“I looked, and behold,”

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#21 Mar 15, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
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ITA also.
My friends and I *have* brought gifts to each other's birthday dinners, etc. but it's not a requirement or an expectation. I hope my friends would call me a b1tch to my face if I ever suggested registering for birthday gifts.
I may buy some drinks, but I'm not giving anyone gifts, unless they are hosting a party with food at their house, in which case I'll bring a bottle of nice liquor, but I do that for any such party.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#22 Mar 15, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I am completely against throwing yourself a birthday party and expecting gifts. Throw the party, but no gifts.
Its not about expecting (as in feeling entitled to gifts), its about expecting(as in that's just the way birthdays go). I've never been to a birthday celebration that did not involve people bringing gifts. If you know people are going to get you gifts, I see no problem in getting the word out that kitchen crap is what would be most welcome.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#23 Mar 15, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
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You and your friends buy each other things for your birthdays? Are you women trapped in men's bodies? Do you pick out special wrapping paper and get the ribbons to curl with scissors too?
What's that website you like to drop in here all the time? RIF? I said I typically buy gift cards. And most of the time, its bought on the way to wherever the b-day celebration is taking place. Typically a restaurant. If there's a liquor store on the way, they might get a bottle instead of a gift card.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#24 Mar 15, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
Go out for dinner and drinks, sure, but a party where people buy you gifts, who the f' does this ... only people who think they are 8 years old?
Going out for dinner with friends IS typically how my circle of friends celebrates birthdays. And everyone usually shows up with a gift bag or envelope with a b-day card & gift card inside. Didn't realize we were a bunch of 8 year olds for giving gifts.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#25 Mar 15, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
None of my friends exchanges gifts with any regularity. I may get something for my birthday if someone found something that made them think of me, but then I may not get a gift from them for another five years.
Yup. This. On my last birthday and A's last birthday, we exchanged gifts, but I don't think we did the year before and I can't remember when else we have.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#26 Mar 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>What's that website you like to drop in here all the time? RIF? I said I typically buy gift cards. And most of the time, its bought on the way to wherever the b-day celebration is taking place. Typically a restaurant. If there's a liquor store on the way, they might get a bottle instead of a gift card.
Yes you said you typically bring a gift. I comprehended that perfectly well.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#27 Mar 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
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Going out for dinner with friends IS typically how my circle of friends celebrates birthdays. And everyone usually shows up with a gift bag or envelope with a b-day card & gift card inside. Didn't realize we were a bunch of 8 year olds for giving gifts.
I don't know anyone who does that.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#28 Mar 15, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
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Yes you said you typically bring a gift. I comprehended that perfectly well.
Mister Tonka wrote:
As it is, I typically get people gift cards for their birthday anyway.
Try again. This is the last line in the post you responded to.
tiredofit

Los Angeles, CA

#29 Mar 15, 2013
It amazes me that people throw themselves birthday gatherings every year. I like Tonka's suggestion that you tell someone what you would really like to receive and hope the word gets passed along.

On the helping old parents with grooming, been there, done that. For those that say they could never do it, I hope you are not faced with it in the future cause it happens a lot.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#30 Mar 15, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
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I don't know anyone who does that.
So if people have different customs and practices than you, then they are childish? P posted that she does the b-day gift thing too. She childish?

Whenever my wife's birthday is coming up, I get calls from people asking me what to get her. I get that you don't do the gift giving thing, but I don't get how this seems so foreign/silly to you.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#31 Mar 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
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Try again. This is the last line in the post you responded to.
I hate to break it to you, but a gift card is a gift, Tonka. That is why it is called a "gift" card and not just a card.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#32 Mar 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>So if people have different customs and practices than you, then they are childish? P posted that she does the b-day gift thing too. She childish?
Whenever my wife's birthday is coming up, I get calls from people asking me what to get her. I get that you don't do the gift giving thing, but I don't get how this seems so foreign/silly to you.
It is something most folks grow out of. I personally don't want a bunch of gifts from my friends on my birthday, and I certainly don't want to be expected to go through the trouble of buying them stuff for theirs.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#33 Mar 15, 2013
None of my friends in high school, college, or after college has bought each other stuff for each others birthdays. Can you imagine a bunch of college guys exchanging gifts?

My parents never did this for their friends. My sister never did so for her friends either. My wife and her family don't do these things for friends.

I don't know anyone who does this. Yes, I'd say most folks grow out of the I want presents cause it's my birthday mentality.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#34 Mar 15, 2013
I don't even get my brothers or my sisters shyte for their birthdays. My parents and my mil and fil, sure. Most folks I know are the same. For most folks, it's something associated with childhood.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Lawrence, MA

#35 Mar 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
If she typically throws herself a party, its not a stretch to think people are going to get her gifts.
It is in my world. When my "professional, 20 something" friends throw themselves a bday party, they only "gifts" people typically give them are varying bottles of alcohol, not random househould items.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#36 Mar 15, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
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I hate to break it to you, but a gift card is a gift, Tonka. That is why it is called a "gift" card and not just a card.
So you associate gift cards with wrapping paper and ribbons?

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#37 Mar 15, 2013
1. " Hoo-wee! Somebody fart in here? Damn!" Use your words cupcake....

2. You are tacky with a capital T. My bro was divorced many times and had to start from scratch each time. He hit the thrift stores and didn't ask others to pay for his circumstances.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

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#38 Mar 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>So you associate gift cards with wrapping paper and ribbons?
Are you familiar with satire?

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#39 Mar 15, 2013
Well I hope he finally wised up and quit getting married!
Saluki Rod wrote:
2. You are tacky with a capital T. My bro was divorced many times and had to start from scratch each time. He hit the thrift stores and didn't ask others to pay for his circumstances.
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#40 Mar 15, 2013
LW1: Definitely step up, say something, and get someone over to the house to help them with housework and laundry.

LW2: It will take you a while to stock your new place, but you can shop smart. Go to the Dollar Store, Big Lots, or whatever discount store is close to you and get a few essentials. I found a beautiful tablecloth at Savers recently. You could hint to your close friends, but yes, it is tacky to do a registry for a birthday party. You could say something like, "My kitchen is bare! I don't even have {kitchen towels/a set of flatware/a can opener/whatever you need)."

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