I have a friend at work who has gone back to school to get her teaching licensing renewed and take other mandatory coursework in order to teach here in this state -- it's taking her about two years -- and I did say the other day, "I know I don't have a right to say this to you, because you're not my mom or my kid or my spouse, but I'm so proud of you for doing this!" But I Felt like... at least I said "I don't really get to CLAIM being proud."<quoted text>
My good friend is like that. She gets them regularly but always says she's treating herself. For some reason she has to justify herself. She is also somewhat heavy.
More annoyances: If I tell her something that I did that was clever, impressive, inc. she'll say "I'm proud of you". I finally told her to stop, that she's not my mother or kid.
This is the one I traveled with for a month. Babbled on with her quips to Europeans. who looked at her like she was nuts, confidently pronounced the different languages incorrectly. Next time if I ever go on a trip it's with me, myself and I.
Maybe the right word would have been impressed or to tell her how much I respect her for doing this (and getting out of a bad marriage after 30 years).
Her hsuband had told her he was divorcing her when the youngest was done with high school, and she decided to not wait that long. He's always made six figures and she's never seen his paycheck, he controls the money. He told her she'd get nothing.
Something must have made him change, becuase he's completely cooperating with giving her half of all of their savings/investments (which is in his name only) and knows he'll have to pay alimony for a while until she can get working and earn enough to pay for rent on her own, and he said he has no problem with it.
She thinks one of their kids (three are adults, one will be a senior in HS next year) talked to him about how crappy he was treating her. I couldn't stand him from day one. I am so glad she's going to be done with him.