“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#1 Jun 1, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 16-year-old girl. I am home-schooled with one friend. I'm lonely, sad, mad and depressed. I have always wanted to go to a real school, but it's not an option for me. My parents are against it.

I am always lonely. I don't know where to turn. I want to meet new people, but I don't know how, or if my parents will let me do new things. I have been cutting myself for more than a year and have lost all motivation to do my schoolwork. I feel lost. Please help me.-- SAD, MAD AND DEPRESSED IN BOZEMAN, MONT.

DEAR SAD, MAD AND DEPRESSED: Most parents who home-school make sure their children are exposed to activities within the community to ensure they engage with people of all ages. They participate in scouting, 4-H, sports, field trips, etc.

That you cut yourself to distract yourself from the pain of your isolation is serious. If you have a family doctor, please bring this up with him or her so you can receive the help you need to quit.

I'm sure your parents love you and want to protect you, but they appear to be doing it too diligently. At 16, you should be learning to interact with others your age. If you have a relative you trust or feel close to, I'm urging you to talk to that person about this. Perhaps your parents will accept the message from another adult.

DEAR ABBY: My husband brought home a puppy he couldn't resist. I wanted to make him happy, so I didn't object. We already have one dog. She's calm, mature and well-trained. She is also used to our schedule (we both work full-time).

We have now decided to try for a baby. The puppy is only 5 months old, and even though it may take months to become pregnant, I'm worried it will be too much stress to train and care for a puppy while I'm pregnant. When I try to discuss this with my husband, he says, "Everything will work out."

I want the best pregnancy possible, but I also don't want to upset my husband by finding a new family for the puppy. What should I do?-- ILLINOIS DOG LOVER

DEAR DOG LOVER: Talk to your husband again and stress to him the importance of seeing that the dog starts obedience classes. While it might be tempting to foist off the responsibility on your husband, you should both be involved so the dog will obey you both. With that accomplished, your pregnancy will be less stressful.

DEAR ABBY: I have been living with a man for 10 months. He is 70 and I am 59. Whenever we go to the grocery store, he winks and smiles at all the young, attractive women. Abby, I am fairly attractive for my age, and I don't appreciate his making me feel disrespected this way.

Other than this, he makes me happy. Most of the time, he denies he does it, except when I catch him red-handed. Is there any hope for this relationship?-- FEELING DOWN IN THE SOUTH

DEAR FEELING DOWN: Yes, if you can accept him exactly the way he is and not take what he's doing personally. He may smile and wink because he thinks he's being friendly. Or it may be a way of proving to himself that he's still attractive. As long as it's just a smile and a wink by the frozen vegetables, I'd say it's harmless.

Since: Jan 10

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#2 Jun 1, 2013
L1: Enjoy living with your parents for many, many years. They're doing their best to let their unrealistic and unfounded fears of the world cripple their child. Tsk tsk.

L2: Wow. Bringing home a puppy without it being a joint decision? Your husband is a dick!

L3: You can't control him. Get over it.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#3 Jun 1, 2013
1- Try the mall. And you'll realize you're no different from most any other 16 yr olds.

And I think people have good reason to home school their kids. Phonics isn't taught anymore, gay sex education is being taught to kindergartners, they're still teaching that Columbus discovered America, I mean on and on it goes. And look at the Chicago public school system. But there's hope, liberals are pushing to ban home schooling. The government will teach your kids and you won't have a say in the matter.

2- Lady, people have managed dogs and kids for centuries. Will you get the fk over a problem that doesn't even exist yet? You sound like a pill.

3- Well, he hooked a gal eleven years younger, didn't he? Now you're gonna complain about his tactics? You're the one who managed to get your claws into him, quit being so jealous and possessive. The man is 70. You really think the 16 yr old cashier is a threat?

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#4 Jun 2, 2013
L1: At 16 you are old enough to join things yourself. What are your parents going to do if they object? Not much they can do. However, this poor girl probably doesn't have any knowledge or experience (obviously) doing this. Pick a sport or activity and join. Just do it.

L2: If you can't take training a puppy while you're pregnant, then please don't get pregnant. A toddler takes 3 times the energy a dog does and you can't put them on leashes. Well, you can but I really don't think that would be a good idea.

It sounded like he did ask her. Right when he brought it home. No, it wasn't good. They should have had a discussion BEFORE bringing the dog home but she didn't speak up.(shrug) She's stuck now.

L3: He's not dead yet for goodness sake!

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#5 Jun 2, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
1- Try the mall. And you'll realize you're no different from most any other 16 yr olds.
And I think people have good reason to home school their kids. Phonics isn't taught anymore, gay sex education is being taught to kindergartners, they're still teaching that Columbus discovered America, I mean on and on it goes. And look at the Chicago public school system. But there's hope, liberals are pushing to ban home schooling. The government will teach your kids and you won't have a say in the matter.
Why do you go over the top on most things? I have a kid that is over 20. They didn't teach phonics to him. That's over 15 years ago. But I did. That's what you do when the schools get stupid. He was one of the best spellers throughout his school career b/c of it (I think). Gay sex education to kindergartners? Do you mean they are recognizing there are different kinds of families? Liberals are pushing to ban home schooling? Where do you get this stuff? Was there a liberal group that opposed homeschooling so all liberals oppose? You have to learn to check your facts and not spout off what you read in your republican blogs.
boundary painter

Waco, TX

#6 Jun 2, 2013
Or Lw3 could actively smile at handsome boys in his
company and say, "He's cute--but he's not you,"
giving this man an idea of what treatment she'd like.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#7 Jun 4, 2013
LW2 seems to think that being pregnant is like being sick. For the most part, unless you have a problem or at-risk pregnancy, you can do most anything pregnant that you can do not pregnant (excpet ride a horse or a roller coaster). Seriously, you CAN train a dog while pregnant.

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