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#85401 May 9, 2013
All I said is what moron gets into a strangers car. Is it not dumb to get into a strangers car? Can't we agree that it is dumb? Can't we also agree that pretty much anyone her age when she was abducted should have readily understood the risk?

Why aren't folks supposed to get into strangers cars? They aren't supposed to get into strangers cars, because you don't know if the stranger is a psycho or not. Can't we agree about that?

She was dumb. She took a chance that she shouldn't have.

Does that mean she DESERVED to be held captive for 10 years; no, of course not. No one deserves that.

Since: Jan 10

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#85402 May 9, 2013
Go Blue Forever wrote:
<quoted text>That is the funniest show...loved the part last night, where the mom found out her name was still in the bathroom wall, at the skating rink...lol...Kinda miss Suburgatory, that was after it.....
I loved Suburgatory, but it seemed tough for me to find, I never k new it's night and time, b/c I thik I found it early on when they were trying to find a home for it in the schedule, so it moved around on me.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#85403 May 9, 2013
The one girl was friends with the daughter of this scumbag. In her case, I can see accepting a ride from the father of your bestie. The others <mimishrug> just let their guard down, imo. This guy has been repeated described as charming and friendly, so it's easy to see how it could have happened.

Since: Oct 12

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#85404 May 9, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I loved Suburgatory, but it seemed tough for me to find, I never k new it's night and time, b/c I thik I found it early on when they were trying to find a home for it in the schedule, so it moved around on me.
Yeah, they should have left it after, Modern Family...like it was....they get greedy and try to push us into the lame show, where the girl and kid, move back home.....They did that with a show, The B*tch that lives in Apt. 2B.....now i can't even find it.....it's alway's about greed.....

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#85405 May 9, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>So what's your point. Because she suffered so much, even when discussing it amongst ourselves, we should not point out her role in this? Her lapse in judgement? They did not forcw her into the van. Better judgement could have prevented this whole thing.
Maybe it would have prevented it but we don't know. Maybe he would have forced her in -- chased after her or used a weapon.

The guy is not right at all.

I'm not stoppin anyone from discussing anything. Including myself from voice my opinion that it's unnecessary to blame the victim.

Since: Jan 10

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#85406 May 9, 2013
Go Blue Forever wrote:
<quoted text>Yeah, they should have left it after, Modern Family...like it was....they get greedy and try to push us into the lame show, where the girl and kid, move back home.....They did that with a show, The B*tch that lives in Apt. 2B.....now i can't even find it.....it's alway's about greed.....
Oh, right -- that's the show with the chick from Scrubs and How I Met Your Mother, and she moves in with mom and stepdad. Hardy har har.

Since: Oct 12

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#85407 May 9, 2013
The one girl, Gina was supposed to be a special ed student.....too bad they can't just hang this guy, immediatly.....in his front yard....sorry.....

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#85408 May 9, 2013
Toj wrote:
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Maybe it would have prevented it but we don't know. Maybe he would have forced her in -- chased after her or used a weapon.
The guy is not right at all.
I'm not stoppin anyone from discussing anything. Including myself from voice my opinion that it's unnecessary to blame the victim.
The group knows I place a lot of weight on personal responsibility and ownning up to one's role in any givn situation. Count me on Tonka's side in this.

Actions have consequences. As soon as you are old enough to cross the street by yourself you know waht could happen if you don't look both ways. It does not absolve the guy speeding down a side street, but it acknowledges that the victim played a part in getting to that point of metaphorical impact.

Since: Jan 10

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#85409 May 9, 2013
I agree with Sub -- two different things, how a girl dresses and whether she voluntarily gets into a car with a stranger.

Last night on the news: Each year, of children who were approached and attempted to be abducted by strangers, 81% fought back and ran away. Only 19% were helped by an adult. They showed camera footage from various stores. No adults around. Creepy stuff to watch. All I could think was "What if this kid didn't fight back/run away?"
Timmy

United States

#85410 May 9, 2013
The "The B*tch that lives in Apt. 2B" was abruptly cancelled mid-season. That is why you can't find it. THe network does not plan to air the finshed, but un-aired episodes.
Go Blue Forever wrote:
<quoted text>Yeah, they should have left it after, Modern Family...like it was....they get greedy and try to push us into the lame show, where the girl and kid, move back home.....They did that with a show, The B*tch that lives in Apt. 2B.....now i can't even find it.....it's alway's about greed.....

Since: Jan 10

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#85411 May 9, 2013
For you star wars nerds, this is damn funny:

(it's just a picture)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/gurooo/664852376...

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#85412 May 9, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
For you star wars nerds, this is damn funny:

(it's just a picture)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/gurooo/664852376...
Ha ha! I love it!

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#85413 May 9, 2013
Ang, I just forwarded the same email with the subject line "read me!:)"

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#85414 May 9, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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The group knows I place a lot of weight on personal responsibility and ownning up to one's role in any givn situation. Count me on Tonka's side in this.
Actions have consequences. As soon as you are old enough to cross the street by yourself you know waht could happen if you don't look both ways. It does not absolve the guy speeding down a side street, but it acknowledges that the victim played a part in getting to that point of metaphorical impact.
I take personal resonsibility for myself. I'm not going to say what those girls should have done or should not have done and whether or not they are accountable on a personal responsibility level.

I don't know all the facts yet.

Of the facts that have emerged that I have read, two facts are germaine to this conversation -- one girl knew of him as her friend's father, and the other one believed him to be the father of a coworker.

I think this is an excellent time for parents of young kids and young adults to remind them not to get into a car unless they are positively sure of the people they ride with and it is a prearranged ride.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#85415 May 9, 2013
I'm not saying it wasn't dumb...or a lapse in judgement and that they should have known better. I'm saying that everyone, especially kids (and make no mistake, 17 year olds are still "kids") don't always think rationally.

Research says that the brain doesn't even really start working like an adult (consequences, long term repercussions, etc., etc., etc.) until people are like 24-25 isn for the most part, so for a 17 year old to do something that they KNOW BETTER than to do is understandable. In this case of course it's also tragic.

Of course they knew better. Of course it was drilled into their heads. But, sometimes kids (adults too) do stupid shit that they know better, they make choices that they've been taught are bad choices (by parents, school, churches, whatever) that most adults wouldn't make because as Bill Cosby so famously said, "kids are brain dead" most of the time. They think "here/now" not "what if?" So I can't place any of the blame for what happened on any of the girls.

I did the same thing at 17. Took a ride. Didn't know the guy. He was a perv. I agreed to go along with him. Jumped out of the car at a red light before he got to wherever it was he was taking me. I was SO LUCKY. Never, ever, ever did it again, ever. My braindeadedness was working overtime that day.*I* knew better, but it was a long-ass walk (like 5 miles) and I just wanted a ride.

The worst part of my being sofuckingstupid? it was only two years after this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lawrence_Singlet...

Berkely, California is within a few miles of where I grew up, so it was REALLY stupid for me to take a ride from a stranger, still...<shrug>

Since: Aug 08

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#85416 May 9, 2013
Toj wrote:
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I think this is an excellent time for parents of young kids and young adults to remind them not to get into a car unless they are positively sure of the people they ride with and it is a prearranged ride.
I agree. I just had that same talk with mine last week or so.

Since: Oct 12

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#85417 May 9, 2013
Timmy wrote:
The "The B*tch that lives in Apt. 2B" was abruptly cancelled mid-season. That is why you can't find it. THe network does not plan to air the finshed, but un-aired episodes.
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I thought that was some funny as sh*t show, eh? plus the B babe was beyond hottie...lol....funny show, too bad....I'm afraid, when i get a bit older, i will be part of the, "They're Taking All Our Stuff" Crowd....lol....

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#85418 May 9, 2013
Toj wrote:
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I guess since the captures were so awful I really dislike blaming the victims..
Mimi Seattle wrote:
That said, placing any blame on the victims for what this guy(s?) intentionally, with deliberation, malice, and forethought did....
Toj wrote:
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I agree. I get tired of the victims being blamed.
Toj wrote:
I'm not stoppin anyone from discussing anything. Including myself from voice my opinion that it's unnecessary to blame the victim.
Why do the 2 of you insist that we are blaming the victim?

If I am not wearing my seatbelt and some drunk runs a red light and I t-bone him and get launched thru my windshield, is it blaming the victim to point out that my stupid decision to not wear my seatbelt put me at greater risk than if I had worn my seatbelt and avoided becoming a human cannonball?

If I withdraw $500 from the ATM and start walking down the street counting out the cash as I walk and someone runs up and snatches it from my hand, is it blaming me to point out that the smart thing would have been to put your money away nd not flaunt it?

I cetainly don't think its blaming the victim.
Toj wrote:
I think this is an excellent time for parents of young kids and young adults to remind them not to get into a car unless they are positively sure of the people they ride with and it is a prearranged ride.
Mimi Seattle wrote:
I'm not saying it wasn't dumb...
Of course they knew better. Of course it was drilled into their heads. But, sometimes kids (adults too) do stupid shit that they know better, they make choices that they've been taught are bad choices
Mister Tonka wrote:
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she got in a stranger's van willingly. It was stupid....That's pointing out that when you do stupid things and put yourself in un-necessary danger, bad things are more likely to happen.
Mister Tonka wrote:
Better judgement could have prevented this whole thing.
So you both agree that getting in the car with a stranger is not a wise decison. You agree that it was dumb. Then why are only me and sub being accused of blaming the victim? You're saying the same damn thing we are.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#85419 May 9, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
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Why do the 2 of you insist that we are blaming the victim?
If I am not wearing my seatbelt and some drunk runs a red light and I t-bone him and get launched thru my windshield, is it blaming the victim to point out that my stupid decision to not wear my seatbelt put me at greater risk than if I had worn my seatbelt and avoided becoming a human cannonball?
If I withdraw $500 from the ATM and start walking down the street counting out the cash as I walk and someone runs up and snatches it from my hand, is it blaming me to point out that the smart thing would have been to put your money away nd not flaunt it?
I cetainly don't think its blaming the victim.
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So you both agree that getting in the car with a stranger is not a wise decison. You agree that it was dumb. Then why are only me and sub being accused of blaming the victim? You're saying the same damn thing we are.
I'm not saying you are blaming the victim. Maybe I shouldn't have said "blame." What I mean is that given their age(s) and what we know about brain development and rational decision making amongst adolescents, even well-informed ones who have been taught (repeatedly) and know better, that I won't put any of the culpability for what happened on them.

Especially considering that Douchebag was purposely, with malice and forethought specifically looking for a kid(s) who would let her (their) guard(s) down for just that split second so that he could take advantage of the situation and proceed with his nefarious (I love the word "nefarious" and there is so little opportunity to use it) plans. <shrug>

Does this make sense? Is what I'm saying any clearer? I don't mean that sarcastically, I'm stupid busy again and workign on like five things at once, so I'm not sure how articulate I'm being.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

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