“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Mar 6, 2013
DEAR ABBY: While cleaning out my attic yesterday, I found a letter that my daughter wrote to you a few years ago when she was 13. She was responding to a poem that had appeared in your column, "Legacy of an Adopted Child."

She was going through a very trying time and was being bullied because she was adopted and looked very different from her parents.

My daughter is grown now and is a delightful, successful young woman. That poem helped her greatly. Can you reprint it for others?-- PROUD MOM IN GREENVILLE, S.C.

DEAR PROUD MOM: With pleasure. The poem is part of my "Keepers" booklet.

LEGACY OF AN ADOPTED CHILD

(Author Unknown)

Once there were two women

Who never knew each other.

One you do not remember,

The other you call mother.

Two different lives

Shaped to make yours one.

One became your guiding star,

The other became your sun.

The first gave you life

And the second taught you to live it.

The first gave you a need for love

And the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality,

The other gave you a name.

One gave you a seed of talent,

The other gave you an aim.

One gave you emotions,

The other calmed your fears.

One saw your first sweet smile,

The other dried your tears.

One gave you up --

It was all that she could do.

The other prayed for a child

And God led her straight to you.

And now you ask me

Through your tears,

The age-old question

Through the years:

Heredity or environment

Which are you the product of?

Neither, my darling -- neither,

Just two different kinds of love.

This poem is part of a collection of poems and essays that readers have repeatedly asked to be re-run because they hold special meaning for them. Some of the items had been saved and re-read so many times that they had fallen apart. Many readers suggested that the special column items be compiled into a booklet, and what resulted is "Keepers." It can be ordered by sending your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby Keepers Booklet, P.O. Box Blah blah blah. Shipping and handling are included in the price. It's a quick and easy read for anyone who needs a lift, and is filled with down-to-earth nuggets of wisdom, both witty and philosophical. The "Keepers" touch on a variety of subjects and are a welcome gift for newlyweds, new parents, pet lovers or anyone recovering from an illness.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#2 Mar 6, 2013
I wanted to read the letter the kid wrote!

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#3 Mar 6, 2013
RACE wrote:
I wanted to read the letter the kid wrote!
Sorry RACE, it was not nearly sappy enough to evoke the kind of rehash letters Abby is fishing for.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#4 Mar 6, 2013
So... Q of the Day:

Does a guy ever want to be "just friends" with a girl or does it always start out as a romantic interest/lust?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#5 Mar 6, 2013
For me personally, I look at every girl and immediately decide if I would do her or not (dont judge me, just the way I am wired) If I decide no, then "Just friends" is an option, but If I think she's hot, then that will always be my primary focus until I sleep with her, and then "Just friends" is again an option.
j_m_w wrote:
So... Q of the Day:
Does a guy ever want to be "just friends" with a girl or does it always start out as a romantic interest/lust?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#6 Mar 6, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
So... Q of the Day:
Does a guy ever want to be "just friends" with a girl or does it always start out as a romantic interest/lust?
Absolutely. Personally, I've got a couple female friends I've never had romantic or physical interest in.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#7 Mar 6, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
So... Q of the Day:
Does a guy ever want to be "just friends" with a girl or does it always start out as a romantic interest/lust?
I would always be acquaintances with girls, consider them friends, and enjoy their company (especially if our social circles overlapped), but I was never usually all buddy buddy with them (as in calling them and asking them to go places with me or hang out on a regular basis), unless I wanted more than friendship.

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