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Jun 28, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Its all about embracing your limited options.
I think the neighbors dog has a thing for me.

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Jun 28, 2013
 
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Weekend plans?
...Date night with Nick and the kids.
This.
I officially declare you middle aged.

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#87878
Jun 28, 2013
 
edogxxx wrote:
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But we can't procreate until we've been sanctioned by God. So let us marry!
God has nothing to do with it. It's a contract. It would need to be sanctioned by the state.

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Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Society has a vested interest (look it up) in making sure that incestuous relationships between uber close relatives don't happen
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The definition of "uber close" has changed at different times.It wasn't always just blood relatives.

The biggest example is that Henry VIII married what was essentially his SIL (his dead brother Arthur's widow). The fuss over that one resulted in Lutherans, but there was no risk of flawed offspring from marrying a SIL.

There are other examples where 2nd cousins needed dispensation for consanguinity. To my knowledge that was not an issue in MD in 1969(my fiance's bf married his 2nd cousin then), so I don't know when that line was moved.

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Jun 28, 2013
 
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Does anyone know if the Hax chat can be gotten to anywhere else but WaPo?'Cause I'm not paying for it...
This was in the Hax files. I would be interested to hear peoples comments vis a vis the Paula Deen debacle.

To CH

You have said a few times something along the lines of ďWe are not responsible for someone elseís feelings,Ē and when it comes to the extremes of narcissistic or victim-playing behavior, I get this. But if I do or say something legitimately hurtful, prejudiced, etc., to someone else, whether through malicious forethought or benign error, itís hard for me not to feel at least a little responsible for the likely distress that person then feels, and I do my best to make amends. True, some of us have an especially Zen approach to life, and each of us ultimately chooses how we react to what life throws at us, but I think Iím understanding your comment much more coldly and heartlessly than you intended. Could you please help clarify?

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Fr CH

Truth is, I think a lot of what I advise and espouse amounts to a system ó an emotional word problem, in a way. Therefore, talking about it involves breaking down very emotional things into transactions, which is inherently cold.

But thatís just in the mechanics; the result is an emotional exchange, which, if handled with respect and fair concern for all involved, tends to be the opposite of cold.

Take the transaction you cite: If you ďdo or say something legitimately hurtful, prejudiced, etc., to someone else,Ē youíre still not responsible for the other personís feelings; itís his or her place alone to decide what to think about and do with your actions. BUT: You are responsible for you ó which means you make a good-faith effort to express your regret and repair or mitigate any damage when you do something you recognize as wrong.

Short version: Your actions can cause pain, of course, but you canít reach in and personally adjust the pain levels. You can only change your actions.

It is a cold word problem, but it also shows the path to a happy result where people care about each other while also recognizing the line between what is under your control (the outcome you intend) and isnít (outcome you get).

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Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> Nope. But since its MY pug, I would not consent to such a thing. But feel free to marry your own pug. When you consummate the marriage, will you be in front or behind?
(uh, Tonka, come here a minute....http://wgntv.com/201 3/06/03/man-arrested-for-havin g-sex-with-pit-bull-at-city-po und/)

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(uh, Tonka, come here a minute....http://wgntv.com/201 3/06/03/man-arrested-for-havin g-sex-with-pit-bull-at-city-po und/)
Why are you showing this to me? Dogg's the one who frequently talks about marrying dogs.

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PEllen wrote:
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This was in the Hax files. I would be interested to hear peoples comments vis a vis the Paula Deen debacle.
To CH
You have said a few times something along the lines of ďWe are not responsible for someone elseís feelings,Ē and when it comes to the extremes of narcissistic or victim-playing behavior, I get this. But if I do or say something legitimately hurtful, prejudiced, etc., to someone else, whether through malicious forethought or benign error, itís hard for me not to feel at least a little responsible for the likely distress that person then feels, and I do my best to make amends. True, some of us have an especially Zen approach to life, and each of us ultimately chooses how we react to what life throws at us, but I think Iím understanding your comment much more coldly and heartlessly than you intended. Could you please help clarify?
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Fr CH
Truth is, I think a lot of what I advise and espouse amounts to a system ó an emotional word problem, in a way. Therefore, talking about it involves breaking down very emotional things into transactions, which is inherently cold.
But thatís just in the mechanics; the result is an emotional exchange, which, if handled with respect and fair concern for all involved, tends to be the opposite of cold.
Take the transaction you cite: If you ďdo or say something legitimately hurtful, prejudiced, etc., to someone else,Ē youíre still not responsible for the other personís feelings; itís his or her place alone to decide what to think about and do with your actions. BUT: You are responsible for you ó which means you make a good-faith effort to express your regret and repair or mitigate any damage when you do something you recognize as wrong.
Short version: Your actions can cause pain, of course, but you canít reach in and personally adjust the pain levels. You can only change your actions.
It is a cold word problem, but it also shows the path to a happy result where people care about each other while also recognizing the line between what is under your control (the outcome you intend) and isnít (outcome you get).
I don't really understand the LWs issue. No, you can not be responsible for how someone else feels about "X." However, when you do or say something that hurts someone, and you feel bad for hurting them, the generally accepted thing to do is apologize. "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings." Didn't we all learn that in kindergarten?

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Oh, we will, dont worry about that.
But I think your dream of ever marrying your toaster will never be realized. Yeah I know, she's great in the shower, but it just aint gonna happen.
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Go ahead and call me a paranoid nut-case in a tin foil hat. In thirty, maybe even twenty years, you'll see I'm right.

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Jun 28, 2013
 
Still can't access the Hax chat.:( WTF am I supposed to do on Fridays now?

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Jun 29, 2013
 
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Still can't access the Hax chat.:( WTF am I supposed to do on Fridays now?
Don't know if this will help. I'm not having any trouble yet.

http://live.washingtonpost.com/carolyn-hax-li...

This is the page I have bookmarked. Haven't been blocked yet.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/advic...

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Jun 29, 2013
 
Thanks Hgts gal.

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Jun 29, 2013
 
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Still can't access the Hax chat.:( WTF am I supposed to do on Fridays now?
Did you try the technique I PM'd you? It worked for me.

Are you being blocked from anything else on WaPo?

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Jun 29, 2013
 
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Did you try the technique I PM'd you? It worked for me.
Are you being blocked from anything else on WaPo?
Just did. Going to go try it now. Thanks!

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#87892
Jun 29, 2013
 
Oh, and I the tap on the boxed wine I bought does NOT unscrew!
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Jun 29, 2013
 
RACE wrote:
Oh, and I the tap on the boxed wine I bought does NOT unscrew!
don't forget to decant so it can breathe.:/

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PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Did you try the technique I PM'd you? It worked for me.
Are you being blocked from anything else on WaPo?
Woo hoo it worked! THANK YOU! Now I can get my Has fix.:D

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#87895
Jun 29, 2013
 
Ha! It decanted as it sat in my glass waiting for me to guzzle it down.

Weekend, back to bottled wine. Bought some Naked Grape and Pennywise. Will see how they taste.
dahgts wrote:
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don't forget to decant so it can breathe.:/
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So, my parents JUST got wifi today....*sigh*

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