Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#86015 May 22, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I'm with the dog. I don't see what the big deal is. This would not bother me at all.
The big deal is that *I* feel like I'm being forced to be rude. And *I* wouldn't appreciate being uninvited to something so I'm not going to do it to someone else. Golden rule and all that.
:)

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#86016 May 22, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
The big deal is that *I* feel like I'm being forced to be rude. And *I* wouldn't appreciate being uninvited to something so I'm not going to do it to someone else. Golden rule and all that.
:)
I can just see it now. If the roles were reversed, Jam would be on the phone with her friends o a party line call analyzing every moment they'd spent together trying to reconcile how wonderful he'd been all along with how rude he was for changing plans on her like that. But as it is now, the dude would likely say cool and then head out with the fellas to drink some beers while watch the Heat lose to the Pacers.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#86017 May 22, 2013
kinda like this

HER SIDE OF THE STORY

He was in an odd mood when I got to the bar, I thought it might have been my fault because I was a bit late but he didn't say anything much about it.

The conversation was quite slow going so I thought we should go off somewhere more intimate so we could talk more privately. We went to this restaurant and he was STILL acting a bit funny. I tried to cheer him up and started to wonder whether it was me or something else. I asked him, and he said no. But I wasn't really sure.

So anyway, in the cab on the way back to his house, I said that I love him and he just put his arm around me. I didn't know what the hell that meant because you know he doesn't say it back or anything. We finally got back to his place and I was wondering if he was going to dump me! So I tried to ask him about it but he just switched on the TV. Reluctantly, I said I was going to go to sleep. Then after about 10 minutes, he joined me and we had sex.

But, he still seemed really distracted, so afterwards I just wanted to leave but I just cried myself to sleep. I dunno, I just don't know what he thinks anymore. I mean, do you think he's met someone else???

HIS SIDE OF THE STORY

My team lost. Felt Kinda Tired. Got laid though.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#86018 May 22, 2013
Go Blue Forever wrote:
<quoted text>Yeah...i was actually gonna nominate, the area my Grandfather's cabin was...northern portion of lower Michigan...Lotta woods and fresh lakes, great fishing....can't recall a tornado or forest fire, ever...the cold, comes with the safety and security....very secluded means not many jobs....
Lake effect snow...

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#86019 May 22, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
Geez, shame the dude can't have plans changed on him and be on his own devices on a Friday night. I'm sorry, I thought we were dealing with older and more mature people.
Disclaimer: Really, really, really tired but I'm gonna take a shot at this...

He can have plans changed on him. Looks like he did.

The thing here is that he was invited by A and then un-invited. THAT is rude. JMW doesn't want to ditch him because she's made plans to spend the evening with him (at A's house).

So A is rude by un-inviting him and if JMW ditches him to hang with A then he's made plans and been left in the lurch.

True, he might be fine with that. Then again,(even though you think you speak for all men everywhere, you don't)...he may not like the idea of JMW bailing on him and leaving him on his own when he's made plans with her.

Just because A is rude doesn't mean JMW has to be.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#86020 May 22, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>Disclaimer: Really, really, really tired but I'm gonna take a shot at this...

He can have plans changed on him. Looks like he did.

The thing here is that he was invited by A and then un-invited. THAT is rude. JMW doesn't want to ditch him because she's made plans to spend the evening with him (at A's house).

So A is rude by un-inviting him and if JMW ditches him to hang with A then he's made plans and been left in the lurch.

True, he might be fine with that. Then again,(even though you think you speak for all men everywhere, you don't)...he may not like the idea of JMW bailing on him and leaving him on his own when he's made plans with her.

Just because A is rude doesn't mean JMW has to be.
Thank you.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#86021 May 22, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>
Disclaimer: Really, really, really tired but I'm gonna take a shot at this...
He can have plans changed on him. Looks like he did.
The thing here is that he was invited by A and then un-invited. THAT is rude. JMW doesn't want to ditch him because she's made plans to spend the evening with him (at A's house).
So A is rude by un-inviting him and if JMW ditches him to hang with A then he's made plans and been left in the lurch.
True, he might be fine with that. Then again,(even though you think you speak for all men everywhere, you don't)...he may not like the idea of JMW bailing on him and leaving him on his own when he's made plans with her.
Just because A is rude doesn't mean JMW has to be.
I don't buy into it being inherently rude. I think you have to look at the factors involved. How important is the event to the person being cancelled on? If its not that important, then I don't see it as rude. Additionally, if its something that can be rescheduled for some other time pretty easily, I'm not seeing a problem. Plans change that's life.

Another factor to look at is the reason for the cancellation especially compared to the importance of what is being cancelled. If we have plans to "hang out" and you're friend calls you with an extra ticket to ...whatever you chicks are into...Rent? Wicked? Hell yeah. Go ahead and go. We can "hang out" tomorrow. Or the next day. If I get last minute tickets to Pearl Jam? Later babe. We can hang out tomorrow. Pearl Jam is tonight only. However, if *WE* had tickets to Wicked, it would be rude to leave you in the lurch to go see Pearl Jam.

That's my take and I'm always right.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#86022 May 22, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>However, if *WE* had tickets to Wicked, it would be rude to leave you in the lurch to go see Pearl Jam.
That's my take and I'm always right.
I know it was just a get together at a friend's house, but in the context here (JMW correct me if I'm wrong) is they THEY "had tickets" to hang out together and then the friend uninvited one of them. That's not cool and going when the person that you "had tickets" with was uninvited, I think is rude.

And for the record...*I* am always right.:D

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#86023 May 22, 2013
Make sure to watch the video at the end. Its awesome. Drunk bitches rock.

http://consumerist.com/2013/05/16/this-may-no...

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#86024 May 23, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
Make sure to watch the video at the end. Its awesome. Drunk bitches rock.

http://consumerist.com/2013/05/16/this-may-no...
Hahahahahahaha!

Have I mentioned that I hate people who think that rules don't apply to them?

Since: Oct 12

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#86025 May 23, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>
Lake effect snow...
Yeah, but too far inland....in Spring they have Misquitos, the size of butterflies.....You'd have to stock up for the season....not many long drives, November to April.......or better yet.....also have a condo in Lake Worth, FL...lol...that's cheatin........

Since: Oct 12

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#86026 May 23, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
Make sure to watch the video at the end. Its awesome. Drunk bitches rock.
http://consumerist.com/2013/05/16/this-may-no...
That's too cool.....who say's the new generation is losing their people skills?....lol.....

Since: Jan 10

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#86027 May 23, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
Make sure to watch the video at the end. Its awesome. Drunk bitches rock.
http://consumerist.com/2013/05/16/this-may-no...
I didn't see any video at the end.

Since: Jan 10

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#86028 May 23, 2013
Unless you meant the words on the screen that spoke for the theatre.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#86029 May 23, 2013

Since: Jan 10

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#86030 May 23, 2013
Thanks!

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#86031 May 23, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
Advice needed!
If you've been paying attention, haha, you know that I've been dating D. Last Saturday, my friend A met him for the first time (all went well, blah blah, no story there). While we were all hanging out, A talked about how she's going to have a get-together at her house this Friday because her cousin B is arriving for a visit from out of state (B is female, I've met her several times, she and A and I have been on vacation together, etc.). A was planning to invite a few friends from work, one of her neighbors, and D and I. Mixed group of guys and girls.
A was traveling for work this week and got back last night. I emailed her a little while ago to ask what the plan is for Friday and she wrote back saying that last night she decided to just make it a girls night because she doesn't have time to prepare for a full-blown thing. So it would just be me, her and B.
My dilemma is that while I understand that things change and she's trying to catch up from traveling, it's sort of rude to invite someone and then basically un-invite them. It would be better to just cancel/reschedule altogether IMO. On the other hand, I don't want to be that girl who ditches her friends for a guy.
Thoughts?
IMO, she did cancel it and now has invited the girls over. It doesn't sound like she's trying to be rude. Go with the flow.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#86032 May 23, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
Thank you.
In addition. while I don't think your friend was rude, you can't ditch the guy you're seeing. I think your friend will understand.

Since: Jan 10

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#86033 May 23, 2013
Eh give him a BJ and then leave him alone for the night.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#86034 May 23, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>
Disclaimer: Really, really, really tired but I'm gonna take a shot at this...
He can have plans changed on him. Looks like he did.
The thing here is that he was invited by A and then un-invited. THAT is rude. JMW doesn't want to ditch him because she's made plans to spend the evening with him (at A's house).
So A is rude by un-inviting him and if JMW ditches him to hang with A then he's made plans and been left in the lurch.
True, he might be fine with that. Then again,(even though you think you speak for all men everywhere, you don't)...he may not like the idea of JMW bailing on him and leaving him on his own when he's made plans with her.
Just because A is rude doesn't mean JMW has to be.
I think Jamm is more rude for bailing on her friend just because there were a change in plans.

"There's been a slight change in plans."

"Well forget it, I'm not going at all then."

Her friends are gonna feel like she's ditching them to be with her boyfriend who she sees everyday, than with a friend she hasn't seen in a while.

Guess who likely isn't gonna be invited to the next get together?

I tried telling her not to create drama...

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