on every table in your workplace, people would still do the ignorant stuff you mention.
I will take issue with the children using the drink/dessert bar. Children have to learn how to do these things for themselves and both of these are excellent places to start. Clearly some of them need better instruction and supervision, but that is not *their* fault.
LW3: I can just see your spreadsheet now...
I've seen some big mjesses at Golden Corral with kids and that chocolate fountain. I was laughing a coupoe weeks ago, though because a mom was getting dessert for her little girl that was standing there. The girl had her hands down her pants scratching her butt the whiole time. Hope she didn't touch the food!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#10 Jan 30, 2014
That is absolutely gross...
Stina2 wrote:
<quoted text>
I've seen some big mjesses at Golden Corral with kids and that chocolate fountain. I was laughing a coupoe weeks ago, though because a mom was getting dessert for her little girl that was standing there. The girl had her hands down her pants scratching her butt the whiole time. Hope she didn't touch the food!

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#11 Jan 30, 2014
Stina2 wrote:
<quoted text>
I've seen some big mjesses at Golden Corral with kids and that chocolate fountain. I was laughing a coupoe weeks ago, though because a mom was getting dessert for her little girl that was standing there. The girl had her hands down her pants scratching her butt the whiole time. Hope she didn't touch the food!
Kids can be so innocent and yet so gross. And you want to say something to the mom, like "maybe you should wash her hands?" but you know you'd just get the stink-eye so you keep quite.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#12 Jan 30, 2014
boundary painter wrote:
Suggest LW2 go to the local fod bank and talk to them about partnering
with the energy company in getting equipment for an energy plant that converts food unfit for people/boiling compost working to harness electricity from the unfit food. Then strongly encourage restaurants to participate in the "energy from unusable food program".
"Eat recycled food. It's good for the environment, and okay for you."
Blunt Advice

Jersey City, NJ

#13 Jan 30, 2014
Never been to a Golden Corral and don't think there are any around. But there are a lot of Chinese buffets around. They are pricey but delicious!
Julie

Chicago, IL

#14 Jan 30, 2014
LW1: You need to move out ASAP. You're doing great, but I suspect your dreadfully low self-esteem is due to your Mom not appreciating what you are/anything you do, and always comparing you unfavorably to her dead daughter (the mom of 5 children before age 30 who chose multiple deadbeat fathers for her kids). You can be a positive influence in your nieces/nephews lives even if you don't live with them. Save yourself and GET THE HELL OUT.

LW2: Unfortunately, the restaurant you work at caters to hillbilly pigs. You can't educate these morons. You'd be happier working somewhere else.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#15 Jan 31, 2014
squishymama wrote:
<quoted text>
Kids can be so innocent and yet so gross. And you want to say something to the mom, like "maybe you should wash her hands?" but you know you'd just get the stink-eye so you keep quite.
I know. I almost hung around and said something lightheartedly but then thought I'd proabbly just get yelled at. Not worth it!

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