I'm pretty sure Dickie would prefer a quite Thanksgiving dinner with just us (maybe his parents) but he is not used to the big family and the obligations that come with it.<quoted text>
I wish you lots of luck and hope that at the end of the day, the love felt in your house overcomes the stress that you have leading up to it.
You're a really nice person to host Thanksgiving. I don't mind going to my husband's Aunt and Uncle's house that day, but I would much rather just spend the day with my husband and kids. I do have a large extended family (and my husband's is much larger), but because I grew up so far away from them I became accustomed to intimate family holidays. They were relatively low stress (though I did get a migraine every Christmas) and I miss them.
I will breathe deeply and often, I promise, and try and remember to feel the love.