Since: Jan 10

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#90817 Sep 5, 2013
squishymama wrote:
<quoted text>
I just read the review in the Trib and emailed it over to Dickie. We're probably some of the few folks who've actually seen "Pitch Black" (but not for Vin. We dig Claudia Black, from Farscape, so we watched it for her very brief appearance) but we were not impressed with "Riddick."
We'll see what Dickie says...
Honestly, I loved Pitch Black, I've seen it 3-4 times. I also really liked Chronicls of Riddick ("the Chronic WHAT cles of Narnia")(have you seen that SNL short? hilarious).

So I"m looking forward to this one, but Nick and I decided we would be fine not spending $20 to see it in the theatre and could wait six months until it is available to watch on demand or via REd Box.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#90818 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Tonka, it's mostly because they put so much money, time and effort toward trying to conceive, and now they're bitching about two instead of one, when that was A KNOWN RISK from day one. They sound insufferable.
This is basically what I was going to say to Tonka. It was far from an oops. They TRIED for it and paid for the treatments. Treatments that very often produce multiples. It is a common known fact.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#90819 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Tonka, it's mostly because they put so much money, time and effort toward trying to conceive, and now they're bitching about two instead of one, when that was A KNOWN RISK from day one. They sound insufferable.
Getting into a car accident is a known risk when you get into a car. Does not mean I should be expected to not be upset if it happens. And it would seem to me that the money aspect should play a role on how THEY view it, not you. As in we spent so much trying to get the family we wanted and now, this curveball of an unexpected additional child is going to wreak havoc on everything we can afford.

Take me for example. With 2 children, we could afford to put them in daycare while my wife continued to work and bring home a paycheck. 3 kids? The difference in her take home vs what would go back out to daycare would make work almost a waste. So we'd now have more mouths to feed and all on one paycheck. Can't do hand me downs since twins incur simultaneous expenses. Saving for college just zoomed past what was planned. Vacations became more expensive. Any extra-curriculars activities after school shot up. Food cost. Diapers.

I think its a very depressing 'surprise' to get. I presume they will make the best of the situation just like those with one surprise baby, but it does not make them bad people to be upset that their lives just took a big detour from what they were planning.

Since: Jan 10

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#90820 Sep 5, 2013
Except the risk for multiples is greatly increased when you are getting fertility treatments. The handful of couples I know who have endured those treatments got one kid, and then stopped. They didn't risk health (there are risks) and finances to try for kid #2. They felt like they wre lucky to get one, and then quit, knowing that having another one was even more difficult, and having 2+ at once isn't something they wanted either (not with already having a kid).

So, no, they don't get to bitch about it.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#90821 Sep 5, 2013
TonkaLogic... Insufferable!
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Getting into a car accident is a known risk when you get into a car. Does not mean I should be expected to not be upset if it happens. And it would seem to me that the money aspect should play a role on how THEY view it, not you. As in we spent so much trying to get the family we wanted and now, this curveball of an unexpected additional child is going to wreak havoc on everything we can afford.
Take me for example. With 2 children, we could afford to put them in daycare while my wife continued to work and bring home a paycheck. 3 kids? The difference in her take home vs what would go back out to daycare would make work almost a waste. So we'd now have more mouths to feed and all on one paycheck. Can't do hand me downs since twins incur simultaneous expenses. Saving for college just zoomed past what was planned. Vacations became more expensive. Any extra-curriculars activities after school shot up. Food cost. Diapers.
I think its a very depressing 'surprise' to get. I presume they will make the best of the situation just like those with one surprise baby, but it does not make them bad people to be upset that their lives just took a big detour from what they were planning.

Since: Jan 10

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#90822 Sep 5, 2013
One of the comments in that article is that society plays a role, in that there's a lot of pressure for people to get married, make babies (at least two). One kid? Oh no, he'll be an only, he will be spoiled and won't know how to share, etc.

It was an interesting point, not totally without validity.

Since: Jan 10

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#90823 Sep 5, 2013
(Meaning, not that onlies are spoiled rotten brats (I have never subscribed to that myth), but that couples are pushed by a lot of people to have another kid.)

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#90824 Sep 5, 2013
(retracts daddy bear claws...)
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
(Meaning, not that onlies are spoiled rotten brats (I have never subscribed to that myth), but that couples are pushed by a lot of people to have another kid.)

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#90825 Sep 5, 2013
squishymama wrote:
Dickie and I are getting an unexpected date night tomorrow night; it seems the girls talked the MIL into a sleepover. We talked about it last night and decided to go see a movie.
Well, the movie choices currently out there are so pathetic that we've decided to go out for dinner and get a movie on-demand instead. <shakes head> I cannot believe there is NOTHING out there that we'd be willing to blow $20+ on. Simply pathetic.
See Blue Jasmine
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#90826 Sep 5, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
Amy
I always love that knock on the door at 1:30 in the morning by a sobbing woman who was beaten by her boyfriend. How's everybody else's morning!?
Because you are too.nice.
Is this the same lady? Grow a pair, man!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#90827 Sep 5, 2013
Listen to more RUSH.
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
See Blue Jasmine

Since: Oct 12

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#90828 Sep 5, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
See Blue Jasmine
Our local movie critic raved about, Blue Jasmine...is it all that?

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#90829 Sep 5, 2013
Go Blue Forever wrote:
<quoted text>Our local movie critic raved about, Blue Jasmine...is it all that?
Yes. It is a Woody Allen movie with Cate Blanchett

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#90831 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Except the risk for multiples is greatly increased when you are getting fertility treatments.
But it does not increase so much that a multiple pregnancy is a higher probability than a single. The probability for a single is still higher. Still the better bet if you want in on that action.

If you take gamble, any gamble in life, where your desired outcome is a low probability( playing lotto, spinning the roulette wheel), you have little to complain about. But trying to have a child? The more likely outcome is one. They are not out of line for not being happy with the less likely outcome of two. They WOULD be out of line if they let this initial unhappiness alter how they parent.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#90832 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
And they could have aborted one of the fetuses. COuples with multiples from fertility drugs do that all the time.
Uless I misread the article, aborting is only an option when the number of fetuses is greater than 2.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#90833 Sep 5, 2013
Stina2 wrote:
They go through all that, get what they were trying for and then complain.
But they didn't get what they were trying for. They wanted one, not 2. You people are acting like they got an extra hamster or goldfish. An extra child is a huge life difference.

Since: Oct 12

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#90834 Sep 5, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes. It is a Woody Allen movie with Cate Blanchett
Like to see it, we don't go to movies much, cause of all the cable stuff....haven't been since War Horse, which was good, but i thought the ending coulda been better, especially for a Speilberg film.....

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#90835 Sep 5, 2013
[QUOTE who="PElllen] oted text>
See Blue Jasmine[/QUOTE]

I looked it up and, please please please do not take offense at this, but I loath this kind of movie.

I do like Cate Blanchett though.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#90836 Sep 5, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes. It is a Woody Allen movie with Cate Blanchett
OK totally missed that it was Woody Allen. Still not enough to make me interested.

Just not my thing.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#90837 Sep 5, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
Is this the same lady?
No! Some other dame in distress. What is it with you ladies??

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