“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Jan 15, 2013
DEAR ABBY: Recently my husband, "Byron," and I had an argument, and he took off in his truck. He didn't return until after work the following day. He had he spent the night at our friend "Arlene's" house. She is divorced and lives alone.

Byron assures me "nothing happened" between them. I want to believe him, but ever since this incident, Arlene will not look me in the eye or speak to me.

I love Byron and trusted him until now. It hurts to think that our marriage may be ruined over a stupid argument. I know he was intoxicated, but why did he choose to go to her home?-- BROKEN-HEARTED IN WYOMING

DEAR BROKEN-HEARTED: He chose to go to her home (even drunk as a skunk) because he knew he would be welcomed. It's also the reason Arlene can't look you in the eye. Marriage counseling for you and Byron may help you put this to rest. If he refuses to go with you, go without him.

P.S. It appears Arlene has an agenda of her own -- and Byron may be one of the items on it. You'd be wise to delete her from your list of friends.

DEAR ABBY: I have always been touched by the acts of kindness stories in your column. When I was 20, I went into New York City to attend classes. Upon my arrival, I was mugged in the bus station. It was rush hour and I was too scared to scream.

After the mugger ran off, I picked up the few belongings that had fallen out of my handbag, walked across the street and down the stairs to the subway. It was then I realized I had no money to buy a token. I started crying and couldn't stop.

A middle-aged woman with a friendly smile arrived and stayed at my side until the authorities arrived. She calmed me down and wouldn't leave until she knew I was in safe hands. Before she left, she slipped some money into my pocket.

After Sept. 11, I heard people say how "surprised" they were that New Yorkers "came together." Not me, Abby. I have known since the day I was mugged that there are only a few bad apples in the Big Apple. I hope my good Samaritan will see your column and realize what her compassion and generosity meant to me that day and ever since.-- STILL COMMUTING IN NYC

DEAR STILL COMMUTING: Thanks for an upper of a letter, which proves that kindheartedness is universal -- and not limited to any one area of the map.

DEAR ABBY: Please help me and thousands of other payroll administrators with a public service message. I will be sending out W-2s this month to current and former employees. Last year, I got back about 10 percent of these W-2s because employees have moved and left no forwarding addresses. Often the phone has also been disconnected.

Please remind anyone who has changed jobs and moved in the past year to make sure their former employer has their new address so their W-2 will arrive on the first try. I have a stack of these forms that have never been claimed by former employees and no idea how to contact them.-- PAYROLL ADMINISTRATOR, FORT PAYNE, ALA.

DEAR ADMINISTRATOR: I'm pleased to pass along your message. The W-2 is proof the government needs to verify what someone has been paid and what has been withheld by the employer. Employers are required to provide one.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#2 Jan 15, 2013
Lw1: "why did he choose to go to her home?"

Yes , abby, knower of all things. Why did her husband go to Arlene's house?

LW3: DEAR ABBY: Please help thousands of payroll administrators with a public service message. Get with the program and start offering electronic W-2's. Saves the payroll administrators money on postage and the employee will recieve notification in his email.
dahgts

Chicago, IL

#3 Jan 15, 2013
L3: This was my problem for 25+ years, before electronic submissions. Even with that, it depends on the type of labor force. Not everyone is online, not everyone stays at an address. I had to send out up to 10K W-2's and yes, I got a lot back. Most of the time they were for former employees. Too bad for them. Just file and see if they contact you.
You don't have to send them to email addresses. Just make them available on the company's website so that someone can access them.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#4 Jan 15, 2013
3 Gee maybe they come back and the phone is disconnected because they no longer live there! After you downsized and laid them off, they lost their house, got kicked out by the sheriff and are living under a bridge. So put that in your friggin PSA pipe and smoke on that.

2 NY'rs are tough and compassionate, just like everyone else.

1 Wait till you find out Arlene is preggers and wont you be surprised at how much he looks like your husband.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#5 Jan 15, 2013
L1: Haha, Tonka.

L2: You were too scared to scream during rush hour? Huh?

L3: Even if you offer electronic W-2s, it's still the law that a hard copy goes out in the mail. Anyway, what dahgts said: produce them, mail them, hope for the best. If it gets returned but is postmarked before 1/31, the company's ass is covered. It's on the people to make sure they get one to file their taxes properly. Personal responsibility, people.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#6 Jan 15, 2013
L1: DTMFA. He didn't have a guy friend's house to go to?

L2: " It was rush hour and I was too scared to scream." You didn't need to scream -- you had people all around you, didn't you?

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#7 Jan 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
Lw1: "why did he choose to go to her home?"
Yes , abby, knower of all things. Why did her husband go to Arlene's house?
LW3: DEAR ABBY: Please help thousands of payroll administrators with a public service message. Get with the program and start offering electronic W-2's. Saves the payroll administrators money on postage and the employee will recieve notification in his email.
You're right. In the last 18 years, I've had five addresses. But only one email address since about 1995.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#8 Jan 15, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
L3: Even if you offer electronic W-2s, it's still the law that a hard copy goes out in the mail.
I opted in to electronic w-2's and have not recieved a paper one in years.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#9 Jan 15, 2013
Just did a quick search to see if my company is breaking the law and found a story about Duke university going to all electronic to save postage.

http://today.duke.edu/2013/01/w2optout

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#10 Jan 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I opted in to electronic w-2's and have not recieved a paper one in years.
It must be because my company is multi-state (different states probably have different laws so we have to go with the common denominator).

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#11 Jan 15, 2013
1- Way to blame Arlene. Dump her as a friend because you chased your husband away by nagging him and that was the only safe haven he had to go to? Yeah, you should both do counseling, but if the marriage ultimately fails, don't use Arlene as the scape goat.

2- People wonder why they're victimized. If I'm ever mugged, during rush hour no less with a lot of people around, I'm screaming my head off.

3- People should leave a forwarding address with the post office anyway. But let them deal with the IRS. Not your problem.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#12 Jan 15, 2013
LW1: so, you and your husband got into an argument while he was intoxicated, and he decided to leave the house and drive drunk rather than acting like a responsible adult and staying home.

You've got a prize there. Where he went is just the cherry on top.

LW2:....

LW3: Thanks for the reminder that I should be getting my W-2s soon.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#13 Jan 15, 2013
LW1: I think that is a low blow to get in a fight and leave and go spend the night at another woman’s house.

I would end my relationship with my wife if she left me for the night and then went to stay at a single guy’s house, friend or not. There are ways to fight fair.
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#14 Jan 15, 2013
1. Arlene is his port in a storm. You're the storm. Arlene got ported.

2. Wait, what? You didn't scream because people were around to hear you and help?

3. Get yer W-2s by email, people. It's the waaave of the future.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#15 Jan 15, 2013
L1: I agree with DTMF

L2: You can say what you will and won't do when you are not in the situation -- that's easy. You get adrenaline, surprise, etc. mixed in during the real situation and things don't go like would think they would.

L3: I wish we could get electronic W2s. I'm jealous.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#16 Jan 15, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
1. Arlene is his port in a storm. You're the storm. Arlene got ported.
ha!

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#17 Jan 15, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
It must be because my company is multi-state (different states probably have different laws so we have to go with the common denominator).
we're multi state (even multi natoinal but that's another story), and we're told to go to our portal to collect the W-2. I haven't gotten a paper copy since i've been here (i don't think). <shrug>

This year, our tax prep company has us doing the prep work electronically, so we go in, chit chat, get a couple more deductinos, and sign paperwork. she finds things in our "income property" that we wouldn't think of trying. but, she's teh pro and her E&O is on the line, so we go with it.

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