Lack of parenting skills concerns friend

Lack of parenting skills concerns friend

There are 161 comments on the Chicago Tribune story from Mar 17, 2009, titled Lack of parenting skills concerns friend. In it, Chicago Tribune reports that:

Dear Amy: I am so irritated with my friend "Sheila's" parenting skills. She has two boys and one girl.

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“Merry Holidays!”

Since: Mar 08

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#1 Mar 18, 2009
LW1: "In the past, Sheila's son has acted out toward my older daughter. I was there and yelled at him. He started to cry and made excuses for his actions.I think he respects me for that." He probably didn't, Fellow Mom. He probably tuned you out. Correcting him would have been appropriate, yelling doesn't do much. You both could use some parental lessons.

LW2: Good advice.

LW3: Tomorrow, I guess, will be another response about the messy apartment. She seems to be swapping them.
liner

Bronx, NY

#2 Mar 18, 2009
Hey grandpa....Amy's right...what is your obsession with email? Pick up the dam phone.
LW3....I can't believe you're STILL printing letters on this!!!
Allison

Atlanta, GA

#3 Mar 18, 2009
I'm SO GLAD Amy cleared up, yet again, why women leave their deceased husband's voice on the answering machine. I hadn't been able to figure that out in any of the DOZEN letters that said the EXACT SAME THING in the past few weeks.
Ivory Dove

San Antonio, TX

#4 Mar 18, 2009
LW1 needs to decide whether (s)he wants to continue with
Sheila's friendship or not.
And LW2 would be prudent to remember, people get pulled in
multiple directions and may not mean to be impolite.
yeahbut

Hendersonville, NC

#5 Mar 18, 2009
some widowed elderly ladies leave their husband's voice on the answering machine so that nobody knows the guy's gone until the acid's had time to properly dissolve the body. THAT's the letter she's waiting for.
Daria

United States

#6 Mar 18, 2009
LW1--How about inviting the girl over by herself, as often as possible? You can provide a safe, positive environment for her, and your kids won't feel terrorized either.

Most of the preteen boys I've known act out toward each other, not their sisters. Certainly not girls outside of the family. I wonder if these kids are witnessing Mom being abused.
Ivory Dove

San Antonio, TX

#7 Mar 18, 2009
Allison wrote:
I'm SO GLAD Amy cleared up, yet again, why women leave their deceased husband's voice on the answering machine. I hadn't been able to figure that out in any of the DOZEN letters that said the EXACT SAME THING in the past few weeks.
What surprises me is that I haven't seen any letters from a man that kept his late wife's voice on the answering
machine as a way to avoid having
female opportunists/scavengers seeking
him out while he grieves.

“Seriously?”

Since: Feb 09

Austin, TX

#15 Mar 18, 2009
I'm stuck. I can't figure out how I would go about sending an email to someone who does not have an email address. Gramps found a way, so it must be possible, which opens the door to communicate with God...and Elvis. I feel that buried within this letter could be the key to life, the universe, and everything!

Also, I am starting to get the feeling that ALL the Amy letters are re-hashes. It's like she has a coupon box with a handful of topics and just changes a few details each time. Hmmmmm.

“Seriously?”

Since: Feb 09

Austin, TX

#16 Mar 18, 2009
Noir wrote:
Garbage in, garbage out.
Aha, data trash...are you sure we don't know each other?

“An Apple a day”

Since: Jun 08

nil carborundum illegitemi

#17 Mar 18, 2009
LW3. Arghhhh!!

“An Apple a day”

Since: Jun 08

nil carborundum illegitemi

#18 Mar 18, 2009
LW1 and 2. More letters about pour parenting. <sigh>
Brenda

Berkeley, CA

#22 Mar 18, 2009
I feel sorry for the daughter of the friend. Mom is paving the way for a lifetime of abuse for her daughter. I agree that I think this woman may be abused herself.

Grandpa sounds like he's trying to reach out, or have a relationship with the kids, but he's being too controlling about it. He's not the parent and has no right telling the parent how to make her kids communicate. Something not right there. I didn't like his vibe and not surprised DIL isn't bending over backwards to assist. Maybe the kids don't like him? Maybe they think he's a pain? My kids don't call or write their grandmother all that much because she annoys them to no end. I do not interfere. Kids are more astute than we all realize.

Enough with the deceased voice on the answering machine!!!!
stop the insanity

Chicago, IL

#23 Mar 18, 2009
angelique770 wrote:
LW1 and 2. More letters about pour parenting. <sigh>
As in "Pour it on"?
Must Love Dogs

Danbury, CT

#24 Mar 18, 2009
The issue of the widows voice message has been beat to death.."leave the message, don't leave the message"..who cares! Please get over it!

“Death to humans!”

Since: Jul 08

A long way from here...

#25 Mar 18, 2009
LW1: Run away. Fast. Don't go back. And DO NOT giver her advice. It isn't your place.

LW2: You could write a real letter, addressed to each grandchild individually. Kids rarely receive mail, and it would probably be more special to them than an email message. Stamps still aren't expensive, Gramps.

LW3: Not only has this topic been run into the ground, most of the responses Amy has printed have been EXACTLY THE SAME AS YOURS!!!!! Not sure if this is your fault for being late or Amy's (and her editors') fault for being lazy.

“Death to humans!”

Since: Jul 08

A long way from here...

#26 Mar 18, 2009
Logic Police wrote:
I'm stuck. I can't figure out how I would go about sending an email to someone who does not have an email address. Gramps found a way, so it must be possible, which opens the door to communicate with God...and Elvis. I feel that buried within this letter could be the key to life, the universe, and everything!
Also, I am starting to get the feeling that ALL the Amy letters are re-hashes. It's like she has a coupon box with a handful of topics and just changes a few details each time. Hmmmmm.
Tell Elvis I said, "hi." I saw him in a Burger King one time.

;-)

“Death to humans!”

Since: Jul 08

A long way from here...

#27 Mar 18, 2009
angelique770 wrote:
LW1 and 2. More letters about pour parenting. <sigh>
Are the children being kept in pitchers?

:-p
Margaret

Belleville, MI

#28 Mar 18, 2009
LW1 - So both you and your friend deal with bad behavior by yelling (and ridiculing, in your friend's case)? But your yelling is better because you got him to cry and make excuses? Perhaps being yelled at by another adult is more traumatic than being yelled at by a parent. It sounds like you both could use some parenting help.

“Joy is the shadow cast by pain”

Since: Dec 08

Twin Cities, MN

#29 Mar 18, 2009
Misplaced Texan wrote:
<quoted text>
Are the children being kept in pitchers?
:-p
If you mount them on the wall, they serve double-duty as dart boards. ;)

“Seriously?”

Since: Feb 09

Austin, TX

#31 Mar 18, 2009
Misplaced Texan wrote:
<quoted text>
Tell Elvis I said, "hi." I saw him in a Burger King one time.
;-)
I saw him at Panchos once, life size on a fat womans shirt.:)

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