This does not bode well for you and J on a long term basis. If she can't keep a camp counselor job, gets him fired too, shows personality issues of being rigid and controlling and is generally immature, she is going to end up back with MIL or you and J with no end in sight.I was fairly inebriated by the time they got home, but I guess they were "asked to leave" for a number of reasons. Seems like it boils down to my SIL not being able to get along with anyone and being a general PITA. Dress code Nazi, whining about everything in general.
"They told us we needed to work out our problems with the other counselors ourselves!" J: "Um...yeah, you're adults, not campers."
Anyway, I hope they hike it on up to his parents house soon.
Does she have a local pastor who she would listen to? And who would listen to you?