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Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#87487 Jun 20, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
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they have contracts now, and the carrier is pulling out of the market, which is the driving force of the 'panic'. I didn't think one could take a number from contract service to pre-paid, but htat info is several years old, so <shrug>, i'll tell tehm to ask about it.
the real issue is that my mom's making a mountain out of an ant hill. i've told her the same thing 3 times in the last 5 months about switching carriers... she has too much time on her hands, i think! ;-)
Well, good luck dealing with it. Sounds like it just might land on you feet.

Since: Jan 10

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#87488 Jun 20, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
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smart phones are over their heads, especailly wehn they tend to be with othrs who have tehm and know how to use them efficiently... <ahem>
they keep gonig back & forth on pre-paid or contract, but if htey go pre-paid, they'll lose the numbers they've had for... almost 10 years, adn have started using more often in teh last couple of years.
and, to put things in persepctive, they were considering a french door refrigerator, but decided against it b.c my dad would never adjust to having to remember to make sure the top doors actually close, instead of relying on a good swing to get a regular one to close.../facepalm/
they're gonna be fun when they get "old"...
ARe you sure they can't keep their numbers? I switched to another pre-paid phone and was able to keep my number.

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#87489 Jun 20, 2013
Science is f'ing awesome...

This video is of a 3 year old boy hearing his father's voice for the first time.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch...

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#87490 Jun 20, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
http://www.colbertnation.com/t he-colbert-report-videos/42730 9/june-19-2013/remembering-lor na-colbert

Stephen Colbert's tribute to his mom, who died last week. Very sweet.
Wow, that made me tear up. I had to share it on FB.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#87491 Jun 20, 2013
Toj wrote:
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I've got a prepaid plan b/c it works for me and I'm not hard on my phones. Have a smart phone and have unlimited 4G everything for $40/month -- data, text, phone (talk)
I'm also the kind of person that doesn't need the bright, shiny new phone that just came on the market. If someone is that type of person, then contract works better b/c you can upgrade cheap to the newest phone.
WHich company are you using. Mine is "pay as you go", so I just buy minutes and then buy more when I need them. I thought about doing one of the $40/month plans, though.

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#87492 Jun 20, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
<quoted text>they have contracts now, and the carrier is pulling out of the market, which is the driving force of the 'panic'. I didn't think one could take a number from contract service to pre-paid, but htat info is several years old, so <shrug>, i'll tell tehm to ask about it.

the real issue is that my mom's making a mountain out of an ant hill. i've told her the same thing 3 times in the last 5 months about switching carriers... she has too much time on her hands, i think! ;-)
Good luck! Hopefully she will listen to you :)

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#87493 Jun 20, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
<quoted text>Tell me about it. And, yes, she does. But for now, I don't think she sees that she's the problem, and that's kind of the issue. I'm fine with her staying with us as long as she's working/looking for work, or in school, but if she decides to not make progress in life, she can go back with her parents.

It's really hard to be like "F you, get out." because of what we'd be sending her back to.

And I b1tch a lot on here, and it's frustrating, but she's made a lot of positive steps since we took her in 2.5 years ago.
How do his parents feel about them being joined at the hip? Do you and J know them?

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#87494 Jun 20, 2013
Stina wrote:
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WHich company are you using. Mine is "pay as you go", so I just buy minutes and then buy more when I need them. I thought about doing one of the $40/month plans, though.
Virgin Mobile. Works for me.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#87495 Jun 20, 2013
Well, it looks like I'm down to just two step-sisters.

The "bride" discovered that my good step-sis told my niece's bio aunt and grandma about the allegations because she is concerned for the well-being of the child. The "bride" did not take kindly to that and declared they are done and my sis will never see her or my niece again.

Then after I told Dickie about this, he went and sent the "bride" this message on FB:

I'm sure you don't care about what I say or feel at this point but here's the deal..
You have really gone over the line with this last episode of "drama with Helen". The accusations you have made NEED TO BE EXPLAINED TO THE REST OF THE FAMILY!!! My children have spent time with you and your family and if there is a predator amongst us (if that's true which I donít think it is) then for the safety of all our kids you need to explain what happened!! If you really are a family member then act like it. Again, not that you care about my opinion but I have told the rest of the family that until we get some answers, if you're around at the holidays WE WILL NOT COME!!!! Good luck to you and try to do right by your daughter because right now YOU'RE NOT!!!

I immediately started getting stressed out but then remembered that I don't have to. I will let Dickie fight this one for all of us; he could care less how abusive she may get. He's done with her.

We've been putting up with her BS for ages and we were all sick of it but tried for the sake of my step-mom to keep the family together after she died; it was one of the last things she asked of us.

uh oh, good sis just read the above email (Dickie asked that I forward it to her) and she is not happy. She wants him to try and un-message it from FB. Is that even possible?

<trying not to care, trying not to care, trying not to care>

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#87496 Jun 20, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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ARe you sure they can't keep their numbers? I switched to another pre-paid phone and was able to keep my number.
my understanding (which goes back 8 years or so), is that you can move numbers around within teh same type of phone= house, contracted cell, or pre-paid/pay-as-you-go cell - but you can't take a number from home to cell, pre-paid to contract, etc. But, it's been 8 years since i've worked selling cell phones (but not by the sea shore), so i don't knwo if the laws have changed.

Hell, i'm almost at thepoint of askign hubby to take them on our plan just to get her to STFU. my dad doesn't care, as long as he can call and the equipment works and keypad locks, he's all good.

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#87497 Jun 20, 2013
Squishy, good luck with teh family... sounds like a mess, but sounds like you have a good champion for your immediate group in your corner. we can meet for coffee somewhere if you need another ear to vent to...
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#87498 Jun 20, 2013
squishymama wrote:
Well, it looks like I'm down to just two step-sisters.
The "bride" discovered that my good step-sis told my niece's bio aunt and grandma about the allegations because she is concerned for the well-being of the child. The "bride" did not take kindly to that and declared they are done and my sis will never see her or my niece again.
Then after I told Dickie about this, he went and sent the "bride" this message on FB:
I'm sure you don't care about what I say or feel at this point but here's the deal..
You have really gone over the line with this last episode of "drama with Helen". The accusations you have made NEED TO BE EXPLAINED TO THE REST OF THE FAMILY!!! My children have spent time with you and your family and if there is a predator amongst us (if that's true which I donít think it is) then for the safety of all our kids you need to explain what happened!! If you really are a family member then act like it. Again, not that you care about my opinion but I have told the rest of the family that until we get some answers, if you're around at the holidays WE WILL NOT COME!!!! Good luck to you and try to do right by your daughter because right now YOU'RE NOT!!!
I immediately started getting stressed out but then remembered that I don't have to. I will let Dickie fight this one for all of us; he could care less how abusive she may get. He's done with her.
We've been putting up with her BS for ages and we were all sick of it but tried for the sake of my step-mom to keep the family together after she died; it was one of the last things she asked of us.
uh oh, good sis just read the above email (Dickie asked that I forward it to her) and she is not happy. She wants him to try and un-message it from FB. Is that even possible?
<trying not to care, trying not to care, trying not to care>
YAY, DICKIE!!! I don't think he should un-message it. I feel SO BAD for "bride's" daughter. I hope she comes out of all this OK. Please keep letting Dickie take care of it!
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#87499 Jun 20, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
<quoted text>
my understanding (which goes back 8 years or so), is that you can move numbers around within teh same type of phone= house, contracted cell, or pre-paid/pay-as-you-go cell - but you can't take a number from home to cell, pre-paid to contract, etc. But, it's been 8 years since i've worked selling cell phones (but not by the sea shore), so i don't knwo if the laws have changed.
Hell, i'm almost at thepoint of askign hubby to take them on our plan just to get her to STFU. my dad doesn't care, as long as he can call and the equipment works and keypad locks, he's all good.
Yeah, it's changed in the last couple of years. I think, with the prepaid, it's only changed inthe last year or 2.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#87500 Jun 20, 2013
Hey Squishy,
I lost track of all the players but just wanted to weigh in with my .02

Tell good sis that Dickie (D from now on in my book)
has expressed what he feels to be true, and he has every right to find out if there is a potential abuser with access to his children. Drama aside, him protecting his kids is his right and duty.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#87501 Jun 20, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Morals? Are you married? Have you EVER had sex? Thought so. STFU hypocrite!
Please explain how my comment makes me a hypocrite? It is not hypocritical to say some people don't have sex before marriage yet not engage in that myself. So am I missing something? And people are really getting tired of all your nastiness and name-calling. Try to grow up.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#87502 Jun 20, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
Squishy, good luck with teh family... sounds like a mess, but sounds like you have a good champion for your immediate group in your corner. we can meet for coffee somewhere if you need another ear to vent to...
Thanks AS! I think we're going to need it.

Good sis is now feeling terribly guilty for telling me (and others) and that the bride has every reason to be pissed and is justified in cutting her out of her + niece's life. I feel so bad that good sis is taking all this on herself; *she* did nothing wrong in my eyes.

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#87503 Jun 20, 2013
Squishy - wow! I second everything Stina said.

You chose well with Dickie. Stick with him, not the family you didn't choose who seems to enjoy drama and secrets over common sense.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#87504 Jun 20, 2013
squishymama wrote:
We've been putting up with her BS for ages and we were all sick of it but tried for the sake of my step-mom to keep the family together after she died; it was one of the last things she asked of us.
I applaud your husband for sticking up for you and the children and the rest of the family, and understand trying to keep the "family" together for the sake of your deceased step-mother. But....

Given my own experience, I stayed on good terms with my step brother and two step sisters after my step father's passing. Until my step brother started being a total jerk and fighting with my mother on belongings step bro felt he was entitled to (my step father was a simple man and left everything he owned ((which wasn't much but a few personal items)) to my mother). For a while I chalked it up to his grief, but then he started being a total jerk to me and trashing my mother. It took a few years, but I slowly eeked him out of my life. He only lives about five miles away and I haven't seen or spoken to him in years.

I'm FB friends with both former step sisters now, but don't have a relationship with them outside of that. And there is no way I'd get drawn into any of their drama.

Short story long, I basically said all that to say, there's really no reason to hold onto the relationship with your toxic, former step sister anymore. As cold hearted as it is, she's not really "family" anymore so don't deal with this drama. Cut ties and move on.

Easier said than done, I understand, but start backing away little by little. Eventually, both of you will move on to greener pastures.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#87505 Jun 20, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Please explain how my comment makes me a hypocrite? It is not hypocritical to say some people don't have sex before marriage yet not engage in that myself. So am I missing something? And people are really getting tired of all your nastiness and name-calling. Try to grow up.
You're right. Hypocrite wasn't a good word choice. Arrogant, misogynistic, racist, homophobic, judgmental, pompous, self-righteous, aass is a much better option.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#87506 Jun 20, 2013
squishymama wrote:
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Thanks AS! I think we're going to need it.
Good sis is now feeling terribly guilty for telling me (and others) and that the bride has every reason to be pissed and is justified in cutting her out of her + niece's life. I feel so bad that good sis is taking all this on herself; *she* did nothing wrong in my eyes.
Walk...away. Let Dickie take care of it. Can't un-send from FB anyway, so it's out there. Bad-stepsis is toxic. What would you tell a LW in that situation?

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