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Since: Mar 09

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#84901 Apr 30, 2013
Toj wrote:
Hey, Mimi. A friend of mine mentioned she was invited to a Muslim wedding. A coworker is getting married. She wants to go out of respectful curiosity and doesn't know what to expect. She hasn't responded yet because the coworker is a PITA and that's a reason she really doesn't want to go.
The curiosity and learning experience is pushing her towards it.
How does a Muslim wedding (usually) differ from other weddings/ceremonies? And the reception as well?
Well it depends on the particular culture. I got married in Morocco and Moroccan weddings are all night affairs. We actually GOT married in a civil service at the Mosque/court house by the judge/priest ("Adul") then we went home and had a blow out party that lasted for about 18 hours. Lots of food, music and everyone in the city was there.

I don't know if other cultures have an actual ceremony (similar to "American style" weddings) or not. Ours was pretty perfunctory, just the legal stuff. "Do you agree to marry him? Did he give you $2500.00?" "Sigh here." They asked him the same stuff (minus the money question...in Islam the husband pays the wife a dowery...it is supposed to be $2500.00 per the Koran...it's her separate property) and he signed.

IIRC, his mother (who was with us) signed as a witness, but I don't really remember for sure. Of course in the US there are legal requirements for witnesses and such depending on which state you're in.

“What's it to ya?”

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#84902 Apr 30, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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They bomb a bus at the end.
Fluck you!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#84903 Apr 30, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Fluck you!
Your willingness to marry a Muslim doesn't make you a very good feminist.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#84904 Apr 30, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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It was almost 80 here yesterday, gorgeous for softball. 40 tomorrow with rain and snow.
I do hate when it's inconsistent like that!!!!
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#84905 Apr 30, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Well it depends on the particular culture. I got married in Morocco and Moroccan weddings are all night affairs. We actually GOT married in a civil service at the Mosque/court house by the judge/priest ("Adul") then we went home and had a blow out party that lasted for about 18 hours. Lots of food, music and everyone in the city was there.
I don't know if other cultures have an actual ceremony (similar to "American style" weddings) or not. Ours was pretty perfunctory, just the legal stuff. "Do you agree to marry him? Did he give you $2500.00?" "Sigh here." They asked him the same stuff (minus the money question...in Islam the husband pays the wife a dowery...it is supposed to be $2500.00 per the Koran...it's her separate property) and he signed.
IIRC, his mother (who was with us) signed as a witness, but I don't really remember for sure. Of course in the US there are legal requirements for witnesses and such depending on which state you're in.
What did you do with the $2500???

Since: Jan 10

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#84906 Apr 30, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Your willingness to marry a Muslim doesn't make you a very good feminist.
Islam actually teaches/preaches true equality between the two genders. It's the weirdo extremists who've ruined that.

Since: Jan 10

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#84907 Apr 30, 2013
Stina wrote:
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What did you do with the $2500???
She earned every penny of it!

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#84908 Apr 30, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
squishy: Adorable puppy! And is that your oldest daughter holding him, wearing the crazy pants? Those are fun!
Yeah, that's Lulu. Gotta love Old Navy, or as we like to call it Cold Gravy.

I whined to Dickie about spending 15ish hours in a car driving to cedar rapids and back to get this dog, but I gotta say she is an excellent puppy and it really felt like she was just waiting for us to come get her.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#84909 Apr 30, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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She earned every penny of it!
You're probably right!
I just hope she did something fun with it!
:D

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#84910 Apr 30, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Well it depends on the particular culture. I got married in Morocco and Moroccan weddings are all night affairs. We actually GOT married in a civil service at the Mosque/court house by the judge/priest ("Adul") then we went home and had a blow out party that lasted for about 18 hours. Lots of food, music and everyone in the city was there.
I don't know if other cultures have an actual ceremony (similar to "American style" weddings) or not. Ours was pretty perfunctory, just the legal stuff. "Do you agree to marry him? Did he give you $2500.00?" "Sigh here." They asked him the same stuff (minus the money question...in Islam the husband pays the wife a dowery...it is supposed to be $2500.00 per the Koran...it's her separate property) and he signed.
IIRC, his mother (who was with us) signed as a witness, but I don't really remember for sure. Of course in the US there are legal requirements for witnesses and such depending on which state you're in.
It sounds like they really like a party. I won't even comment on the $2500 thing since here in America there are plenty of ceremonial things people still do that are sexist as well.

Thanks for the info, Mimi!

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#84911 Apr 30, 2013
Leaving work in 45 minutes to babysit 2.5yo Rory and 1yo Hazel (I love those names). Rory apparently had a bad dream during her nap on Sunday and woke up refusing to let her dad near her, wouldn't go to the store with him, etc. For like an hour, just avoided him. Her mom couldn't get a 2.5yo to understand "dreams" v. "reality."

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#84912 Apr 30, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Your willingness to marry a Muslim doesn't make you a very good feminist.
This only underscores the fact that you are an ignorant racist fluck.

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#84913 Apr 30, 2013
Stina wrote:
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What did you do with the $2500???
I still have it.:D

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#84914 Apr 30, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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She earned every penny of it!
heh

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Since: Mar 09

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#84915 Apr 30, 2013
Toj wrote:
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It sounds like they really like a party.
Moroccans do for sure. I think they are a little more reserved and "traditional" (see the mutt's comments about feminism) in other cultures. <shrug> Of course he was born and raised in Casablanca. It's a BIG city (4+million people) and so is vert cosmopolitan. It's not like some little mountain tribe place in Afghanistan or somewhere. I can see a marriage there: ok we're married, go cook dinner. Pfffttt

Traditionally, in Morocco, a "new bride" (I feel way too old to be called a "bride") isn't expected to do anything domestic for the first month. Seriously all of his sisters and his mother were trying to do that for me. I just couldn't take advantage like that, but I could have and no one would have blinked. Although I wouldn't mind them coming here and doing all that stuff at my house NOW...
Toj wrote:
won't even comment on the $2500 thing since here in America there are plenty of ceremonial things people still do that are sexist as well.
Thanks for the info, Mimi!
So true. It's not really a "bride" price. It's a straight up gift, to keep even if there is a divorce. It's just supposed to be a no strings attached gift. He gave me some jewelry too. <shrug>

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#84916 Apr 30, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
This only underscores the fact that you are an ignorant racist fluck.
And THIS only underscores the fact you're a contradicting, hypocritical btch. Eh, typical liberal, no surprise.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#84917 Apr 30, 2013
Consider the source.Nicest compliment I have heard in a while Mimi.

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#84918 Apr 30, 2013
PEllen wrote:
Consider the source.Nicest compliment I have heard in a while Mimi.
Oh he so doesn't get under my skin. Kinda irks me from time to time, but mostly yeah...consider the source. Besides, I am way way way too busy recently to be worrying about some tin foil hat wearing conspiracy theory believing, tea party, racist. <shrug>

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Since: Mar 09

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#84919 Apr 30, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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And THIS only underscores the fact
Eyes on your own paper!

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Since: Feb 09

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#84920 May 1, 2013
I cant imagine why she unfriended you...
edogxxx wrote:
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And THIS only underscores the fact you're a contradicting, hypocritical btch. Eh, typical liberal, no surprise.

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