Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#90792 Sep 5, 2013
On Tonka's link, I thought it was great that the (now ex) bf posted. Gave a better perspective. I thought the gf was totally looking for a free ride. That made me mad. She'd have to pay rent somewhere and (esp after hearing from him), he wasn't askign a whole lot and wanted to put it into a general fund (and add to it, too). It's not a bad thing to expect someone to contribute. ANd, again, she'd have to pay it somewhere, and a lot more than what he was asking. In the end, it sounded like he DID want to plan for the future, but she ruined it by trying to mooch off of him. He dodged a bullet!!!

Since: Jan 10

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#90793 Sep 5, 2013
Stina2 wrote:
On Tonka's link, I thought it was great that the (now ex) bf posted. Gave a better perspective. I thought the gf was totally looking for a free ride. That made me mad. She'd have to pay rent somewhere and (esp after hearing from him), he wasn't askign a whole lot and wanted to put it into a general fund (and add to it, too). It's not a bad thing to expect someone to contribute. ANd, again, she'd have to pay it somewhere, and a lot more than what he was asking. In the end, it sounded like he DID want to plan for the future, but she ruined it by trying to mooch off of him. He dodged a bullet!!!
Thanks for the follow-up! I read a lot of comments but didn't get down that far. Most were in her favor, but a few guys were on the boyfriend's side.

I wonder if she'd have been so hyped up about moving in and having a future if he wasn't so well off.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#90794 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Thanks for the follow-up! I read a lot of comments but didn't get down that far. Most were in her favor, but a few guys were on the boyfriend's side.
I wonder if she'd have been so hyped up about moving in and having a future if he wasn't so well off.
Probably not but judging from her original letter he did not communicate it very well.
Money issues need to be addressed before marriage . Its easier with a roommate without romance or expectations to muddy the waters..

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#90795 Sep 5, 2013
Seen on FB re: Castro's suicide in Cleveland:

"Some bed sheets are so economical, they can save you millions!"

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#90796 Sep 5, 2013

Since: Jan 10

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#90797 Sep 5, 2013
RACE wrote:
HA!

I remember getting scotch tape across my lips in grade school when I wouldn't stop talking in class. I deserved it.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#90798 Sep 5, 2013
I think it's ridiculous that they may FIRE the teacher over this. All those dipstick parents have never made a mistake or lapse in judgment in their jobs? Idiots.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#90799 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Seen on FB re: Castro's suicide in Cleveland:
"Some bed sheets are so economical, they can save you millions!"
LOVE it!!!!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#90800 Sep 5, 2013
Yeah, god forbid you shame a child for engaging in bad behavior and being disruptive. Why! Thats almost like Parenting!
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I think it's ridiculous that they may FIRE the teacher over this. All those dipstick parents have never made a mistake or lapse in judgment in their jobs? Idiots.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#90801 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Seen on FB re: Castro's suicide in Cleveland:
"Some bed sheets are so economical, they can save you millions!"
Ha!

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#90802 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
HA!
I remember getting scotch tape across my lips in grade school when I wouldn't stop talking in class. I deserved it.
Ha..
When I was in kindergarten I got put in a corner for blowing in an empty Good and Plenty box. That makes a great noise! That wasn't the only humiliation I suffered from those nuns through grade school. Some deserved, some not.

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#90803 Sep 5, 2013
http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/09/...

Wow, there's a lot of anger in the comments...

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#90804 Sep 5, 2013
itser wrote:
http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_ factor/2013/09/03/couple_angry _about_expecting_twins_writes_ about_it_on_babble_commenters. html?wpisrc=obnetwork
Wow, there's a lot of anger in the comments...
I liked this comment:

""After TWO YEARS of fertility calendars, intrauterine inseminations, and in vitro fertilization, they are now pregnant with twins". And they never read the consent forms, or thought to themselves, "Gee, what if we have twins?"
One of the first things fertility clinics tell you is that there is a possibility of multiple births.
There should be an IQ test in those clinics."

I guess good on them for saying how they feel, anonymously, but *really*? They sound like spoiled idiots. Did they not realize that sometimes one pregnancy results in more than one baby? Especially assuming they're older and with the fertility treatments.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#90805 Sep 5, 2013
itser wrote:
http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_ factor/2013/09/03/couple_angry _about_expecting_twins_writes_ about_it_on_babble_commenters. html?wpisrc=obnetwork
Wow, there's a lot of anger in the comments...
I think it's justified anger. This couple never should have gone for kid #2. They spent a fortune on those infertility treatments, and now they're complaining about not being able to afford twins?

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#90806 Sep 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
I think it's justified anger. This couple never should have gone for kid #2. They spent a fortune on those infertility treatments, and now they're complaining about not being able to afford twins?
After reading this, I think they should never have had Kid #1. What horrible people.

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#90807 Sep 5, 2013
I don't know.

My mother loved me. I never had any doubts about that at all. But I also knew from a pretty young age that she was upset/angry when she found out she was carrying me and that she did NOT want to be pregnant again. She had five kids and then after a long stretch she had my youngest brother. After an even longer stretch, surprise - there I was.

If it had been available back in the stone age, she may have also used the internet to vent about how overwhelmed she was feeling, and that is mostly what I got from these two. Better to do it anonymously online with a bunch of strangers than to vent to family members who may throw it back in their faces later, when they have young children hearing it in the only way they could...mommy and daddy love our big brother but they hate us.

I thought they mostly sounded overwhelmed, worried, and scared. The kids have probably been born by now. Hopefully, mom and dad have gotten their feet under them by now and are feeling differently.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#90808 Sep 5, 2013
My friend C and her husband are still having trouble wrapping their brains around pregnancy #4 (failed vasectomy, she's due in a month). They're both pretty Type A. It's not like they're hurting for money; it's more of the stress of raising 4 instead of 3. The had gotten rid of all their baby stuff, but she's super thrifty and doesn't buy much of that kind of stuff first hand anyway.

I guess, me not having kids, I'm thinking "What's the big deal?" I can see the shock of going from zero to one or even from one to two, and I get being upset right off the bat, but they've had 7 months to get used to the idea. I'm hoping they loosen up once he gets here or get psychological help.

In the grand scheme of things, I'd rather my family get unexpectedly bigger rather than unexpectedly smaller, which has generally been the case for me.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#90809 Sep 5, 2013
We have a panoramic photo of a forest full of birch trees in our big handicapped private bathroom. IT's not hung up on the wall yet, it's on the floor leaning against the wall.

So today, I printed off a tiny (like, 1/2 to 3/4 inch tall) Where's Waldo guy, cut around him, used invisible tape, and put him up in the trees. You don't even notice him when you glance at the picture.

My boss is going to be pissed, which is partly why I did it. SHe gets all bent out of shape over harmless things.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#90810 Sep 5, 2013
itser wrote:
I don't know.
My mother loved me. I never had any doubts about that at all. But I also knew from a pretty young age that she was upset/angry when she found out she was carrying me and that she did NOT want to be pregnant again. She had five kids and then after a long stretch she had my youngest brother. After an even longer stretch, surprise - there I was.
If it had been available back in the stone age, she may have also used the internet to vent about how overwhelmed she was feeling, and that is mostly what I got from these two. Better to do it anonymously online with a bunch of strangers than to vent to family members who may throw it back in their faces later, when they have young children hearing it in the only way they could...mommy and daddy love our big brother but they hate us.
I thought they mostly sounded overwhelmed, worried, and scared. The kids have probably been born by now. Hopefully, mom and dad have gotten their feet under them by now and are feeling differently.
I agree with you. We did not have to do amy fertility treatments to get #2, and even though twins was not likely, the possibility is always biologiacally there. I would have felt the same way.

Life does not always go exactly as planned, and when it doesn't, you have wvery right to be less than thrilled. One need not be rich to undergo these treatments. I have a friend that had 2 kids thru IVF. They scrimped and saved and sacrificed other things in order to afford it.

Regardless, if you are planning for 2 babies and end up with 3, its probably more of a burden than if you were planning on zero babies and oops, you get pregnant.

Why should one get a pass on feeling upset with one oops baby, but villified for being upset with twins?

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#90811 Sep 5, 2013
Dickie and I are getting an unexpected date night tomorrow night; it seems the girls talked the MIL into a sleepover. We talked about it last night and decided to go see a movie.

Well, the movie choices currently out there are so pathetic that we've decided to go out for dinner and get a movie on-demand instead. <shakes head> I cannot believe there is NOTHING out there that we'd be willing to blow $20+ on. Simply pathetic.

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