I've read multiple accounts of this story and don't recall which I posted. Here's one.Sorry, Tonka. I was not clear.
I see the situation going down like this because it's the only way I can figure that adults would act so childish.
Man lets down tray table, gets out laptops and deploys the gadgets. A few minutes later, the woman tries to recline and can't and asks man to please remove the gadgets.
Man refuses to remove gadgets and continues typing. Woman asks again and he ignores her and continues typing. Woman gets pissed and instead of calling the flight attendant or waiting for the flight attendant's assistance, she just stands up and throws water all over him and the laptop.
Man gets righeously pissed off and a temper tantrum ensues.
So I suspect it was the damage to the laptop that really caused the ruckus, not the gadgets themselves.
According to this the flight attendant asked him to remove it. Then came the water. If we go with your chronology, that she threw the water without calling attendant, then that would mean she doused him with water and the flight attendant ignored that and proceeded to ask him to remove the device as he was siting there soaking wet. I don't buy it. I'm much more inclined to believe my interpretation