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Jun 16, 2013
 
Amy Dickinson
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DEAR AMY: Last winter, a girl and I were working our way toward an intimate relationship when she broke it off, badly. She was the first girl that I ever got that close to; it hurt a lot.

I got severely depressed. In a futile effort to try to win her back, I agreed to remain friends with her. Any time we hang out, however, Iíd either give her the cold shoulder or try to get closure as to why she ended things between us. I was texting her often, sometimes angrily, sometimes lightheartedly, in an effort to feel . . . loved, I suppose.

Now we arenít friends but are at least friendly to each other. Iím attempting to get back into the group of friends that she and I share, even though I know Iíll see her from time to time. The problem is, being in a small city, everybody knows everybody else through some aspect, and so Iím always running into someone who knows her or knows someone she dated, and it gets hard sometimes.

Iíve come a long way, but I still have a lot of work to do. Sheís always on my mind, taking up a lot of thought. I donít want this. Iíve been trying to get over her by making new friends, attempting to hang out with them as often as possible, and also by trying to get a new girl in my life. Every girl I get interested in ends up being unavailable in some aspect, and itís getting tiring and frustrating.

Should I focus more on trying to make friends and just enlarging my social circle, or should I try to find a relationship? I feel the relationship will do the best job of taking my mind off of her, because then Iíd have someone else to focus on.-- 22 and Confused

DEAR CONFUSED: The worst reason to engage in a new relationship is to get over another failed relationship. The reason your attempts to have relationships with other women are failing is because you are not ready. Other people can sense your insecurity and anxiety.

Finding another person to obsess over will not fix what ails you. You need to work on yourself, boost your confidence and realize deep down that you have something real to offer to the right person. You should work on your friendships, especially the primary friendship in your life, which is the one you have with yourself. If you continue to ruminate about this failed relationship and find you cannot shake off your depressed feelings, you should pursue professional counseling.

DEAR AMY: I am a 17-year-old high school student, and I recently broke my hand during a school baseball game. I was in obvious pain and had to go to the emergency room.

It has been a week since I broke my hand and had surgery, and not once has anyone from my school or coach called or e-mailed me to see how I am doing!

I recently went to my teamís seniors night game, and the coach asked me to keep the stats for him. Even though I was in a cast and a sling, he didnít even acknowledge me by name or ask how I was feeling. Should I call my coach and ask why he hasnít contacted me or should I just let it go? What do you think I should do?-- Injured

DEAR INJURED: I can completely understand why this is upsetting to you. It is the height of insensitivity for this coach to disregard your well-being in this way.

I donít recommend that you call him, but you could send him an e-mail. You say,ďNow that the season is over, I want to thank you for coaching us this year. Iím sorry my broken hand prevented me from finishing the season, and Iím disappointed that you didnít acknowledge it after it happened.Ē

DEAR AMY: One more note of support for your smack down on ďAG,Ē the selfish father who complained that his teenagers were receiving checks for only $25 for their birthdays. I was stunned at his letter and very happy you took him to task!-- Fan

DEAR FAN: Hundreds of readers have responded similarly. Thank you all.

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In both letters 1 and 2, the "ghost" of the LWs' mothers is very strong.

LW1 clearly grew up to age 22 craving love and attention from a woman and is acting lost when he didn't get it; LW2 was brought up to think he was the center of the universe and his every poop worthy of a headline and every ouchy a major disaster.

At least they are both relatively young when they discovered the world does not revolve around them and presumably have some emotional resilience.

LW1- a mope is not attractive. Go celibate for a while, hang with the group or the guys and when the moping phase passes, dating will get easier.

LW2 Don't email the coach. He is unfeeling and although he ought to have said Hey, guy, how's the hand doing,he didn't. How about you ask the team to sign your cast or your race or whatever. Then leave it.

“reign in blood”

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Excellent prognosis, PE. L1 is more of a loser than the Cubs. L2 thinks it's all about me me me me me!!!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

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1 What a whiny sap! What? You left you nuts somewhare and cant find them again?

2 The coach is pizzed that you were such a baby. A real man would have wrapped his hand in duct tape and finished the game.
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Re LW2: Seventeen year olds can be self-centered.
He just needs to grow up.
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Jun 16, 2013
 
L1: Are you a girl, by any chance?
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Obama Boo Boo wants to help you. Bend over and get a free butt buster.
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Jun 16, 2013
 
LW1: There are few things in life more unattractive than a male drama queen. Just sayin'.

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