I would have liked it better if he'd put a good wine in there, maybe a set of nice plastic wine glasses, etc. Not the candy stuff.<quoted text>
Around here that's not a wedding gift, it's a shower gift. Still, that bride was completely out of line.
But I have read and heard for years that in the Jersey/NY area, it's customary to give large gifts of cash at weddings. Like $200 minimum. I've never given more than $50. i can't afford to give $200. Does that even matter? Are you expected to give big e3ven if it means you eat ramen and pb&j for a month to afford it?