Just these guys.<quoted text>
Wow. Do you hold such negative views for all men, or just these guys?
It sounds like the letter writer may have been attracted to a particular type of rather controlling personality when she was younger (and that's on her).
If the guys really did write her and explicitly express regret and guilt (as she said in the letter), that rings all types of alarm bells for me. She should be asking why they would do this, rather than fearing that she's denying them closure. I also doubt that they actually feel regret and guilt. But you can express regret and guilt to a particular manipulative end because you know it's expected.