Oh I see, I have "issues" because I don't agree with baby selling. Okay. As long as we have it straight out in the open.<quoted text>
well, sorry you haven't been able to work out your issues surrounding adoption...we all faced those regarding abandonment and not being good enough and feeling disconnected and lost. the adopted kids who say these issues don't exist are kidding themselves or haven't realised how adoption affects them. but personally, my adoption into my family was overall a positive experience and i continue to believe that in many cases, adoption is the best answer for children who need loving homes. mothers do not put their children up for adoption without feeling repercussions, either. the stark reality with regard to foster care is that reunification does not always work and adoption becomes the preferable permanent alternative.
as i stated, i have had these boys in my care since they were infants. were their parents able to complete the work the court deemed necessary to regain custody of their children, we wouldn't be having this discussion.
working in foster care, i believe also that reunification is best for the child. but only if that means the child can live with his bio family safely. that, sadly, is not often the case. it doesn't mean we don't try.
i understand what you mean by madness. you should really try to work through your issues. i will tell you it sucks and is hard but will really change your life for the better if you can. i usually only have really snarky and snide comments to make in the trib posting section but this time i sincerely mean it: i wish you the best of luck.
IT IS UNNATURAL and wrong.