The dating scene in Chicago. Your qu...

The dating scene in Chicago. Your questions answered.

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resident 11

Cicero, IL

#1 Aug 8, 2013
For women, it depends on who you are looking for. For women, Chicago should be a piece of cake, as numerous Chicagoland guys are generally not social due to being rejected, heartbroken, and alienated.

For guys, it is far more complicated. If you are of low or middle income with an average job, average or below average income, or what not, the only ladies you may ever have approach you at all in Chicagoland, or really anywhere in the State of Illinois, are the overweight/morbidly obese ones. Usually the ones upwards of 300 and 400 pounds, the ones with the triple digit waist circumference, the type of double chin that replaces the entire forward neck and sometimes even bulges far forward, some of them might have terrible hygiene and such. Although you just might get lucky and end up with one around (at minimum) 210 pounds.

The pretty ones in Chicagoland; forget it! The pretty ones in Chicagoland only look for upper class luxury living when they look for a man. That means hundred grand bentleys, schoolhouse-sized mansions either in gated communities or on the lakefront, luxury yachts on Lake Michigan, and they still want more and more. And in fact, as of lately, I seem to have noticed a lot of young ladies moving from the suburbs into Chicago proper, especially the downtown area, which by the way is an absolutely terrible neighborhood. There may not be any Gangster Disciples, Latin Kings, or what not in Downtown Chicago, but it is beyond made up by the lethal Flash Mobs, which are far more dangerous to innocent people than the Gangster Disciples, they attack innocent people only, they attack in huge groups, and they attack like packs of vicious, hungry wolves.

There can therefore only be one possible explanation, in my opinion, as to why especially physically attractive women are pouring into the city proper. More than likely, they have grown tired of boyfriends/fiancees/husbands losing their jobs (laid off, fired, demoted, etc), having their paychecks cut/reduced, and such, and have decided to go for the gang bangers, bank robbers, mobsters, and drug dealers, even ones that have dozens of arrest warrants on them, in their dating quest. Literally as if they had decided to sell their very souls to Satan to achieve their dreams of upper class luxury living.

Therefore, guys, if you are either lower or middle class and want a woman who will take you for who you are, even if you are a loving family guy with Jesus in your heart, you have only 2 choices. Either settle for an overweight/obese woman, or look in another state/metro area.
resident 11

Cicero, IL

#2 Aug 11, 2013
Additionally, not only does Chicagoland obviously have a crummy nightlife atmosphere, but Chicagoland is that type of culture where, at nightclubs, it is apparently the guy's job to ask ladies to dance with them on the dance floor. But at the same time, in Illinois, single guys asking the ladies to dance with them is the absolute quickest and surest way to get booted right out of the club. As anyone would know, nightclubs will not tolerate inappropriate/illegal behaviors. In Illinois, single guys asking stranger ladies to dance with them is an inappropriate behavior. This especially also goes for the popular clubs such as the 115 Bourbon Street club on the southwest side. And in fact, even a possible arrest and possibly jail can not be ruled out for single guys asking ladies to dance with them at nightclubs.

It is also of my knowledge that there are a couple dance places in the suburbs as well, including the Tavern on LaGrange in Countryside, and the Trademark Tavern in Lombard. The Lombard one is to be seen as highly inappropriate for single guys! As it is located in DuPage County, Illinois, single guys who go there will absolutely not have any chance of dancing with the ladies, as asking DuPage ladies to dance risks a much higher likelihood of permanent expulsion and even jail.
resident 11

Saint Joseph, MI

#3 Sep 4, 2013
It also needs to be made known that, in addition to Illinois women wanting only upper class luxury living from a man, when Illinois women get married, they would literally throw up at the mere thought of having a buffet wedding! Buffet weddings, sometimes referred to as "peanut weddings" in certain regions, are those types of weddings where the reception is a buffet, where people serve themselves just like at a buffet. They are cheap, highly affordable, and are highly guest-friendly.

Unfortunately, when Illinois women get married, they only want the big, expensive, banquet weddings. The type of wedding that is a sit-down-and-get-served type, which costs easily upwards of $200 per individual plate, not to mention other heavy costs in addition to that, resulting in prices of as much as 20 to 30 grand for the entire event, and therefore only certain circles of family (normally only the closest cousins, aunts, uncles, and such) are invited. Adding to the costs, many Illinois women also choose the biggest and most luxurious banquet halls, ballrooms, hotels, and what not to have their reception, and those upper-class luxury places cost massive amounts (easily quadruple digit, sometimes even pentuple digit prices) of money to rent.

“City-data forum administrator”

Since: Sep 13

Pyongyang, North Korea

#4 Sep 5, 2013
Nobody is listening to you, you filthy piece of sewage! You are allready banned from the city-data forum as a troll and as a sexual pervert! Because you know something? Only serial rapists and sex predators would EVER fail to hook up with a Chicagoland college cheerleader.

If you really are disabled, you have no business breathing our fresh air!
resident 11

Saint Joseph, MI

#5 Sep 5, 2013
In fact, I would not even be a single bit surprised if someone were to tell me about women moving into Chicago proper that were even using mugshot websites to find new boyfriends.
resident 11

Saint Joseph, MI

#6 Sep 9, 2013
Another major trait of Chicagoland women is the kind of wedding they want when they officially get married. When Illinois women get married, they want the big, festive, sit-down banquet type wedding, where they rent a huge luxury ballroom, each individual plate is upwards of $200 each, only the closest family members are invited, and oftentimes, the grand total for the whole event (including the food, servers, banquet tables, candles, decorations, ballroom/banquet rental fees, and what not) can be as high as 20 to 30 grand.

Mention having a much cheaper buffet wedding to a typical Illinois woman, and she will literally throw up right on the floor! Yes, guys. Illinois women (Chicagoland women especially) are really that expensive!
He who knows

Joliet, IL

#7 Jan 5, 2014
Don't even THINK of even APPROACHING ANY ladies in Chicago proper anymore!

It has become FAR too dangerous to do so, especially due to the kinds of men that especially the pretty ones are hanging out with nowadays. Especially at the lakefront, and especially at places like Grant Park, Navy Pier, the Museum Campus area, the Loop, and also at ALL city events including but not limited to the Taste of Chicago, the St. Patrick's Day Parade, New Year's Eve festivities, and the lakefront air show. There is a rather significant influx in progress of young suburban women from the suburbs moving into the city proper (even from as far away as Naperville, Wheaton, Bolingbrook, Elgin, and Hanover Park). And they are moving to some of the absolute worst neighborhoods (such as the Loop area, Hyde Park, the Near South Side, and such). For everyone's information in addition to that, Chicago proper east of Cicero Avenue, from Lawrence Avenue (4800 north) all the way south to Steger Road (23100 south) and eastward all the way to the lakefront and right through Merrillville and Gary, Indiana, is all endless ghetto. Nothing but shootings, armed robberies, car jackings, drug dealings, and other nasty crimes. There is only one exceptin with Cicero Avenue; between 95th and 127th streets, the ghetto only extends about to the east edges of the cemeteries just east of South Kedzie Avenue. But between Ogden Avenue and Lawrence, the ghetto extends far past Cicero Avenue, all the way to Austin Avenue/Austin Blvd. Within that area, whatever is not covered by street gangs (Latin Kings, Gangster Disciples, Four Corner Hustlers, etc) is covered by the far more lethal Flash Mobs. In fact, there are a couple of entire articles on the flash mobs, one at and another at

There is one reason, and ONLY one reason, that all those young ladies are moving into those areas. Not too long ago, I had in fact read/watched some news that more and more women nowadays are getting higher paying jobs, are becoming more educated, more companies are hiring more women than men, women are apparently getting paid more than men in many instances, in fact, it is even at a point where there is an expanding circle of households nationwide where the wife is chief breadwinner of the household! Matching that trend is a shrinking circle of households in which the husband is chief breadwinner. Apparently as it seems, that trend is hitting Chicagoland pretty hard. Fewer guys are getting hired, more women are getting hired, men are getting cuts in paychecks, laid off, and what not. So what are Chicagoland women doing? They are abandoning the right way of living with guys, and they are going straight for guys that are gangsters, mobsters, bank robbers, burglars, thieves, and other kinds of hardened criminals. They are going for guys with guns, guys with assault rifles, guys with millions of dollars worth of stolen cash, stolen credit cards, money stolen through armed robberies, shootings, homicides, burglaries, thefts, muggings, and such. They are no longer going for breadwinner guys; they are going for breadstealer guys!

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